I am a rich woman!
I was talking to man at my college reunion who told me “I am not a rich man, Kate”. After joking that I had only sat with him in the hope he could pay my gas bill, I smiled to myself. My old college peer will be far wealthier than me. He came from a wealthy (in my terms) family. He has a successful career in a sector where money is made. He reminded me that poverty and riches are always relative.
I knew that there was a blog post in this but decided to write it today after a woman I was at college with me told me it looked like I had a happy and fulfilled life. It has taken many years but I think she is right.
I am a rich woman because …
1. Today is the 46th anniversary of my adoptive parents picking me up and taking me home. They gave me a loving and secure home and their legacy lives on through myself and my children.
2. I have a husband who loves me. By his own admission, he sometimes does not get things right. However, I can’t claim I do either and we are still here 17 years on looking out for one another as best we can and know how.
3. I know I have made a difference to people throughout my life. I have saved at least one life. I have done loads of charity work. I have given people hope and am told I can be inspirational. That sounds like a pretty rich life to me.
4. I have my beautiful oldest son, so intelligent, sensitive and caring. He questions authority and there is nothing wrong with that. Such people change the world for the better.
5. I have my stroppy, striking and creative daughter. She reminds me that life is beautiful because she sees the shape and colour in everything.
6. I have my youngest son who is wise beyond his years. He shares his older brother’s good qualities and adds a charisma all of his own. He is the chalk to our cheese in many ways but that makes him an essential individual in our family.
7. When I was nervous about my college reunion knowing I don’t have the sort of lifestyle that many of my peers do, a shop assistant gave me some wisdom. “You are still alive – that is a success in itself”. I am rich to have met that man on that day as it really helped me get through the doors to college and you know what, he is so right. I have overcome rejection, social anxiety (ish!), depression, grief and isolation.
8. I am that bit different. I chose a different path even when it did mean I would be less financially secure and put me in hot water sometimes.
9. Through blogging and social media, I connected with others and reinvented myself job-wise. Just like Madonna, I wear my underwear on the outside and got into the groove.
10 Friends are there for me when I hit a crisis – friends from school, college, workplaces and online connections.
11. My mental and physical wellbeing are so much better than just a year ago.
12. I achieved my dream of living by the sea.
We all have our problems and talking to people at college made me realise that. If you have several properties, you worry about the ones you are not at. If you have staff, they can cause troublesome issues. If you have a lot of money, can you ever be really sure that your partner is with you for anything but your dosh? Riches won’t stop your partner cheating on you, you or family members getting ill and as my dear mum told me many years ago, you can’t take money and possessions with you.
I would still like my rich friends to pay my bills but I will settle for the riches I have got.
Are you a rich woman and how?