As a mum, have you lost a sense of self? Feel way older than you actually are? Wish you were not just labelled as a “housewife” or whatever but actually were valued for what you contribute to the world?
That is where I was about a year ago and I am by no means out of the woods yet. A group of us got together via Twitter and blogging to support each other on the unknown journey ahead. We have laughed and we have cried in the last year or so. I think we have worked out various things along the way.
1. That you have to be proactive if you want to change your life. Nobody is going to do it for you although as you start to make changes, many will respond positively and support you.
2. That if you feel a bit down at heel and knackered, you are so not alone so you already have a team of ready-made kindred spirits out there. You just need to find them.
3. That sometimes it will be a case of two steps forward and one step back. That is OK. You are still moving in the right direction and this is not a race to the finish line.
4. That it is probably healthier to say when you are struggling than to hide under the duvet or scuttle off after the nursery and school run.
5. That life events may throw up some painful curveballs. That is just the way of things. You can still move forwards.
6. That a woman’s lot can be a happy one but you will have to fight for it.
So I am relaunching what we called Groovy Mums as after the loss of my Dad, I need to take myself in hand again and get a grip.
Who knows? There may be other kindred spirits out there as well as the vintage ones. Let’s rock and roll!
So a little run down of the groovy stuff in my life right now.
1. I am now working for BritMums, the UK’s largest parent blogger network doing social media so you may well see me around on Twitter, Facebook and Google+ for them. I am also having fun pinning images on their Pinterest board.
Now before you think I am blogging glitterati, read back some of my older posts from around September last year when I was unemployed and living in a small village going slowly out of my mind. Groovy Mums can work in very unexpected ways for you.
2. I am making the time to read lots of blogs and that is helping me to make new online friends who are being a great support in the tricky days of grief for my Dad.
3. I actually sent a sexy text to my husband the other day. This does not happen usually. We are more of the “I love you” “Ditto” text merchants. The text backfired quite spectacularly. You see sometimes when you get your groove back, it is difficult for your loved ones to catch up with the new you.
4. I have just started a healthy eating plan. I need to take care of the physical me to get the mental and spiritual me on the right track.
Over to you. If you are making life changes or wondering if you should and you blog about it, I would love you to link up below but far more important is that you seize the day whilst it is yours.
You can find me on Twitter as @kateonthinice and when I tweet on what I am banging on about here, I will use hashtag #getgrooving Hope you do too.
Same time next week?