I blogged about my angst about my son being bullied at school the other day.
I feel calmer now and thanks everyone who commented and offered support. You can always rely on blog readers to give you that helping hand when you need it. I was humbled by the way some people shared their very personal stories. Thank you.
I contacted the school via email. The Head telephoned me just before lunchtime. Her opening line was “I have just spent another 2 hours on this”. Resisted the urge to say “Well, I am sorry but my son’s welfare is worth 2 hours of anybody’s time” or worse.
She said she had spoken to the children involved and stories did not match. In other words, the bullies deny saying what my son says they do.
She said she had spoken to the school bus driver and arranged that each child on the bus was to have a seat reserved for them to prevent arguments. This is probably a very good thing and will reduce any stress on the driver too.
She also said that she had told my son and the chief protaganist of the trouble not to speak to each other at all. I think this is a really bad approach. If I was a teacher, I would encourage them to work together on a mutual project or something that would make them laugh together.
The reality is that already my son reports that the boy in question is whispering at him and sending messages via other children. My son also says that the boy gives him the odd bit of physical hassle too.
I did not cope very well the other day. I have read the leaflet that my son brought home that he had found. It says to watch out for your own feelings being affected by your own experiences of bullying. I was bullied at work and at school so this probably explains how much emotional upheaval my son’s problems cause me. I don’t want him to suffer like I did. I want to nip it all in the bud but don’t know how.
The leaflet seems to suggest that although things can be done, if a bully really wants to bully a child, s/he will. What hope does that offer?
Is bullying just one of those sad facts of life?
The leaflet says I should ensure my child knows he is loved and valued. I do that already but will put in a lot of extra effort.
Sometimes, I am a baby and just wish the world was a very different place.