Why Am I Struggling?

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I keep putting off writing this post.  It is great to report good news on the weight loss front. I can’t do that this week.

Despite good intentions, I can’t seem to get msyelf back into my healthy eating routine.  Last year, I found it easy and saw the weight drop off.  Since my birthday in mid-December, I seem to have gone off track.

I am still eating healthy foods some of the time.   However, I can make all sorts of excuses for eating the fattening stuff. 

“I have to eat cheese and biscuits when having a romantic night with Him Indoors”

“I have to eat cheesecake if it is in the fridge”

“I have to eat what is put in front of me if I am invited to a meal”

Of course, then the negative self-talk starts and Ihit the fridge again.

This will sound crazy but I actually think that losing so much last year (not loads but enough to see  a physical difference) shook me up a bit. I look different. It takes some getting used to even though I have stones and stones still to lose.

How do I get myself re-motivated?

Well, there is Britmums Live  in June which is not too far away and I would like to be slimmer by then.

There is my college reunion in September and as I was size 10 when I left, I would prefer to be no more than a size 14 by then.

There is the fact that when I do well I inspire others.

There is the fact that I don’t want me knee to start being in pain again.

There is the fact that I don’t want that sinking feeling when my clothes get too tight or don’t fit.

So far, all my size 16 and 18 clothes fit me as they did.  I am lucky but that luck will run out.

Oh, now I get it,  I need to get back on track.

Starting when?  Right now, tomorrow, next week?

If  you have any advice, tips, experiences or words of wisdom for me,  please do leave a comment as I am really struggling.

Linking up as the naughty girl with #mumentum over on the wonderful New Mum Online blog.  http://newmumonline.blogspot.com/2012/01/mumentum-mums-losing-mum-tums-monday.html

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  1. I’ve had exactly the same experience and I’m sure a lot of people have over / since the Christmas period. I’ve come to the conclusion that I am just making excuses, because that’s exactly what I’m doing, and I just need to stop. I’m making myself look like a five year old who’s been caught doing something they shouldn’t and is trying to get out of it. I don’t think that’s an attractive look on me. So, I’m making my diet much plainer (they say too much choice can cause problems and what the hell, I’ve tried everything else!), trying to keep myself busy to keep my mind off eating, and finally, taking 100mcg (micrograms) chromium a day which someone else recommended as a way to combat sugar cravings. When I went to the health food shop to buy some the assistant (who seemed quite knowledgeable) said something along the lines of “I assume you want it to curb hunger”. Well, I’d never heard of that use for it, but I have to say it does take the edge off. Always worth a go, unless there’s a good medical reason why you shouldn’t. Only been back on track for a couple of days, so can’t say how effective it’s going to be long term, but every little helps, as they say. Good luck! Getting your mind in the right place is certainly the hardest part by far – the rest should be plain sailing. Polly x

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  2. Ah, had to comment! Obviously first thing is not to beat yourself up about it.
    Of course life is too short not to eat the foods you like, but also far too short to spend lots of it worrying about your weight. I know how time consuming and miserable it is!
    My lovely friend who is a hypnotherapist who specialises in weight loss suggests that instead of going on complicated diets or seeing your weight loss as a chore/project/problem etc to just make ‘lifestyle tweaks’.
    So eat as you would, go about your business, but make minor changes that aren’t too hard but you can stick to. For example mine are:
    One less bottle of wine a week, put my son’s leftovers straight into the bin, have a takeaway every other week not every week, no biscuits with morning tea.
    Easy, those simple changes that I haven’t even noticed have already lost me about 200-300 calories a day I think?

