Dear Kate On Thin Ice
I am emailing you to tell you why you should not get a single nomination for a Britmums Brilliance in Blogging Awards 2012.
Firstly, the name of your blog is annoying. A silly play on words which you admit was inspired by reality television. If you must blog, your mind should be in higher places that the latest Sunday night ITV hit. Bloggers should be intellectual types or not bother.
Secondly, you host that Groovy Mums blog hop thing. I hate the word “groovy” which reminds me of the ghastly decade of the Seventies. My dear, we have moved on from those days. Having said that, to encourage mums to devise a life of their own when they have young children to care for is scandalous. Mums should give up their interests when they have children. If you couldn’t do that, you should not have become a mother in the first place.
Perhaps the main thing that irritates me about your blog is what you call openess and I call over-sharing. What makes you think we want to know about your thoughts and feelings? How very arrogant of you. We really don’t care. Please keep your emotional struggles and dark days to yourself. We don’t want to hear about them. How many times must we hear that your blog was the idea of your late mother? That woman has a lot to answer for.
You are also supposed to develop a niche if you want blogging success and yet you have a confusing content ranging from charity shop finds to recipes. We never know whether you will be posting pictures of your children or ranting about the role of women in society. The constant banging on about charities gets a little wearing too.
The sheer audacity that led to you taking off your clothes on your “Who is Kate and Why Is She On Thin Ice?” page leads me to believe you must be the weirdest of exhibitionists and this from a woman purports to lack self-confidence.
Reeling from a naked picture of you that I really didn’t need or want to see, I was bombarded with your “What Are My Skills and Experiences?” post. Why would we be interested in those? We all have them you know. You are not all that.
I pity those good bloggers whose blog hops you join in with regularly. I imagine they hate seeing that stupid blog name pop up on their linkies and if they look at your posts at all, read with their hands over their eyes as to what nonsense you will be coming out with this time. The same thing will apply to those poor souls whose blogs you read and comment on.
Might I suggest that instead of putting the pink badge on your blog sidebar in the vain hope that someone will nominate you for a Britmums Brilliance in Blogging Award, you close the blog down altogether and go and make Victoria Sandwich for those poor children of yours.
A Blogger With Boundaries and Brainpower.
1. I am living in the country and blue skies have returned. At the weekend, we all got out on the land in our quest to grow our own vegetables. We have over 1 acre of land so it seems a shame to just have it going to waste. It was lovely to see the boys leaving their X Box behind to get out in the fresh air to dig and plant. My daughter turned out to be the keenest of gardeners and second in command to her Dad. To date, we have planted potatoes, parsnips, carrots, onions and tomatoes. We also have herbs growing on the windowsill in the kitchen. Is this the Good Life?
2. Him Indoors is doing really well on the stop smoking front. He has had two cigarettes since Ash Wednesday. Even if he has sneaked in others that I don’t know about, there is no doubt that he has cut down massively.
3. I have managed to put together a pirate outfit for the school’s World Book Day celebrations. It is always better when you feel you are passing muster as a vaguely adequate mummy. My oldest son refuses to dress up. My youngest son has invited me into a special reading event at his school.
4. My oldest son has committed to revising for his SATS, my daughter got a certificate of achievement and my youngest son is showing real panache for reading and spellings.
5. I seem to be getting more organised on all fronts and getting more done too. I have cut out the booze almost completely and am back to healthy eating which I am sure helps in terms of energy.
6. I had an unexpected trip to the Big Town yesterday and did some fun charity-shopping. Thank you Dad.
7. I am continuing to love my role co-ordinating the Charity Connections – Blogging It Forward group over on Britmums. It is lovely to be in contact with so many good causes and so many kind-hearted bloggers.
8. This week, I have reached out to offer support to friends and also received support from friends, bloggers and mummy networks. It feels like a nice balance.
9. I understand that several people have kindly nominated me for the Britmums Brilliance in Blogging Awards. Although I am not hung up on blogger star status, it is lovely to know that people enjoy reading you enough to want to take time out of their day to acknowledge you. Find out more here http://www.britmumsblog.com/bib-awards/
10. Him Indoors is really having success with his psoriasis treatement. It is so lovely to not have to deal with all the flakes in the bed, on the carpet and so on. It is great to see him not wracked with pain too but psoriasis is a condition that affects the wider family so it is good to see him getting it under control.
