How do you cope with bullying at school?
On Friday, two of my three children got off the school bus in tears. They reported that their hair was pulled and they were sworn at.
My older son has now reported that one boy in particular is spreading rumours that our family is “lowlife” and that we are “tramps with no money”.
I have contacted the school about this. It is not the first time I have let the school know about incidents where I find my children got at by other pupils.
I can imagine that I am seen as a total pain. I know there is a school of thought that it is just playground banter and part of learning about life.
However, my oldest boy really takes things to heart and did not want to go to school this morning. He is having headaches for which the GP cannot find a cause. Is it stress?
As a mother, I am left again not quite knowing what to do or how much of a fuss to make. I do not want my children to be hurt either physically or mentally. Does that make me odd? Over-protective? Unrealistic?
One thing I do know is that I would be very ashamed if my children judged people by how much money they may or may not have. The reality is that my husband is in a good job with a reasonable wage. We are not wealthy but we are not poor either. If we were poor, it would not make us bad people either nor would it justify my children being bullied. If we are tramps, I do wonder why my washing machine is used quite so often.
My oldest boy is very bright. His teachers report that his general knowledge is vast. He is good at all subjects although struggles with handwriting and presenting his work. Is being intelligent still the sin that it was when I was at school? Will that ever change? I think it should and that there are learning tools that could make that happen in our education system.
We need to get to a point where being different (whether a newcomer to an area, someone who rents rather than owns a house, someone who is bright or has learning disabilities, someone who is black or white) is acceptable.
That is the bigger picture of course. Right now, I am just a Mum who hates my children being made unhappy, who does not know what to do for the best and who wishes there was a rulebook for motherhood (not for the first time either).
What I am relying on is that the blogosphere will come up with the wisdom it usually does.