    It works for me because I am unable to stick to a diet for more than a week!
    Good luck x

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  3. Right, my top tips (because I’ve been there and it’s bloody hard!)
    1) don’t buy the stuff you shouldn’t be eating. Cheese makes you chubby? Biscuits make you balloon? Don’t buy them. If they’re not within reach you won’t eat them. It took me a good few weeks to completely stop buying cheese but now I have, I noticed the difference on the scales really quick.
    2) water water water water. You should be drinking 8 tall glasses a day. Water curbs hunger, it flushes out toxins, makes your head clearer, your skin brighter and is just the best thing in the world.
    3) I really think you would like myfitnesspal. There’s an app if you have an iPhone but I just use the website. I’m Jugsie23 on there. I log all my food and it’s brilliant to see where I was going wrong. I wasn’t getting enough calcium for example and this website helped me. I’ve made loads of friends on there and they are all so encouraging. I’ve joined some groups too who set daily fitness challenges which is very motivating. Like me, you seem to be online a lot. Give it a go. I think you’ll love it.
    4) move your arse. Even if it’s just a walk round the block. It’s moving your arse. Fitness DVDs are great too – do them in your front room before everyone else gets up and you kick start your day.
    5) come up with a motto. Mine is “no excuses”. I nicked it off Eliz_in_pink on Myfitnesspal. She has lost 90lbs in a year through sheer willpower, hard work and the above tips. It works! Keep saying it to yourself every morning.
    6) plan your meals. Costs loads less, you waste less food and if you ‘fail to prepare’ you ‘prepare to fail’. I like knowing exactly what is for dinner. It keeps me focused on the way home when I am starving and I avoid the vending machines in the train station because I know exactly what delicious meal I have planned (and sometimes ready in the slow cooker) for when I get home.
    7) weigh yourself once a month. Measure yourself too. The scales don’t always reflect your efforts kindly and can discourage you. For example, I was disappointed in only losing 1lb this week after monster efforts on the exercise front. Yet, measure myself and I’ve lost 8 inches all over – in a week! Scales are evil.
    8) congratulate yourself every day. It’s bloody hard this weight loss and fitness lark. You’re doing an amazing job just having the motivation to change.

    Good luck! Xxx

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  4. Storm in a K cup Gemma

    Right, my top tips (because I’ve been there, I’m STILL there, and it’s bloody hard!)
    1) don’t buy the stuff you shouldn’t be eating. Cheese makes you chubby? Biscuits make you balloon? Don’t buy them. If they’re not within reach you won’t eat them. It took me a good few weeks to completely stop buying cheese but now I have, I noticed the difference on the scales really quick.
    2) water water water water. You should be drinking 8 tall glasses a day as a MINIMUM. Water curbs hunger, it flushes out toxins, makes your head clearer, your skin brighter and is just the best thing in the world.
    3) I really think you would like myfitnesspal. There’s an app if you have an iPhone but I just use the website. I’m Jugsie23 on there. I log all my food and it’s brilliant to see where I was going wrong. I wasn’t getting enough calcium for example and this website helped me. I’ve made loads of friends on there and they are all so encouraging. I’ve joined some groups too who set daily fitness challenges which is very motivating. Like me, you seem to be online a lot. Give it a go. I think you’ll love it.
    4) move your arse. Even if it’s just a walk round the block. It’s moving your arse. Fitness DVDs are great too – do them in your front room before everyone else gets up and you kick start your day.
    5) come up with a motto. Mine is “no excuses”. I nicked it off Eliz_in_pink on Myfitnesspal. She has lost 90lbs in a year through sheer willpower, hard work and the above tips. It works! Keep saying it to yourself every morning.
    6) plan your meals. Costs loads less, you waste less food and if you ‘fail to prepare’ you ‘prepare to fail’. I like knowing exactly what is coming up for dinner. It keeps me focused on the way home when I am starving and I avoid the vending machines in the train station because I know exactly what delicious meal I have planned (and sometimes ready in the slow cooker) for when I get home.
    7) weigh yourself once a month. Measure yourself too. The scales don’t always reflect your efforts kindly and can discourage you. For example, I was disappointed in only losing 1lb this week after monster efforts on the exercise front. Yet, measure myself and I’ve lost 8 inches all over – in a week! Scales are evil.
    8) congratulate yourself every day. It’s bloody hard this weight loss and fitness lark. You’re doing an amazing job just having the motivation to change.

    Good luck! Xxx

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  5. I think the worst thing one can do when preparing to eat healthily is to say ‘the diet starts tomorrow’ or ‘I’ll have this today then I’ll be good tomorrow.’

