Reality strikes

I should not write this post.

I should be nice, calm and accepting.

The reality is that my heart is breaking because my best friend and husband left today.

He is starting a new life far away from us because that is the only hope we have.

He starts work tomorrow morning and has only just secured a bed for the night which is of course far from ideal.

My children say …

“Are you missing Daddy?”

“I will be as good as I can be whilst Daddy is away”

“We will get through this together”

Tomorrow we will get up and do the school run. Daddy will not come home tomorrow night. We do not know when we will see him again.

I just spoke to him on the telephone and I sobbed. I cried myself to sleep last night and tears are in the building right now.

He told me not get upset or he will and he can’t afford to do that because he has to start a new job in the morning.

Meanwhile we hear fromm his lovely ex-employer the Royal British Legion that welfare cases now take at least 8 weeks, much longer than they did when my husband was a County Welfare Officer for them for 7 long and loyal years. Yet they deemed him not good enough and put him on the scrap heap.

And I continue to say, shame on them!

I miss my husband. The children miss their Daddy.

So much for the claim that the Royal British Legion stand shoulder to shoulder with those who have served.

Oops, I did it again!

Angry, tearful and wondering what comes next.

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  1. Midlife Singlemum March 3, 2014 / 5:03 am

    He has a job so that’s one good thing. You miss each other so that’s another good thing. Maybe think of this in terms of four months to see how it pans out. You and the children could relocate next year or the year after if it makes more sense (depending on the ages of the children). This is a good thing – things are moving and you can make decisions based on money coming in. I wish your husband good luck in his job. xxx
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  2. angelfrouk March 3, 2014 / 8:28 am

    I know how you feel. I’ve worked away from home for a year. Had to travel back and forth whenever I had a few days off.
    It will get easier, trust me. But the first few times are so, so hard. Just remember that having a job is a good thing. Even if it means you are away from each other for a period. You will get through this.
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  3. Lou's Lake Views March 3, 2014 / 9:02 pm

    Aww honey, I didn’t realise your hubby was going alone I thought you would all go together. I guess it will take a while to get everything sorted after such a rough few months. I wonder if it would be help if you could set a date for you to visit hubby or him to come back for a weekend, at least then (no matter how far away it is) you will have a date to work to, something to tell the kids and for you all to look forward to. Not knowing when you will see him sounds so hard for you all. Sending virtual hugs x
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