Challenging Day And A Flagging Groovy Mum

I am not having the best of days.  I am feeling undervalued, taken for granted and a little abused.

After having 2 nights away with work this week,  Him Indoors announced this morning that he would be going in to work again as they are relocating offices. They have a removal firm but nope, Superman has to be there to sort out his office himself.  Unpaid to boot, wonderful! As we live out in the sticks and I don’t drive, all I could see was yet another day of being housebound and hemmed in.  It felt a little like he was taking the piss to be honest.

Anyway, with a choice between my company and work, work won so that is just the way that bloody fortune cookie crumbled this week.

I cannot remember volunteering to become a full-time housewife carrying the vast majority of childcare and cleaning.  As I recall, I was made redundant and have just never really got back into a decent flow since.

Anyway, the blog is a useful place to offload.  However, because I purport to be a Groovy Mum (don’t roll around laughing on the floor like that!), I am going to have a go at the challenges from this week.

1.  Healthy Breakfast – I have got back on track with the healthy eating generally.  Today, I felt so emotional but was determined not to give in and so breakfast was porridge and all the rest of my food was goody-two-shoed too. Well done me!

2. Fortune Cookie – This is what I want to find in it.  “You will find a paid role that utilises your writing and promotional skills and where you feel you are making a positive difference.  You will have a loving and faithful partner who wants to spend time with you and talk to you. He will appreciate all you do and comment on it regularly.  You will make at least one very good female friend that you can see and rely on in the real world.  Your children will keep in good health and continue to pursue their dreams.  Your dogs will stop moulting and your bins will never be full”

3.  Chinese New Year Animal – I am an Earth Monkey.  Here is what I am supposed to be like. 

THE EARTH MONKEY 1908 AND 1968

They are diligent, motivated individuals, honest and trustworthy. They are calm and collected, genuinely concerned for the betterment of others. They are serious about their occupations and their friendships and are more dependable than most. Earth Monkeys devote themselves completely to causes and people they love and believe in. They don’t have much of an ego because they are such genuine human beings. They demand respect and can pitch a fit if not shown what they believe they deserve”

Does this description ring true?  Certainly that last bit resonates loudly today.  Ask Him Indoors if I have thrown af fit all day and see what he says!  Bloody deserved it too, he did.

4. Blogging – Well, I am pleased to report the Charity Connections – Blogging It Forward group is going well with 53 bloggers joining in its first 5 days. There are some interesting discussions taking place. Check out this group and so much more at http://britmums.com

5. Special Day – Getting the new Britmums role was very important to me, a sense of light at the end of a very long tunnel. I don’t feel anyone in my close circle has wanted to celebrate this with me.  Perhaps I will just have a party for one.  I was hoping for a quality family day out today but Him Indoors had places he preferred to be without us.

6. Have I lost that loving feeling? Answers on a postcard ….

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Award-winning writer, blogger, social media consultant and charity campaigner. Social Media Manager for BritMums, the UK's largest parent blogging network Freelance clients include Firefly Communications and Save the Children UK. Works with brands on marketing projects. Examples include Visit Orlando, Give As You Live, Coca-Cola and Kodak. Cambridge Law graduate with many years experience working across three sectors in advice, media relations, events, training and project management. Available for hire at affordable rates.

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9 Comments


  1. *Fabulous*
    That’s just what you are :-)
    I’m up for celebrating you and your fantastic news. Lets grab a picnic, a couple of bottles of wine and set the world to rights!
    Nikki x

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  2. Sounds like a rubbish start to the weekend. I’m sure your husband didn’t see it as a choice between you and work though – men just seem to truly believe they’re indispensable. As for feeling undervalued, it can be hard when the life we’ve worked for changes so drastically, but don’t tie your feelings of self-worth in to how much you earn (though if you can get a paid job you love then great!) When I feel frustrated I remind myself that when I’m retired (God willing) I’ll be happier to look back and remember being with my children for the few precious years when they were small than look back and realise I managed to work as much as possible but missed so much.

    I hope you get your groove back tomorrow.

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  3. This is exactly why you are such a grooving inspiration. I’m pretty sure sure there isn’t a woman in the world who would read this and not recognise something. Well done on the good food choices and the slogging on.
    Also I’d give one of my rapidly falling out eye teeth for a bottomless bin… :)

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  4. Hi Kate

    Cheer up kid, seems to me you have lots to looks forward to. Some excellent bits coming up that you will revel in. I’ve never felt possessive of my husband before we had Maisy & now I have a full in strop if he arranges anything on te weekends! I find it do difficult to be reasonable. And I’ve chosen to be a stay at home mum. I just feel I’ve been entertaining, cleaning, feeding & nurturing this bloody child for 5 days, like he’ll are you leaving me for another 2! Ah well, keep letting off steam here, it makes for a great read x x x

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  5. Lets have a blog party to celebrate your good fortunes. Can really empathise with feeling trapped indoors! Loved your fortune cookie predictions!

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  6. Sorry to hear you are feeling a bit low after the great piece of Britmums news this week. I am raising a virtual glass to you right now. Cheers! To your onward success as a fabulous writer..this is just the beginning I’m sure. x

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  7. Oh Lovely, really hope today has been better for you. I’m having a drink, for my birthday, but also thinking of you- I’ll celebrate with you. Well done and keep grooving!

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