    You’ll just keep putting it off. It starts here, right now. No tomorrow.

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  6. Claire

    Gee up lady…you’re doing so well with your Britmum’s new role, Groovy Mums and everything else. Don’t give up on this! I feel the same way (about exercise) and am just making excuses, doing nothing and thinking I’ll start tomorrow and feeling full of self-hatred when another week passes and I’ve done nothing.
    I don’t have any great pearls of wisdom I’m afraid, but two things I would suggest are:
    Water – or herbal teas- if you like them. A lot of the time hunger pangs are through simply just not drinking enough water. So make sure you drink lots.
    I always have seedless red grapes in the fridge. They taste delicious cold (to me anyway) and I can eat a bunch like sweets. These are my pudding.
    Keep the faith. You CAN do it! x

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  7. I’ve started reading a book on my (new!) Kindle about ‘not dieting’ and it was quite interesting, I too have struggled with getting back into the healthy life style, but one thing it said was only to eat when you are hungry, if you think you are hungry do something else for 7 mins and have a drink, then if you are still hungry eat, if not then that is good. Its about re-training our bodies (apparently) or something like that. Its called Lose Weight WITHOUT Dieting (Animal Kingdom Workouts) by David Nordmark. Only read a few pages, and no idea if it will work long term, but possibly worth a try.

    The main thing though is to have faith in yourself, and tell yourself you can and will do this, but if you need a couple of weeks to get round all the new stuff that is happening thats ok. X

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  8. Singlemarriedmum

    I know what you mean! It’s getting started again, but getting started in the right frame of mind which is the hard bit. I have very little willpower when it comes to food and have never been any good at diets. It sounds like you’ve done amazingly well already, but maybe hard to get the momentum going again? One thing that has definitely helped me is having an earlier evening meal. I used to eat at 9, often later, having already picked at the kids food. Now I eat with the kids or before 7 and have lost a bit of weight. I know this mightn’t suit everyone. I still get hungry later on but try to stick to yogurt, nuts, raisins or fruit. Not always successful, especially if there’s a bag of wine gums lurking in the cupboard! All the very best and I’ll keep checking in to see how you’re doing. x

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  9. I can really empathise with you – my diet is so off track – I am constantly comfort eating and eat out of habit whatever is put in front of me!

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  10. Do you know what? I bet people will see you as YOU, not as someone who needs to lose weight – so stop worrying about losing it in time for events! If you feel uncomfortable at your current weight, then do it for yourself. I’m a size 16, bigger than I’ve ever been. But I’m still me inside.

    CJ x

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  11. I’d say don’t buy the cheesecake even if its on offer. Try almonds and hazelnuts to curb sweet tooth. Try cottage cheese instead of other cheeses and if all else fails count the calories of what you eat every day in your food diary (don’t have one get one) it will give you make you aware of how much work will be required to burn up what you just ate. Give yourself on treat per week but if you really really want that cheesecake or chocolate share it with someone, less calories and you still have a ‘sneaky’ treat ;0)

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  12. It’s so hard to get that mindset back in order to lose weight. My experience has been that an initial successful few days can kick of the motivation as I begin to feel better. You may just have to be strong willed at the beginning – and I knw how difficult that is. Good luck.

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  13. I read once that if you eat an apple before all meals it either a) fills you up or b) helps with quicker digestion..cant remember which, you could google it

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  14. he he you have taken my job as the naughty one.
    you’ll “get in the groove” you always do
    xxx

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  15. Oh me too! Adding a tattle ticker to my blog helps keep me better on track.

    Thanks so much for joining Flock Together last week at Mom’s Best Nest . I am now your happy follower and look forward to reading your posts.

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  16. have you tried the slim pods at Thinking Slimmer, they really do work and me and others have blogged about them….

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  17. I think that once I reached the point of understanding ‘being nice to myself’ didn’t mean having a cake/chocolate or whatever things got easier. We don’t have that many ‘goodies’ in the house and all my baking ingredients are tucked away and don’t tempt me. I just find it incredibly hard when I’m so tired I don’t want to stand up to cook – and then go freezer diving…

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