The worst mother in the world?

Sarah is a mum who thinks she does not stand out and I beg to differ. If you agree, I hope you will leave a comment so she can read them and realise that she is more inspirational than she might believe.

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What is the striking story you have to share?

I was 17 when I had my first child. I battled slight depression but it was manageable. However when I was 22 I had my second child a complicated pregnancy and birth. It involved my son being born by emergency c-section. I had blood transfusions waiting and can’t remember much about being in theatre itself.

I became very protective of my son after that. I wouldn’t let anyone near him or accept any help. The health visitor started picking up on this and asked to me fill out a questionnaire. The same day I was sent to the hospital for an assessment as my mood was so low. They recommended I went into a mother and baby unit. I thought of my daughter at home and refused. I agreed I would see a health professional every day and take anti depressants.

What were the joys that this experience brought your way?

My son spent the first three years of his life in and out of hospital but seeing him smile or taking his first steps made everything seem ok. Watching my daughter grow up and start school showed me I was on the right track and doing the right things. At times I felt like I was the worst mother in the world and they would be better off without me. but They would give me a hug and my heart would melt and I knew I could never leave them.

What challenges did the situation bring?

The situation brought a lot of challenges. I lost a lot of friends as I didn’t want to go out and socialise with them. I didn’t speak to anyone else apart from the kids and my whole world revolved around them.

How do you find time for yourself?

Now I realise that time alone is equally important not only for me but for the kids too. I take time out when they are in bed either in my bed or in a long hot soak in a bath with a good book.

Have you ever rediscovered or reinvented yourself?

I eventually managed to get back into work and it helped me realise that I was an individual and not just mum. I could be both mum and Sarah.

What part of your body do you find beautiful?

I like my eyes. Your eyes can tell a person a thousand things without you needing to talk

What makes you stand out?

I don’t think I stand out .

Is it important for mums to support each other?

I think mums need to support each other. Something simple like a chat over a coffee can do wonders for that mum’s day and you might not even realise it.

Tell us about a mum who inspires you

My own mum inspires me. She went through a lot and showed me no matter what you can still come out the other side.

How would you like the next Government to help mums?

I would love to see the next government making it easier for mums to work with better childcare as it’s an issue I have. I struggle to work the hours I need with no childcare help.

Huge thanks to Sarah for showing courage and sharing her story. Please lend her your support.

4 Comments

  1. katie skeoch April 18, 2015 / 7:48 pm

    I had my first son at 18, he’s a strapping 17 year old now. Never underestimate how well you’ve done. Looking back I realise how hard it was being a mum so young & having so many people look down at you. Getting back to work & having your own identity outside home is so important. You’re doing it like a boss girl, well done xx

  2. Hannah April 20, 2015 / 9:22 pm

    I can identify with you so much Sarah and I can tell you do so stand out. You’ve come through such a hard thing, people should never underestimate any mental
    Health condition I really hope you are proud of yourself. I also had my first at just 18 and had my second at 21 I think (ha) I suffered PND after my first. I agree with your childcare comment too,parents need more support work or volunteering can do wonders but childcare is an issue xx
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