11. have a sense that things are going to continue to improve for me in terms of carving a role out for myself external to the family. I am so looking forward to the next chapter …
Linking up as usual with Michelle over on the Mummy from the Heart blog at http://mdplife.blogspot.com where you will find lots of very happy bloggers sharing their tales of joy.
It is Monday so here is my little report on how the weight loss is going for me.
I have not got weighed as I refuse to be enslaved by the scales. I will get on them when it suits me which is not today.
I must start measuring again though. Isn’t it odd how Christmas disrupts things well into the New Year?
I have eaten healthily on the whole this week. Having good foods in the house is the key I think.
I have also exercised if you count a whole lot of digging the land as contributing to getting fit. It certainly helped me feel muscles in weird and wonderful places. I did not expect to enjoy it but I loved it. Wonderful to dig and then see just how much progress you are making. We have planted potatoes, carrots, parsnips and onions so far. Funnily enough, these are all healthy so will be contributing to my weight loss journey later in the year.
I am not quite into the swing of things on this journey as I was last year. However, the children are back to school today so I can concentrate on me for a while on this front as well as others.
Linking you with more lovely mums doing their utmost to lose their mummy tums over on the New Mum Online blog.
I am later than usual listing my reasons to be cheerful this week.
I have had a very mixed week with some real lows but I am still here sustained by great friendship and support from those angels masquerading as human beings out there. Let me give a shout out right now to my step-daughter, my blogger friends, my Groovy Mums, a former colleague and her daughter who I knew when she was about 10 but is now clearly a very feisty and wise woman indeed. If I have not yet responded to you, it is only because I am reflecting very deeply on what you have said. I really do appreciate you reaching out to me.
I actually feel very much back on the up so here is the lovely stuff this week.
1. I have visited the cinema twice in one week seeing 2D and 3d films with the children and Him indoors. There is something so much more exciting about going to the pictures than watching a film on the telly.
2. Half Term has gone OK on the whole with little in the way of sibling squabbling and the more challenging parts of holidays. Baking, gardening, soft play centre and shopping have all featured to good effect. Him Indoors took time off work which makes it all a lot easier.
3. Today, I received my formal invitation to become a Trustee of the Local Voluntary and Community Services organisation. This will get me some evenings away from the house and test my little old brain too. It will be great to make connections in what looks like it is now very much where we want to settle for now.
4. My Dad has bought the children commemorative coins for the Queen’s Jubilee thingy. It is such a lovely thought and they will be treasured for a lifetime I am sure. Dad is so thoughtful and I am lucky to have him.
5. My work on the Charity Connections Blogging It Forward group over on Britmums is going really well. So many charities and good causes are keen to be involved which is really heartening. Bloggers are also both joining the group and working out which causes might appeal to them most. It is all good. Two bloggers will be attending a celebrity event this weekend so it is a fun thing to get involved with. Find out more over on http://britmums.com
6. I have sorted out a little niggling financial issue.
7. Him Indoors is trying to give up smoking for Lent and does not seem to be doing all that badly even if I know he is sneaking the odd one. Cutting down is something to celebrate. I have also made a Lenten promise but can’t tell you what it is without breaking the promise.
8. I am very much back on track on the healthy eating front.
I think that will do for now.
Pop over to http://mdplife.blogspot.com and see some more folks telling you just why they have smiles pinned on their faces.
There are always positives even in the darkest weeks so do consider giving Reasons To Be Cheerful a go too.
When I was at home with the children during the day, I used to dream and plan what I would do when they went to school. Those would be the days of freedom and of moving my life forwards.
When my youngest son started school, I was advised to just relax for a year. Looking back, I don’t think that was the best advice.
When you have had years and years of your life consisting only of cleaning and childcare, rediscovering yourself is a challenge.
You have the day available from half past eight in the morning until a quarter to four in the afternoon. Hours when you could be doing something constructive. So why does it not happen?
It might sound extreme but apparently when lifers (prisoners with life sentences) go from closed conditions to open prisons, many refuse to go very far at all in the prison grounds never mind further afield. Their comfort zone has become limited after years of confinement. They can only take a few steps day by day. Having worked in prisons, this is not me talking daft by the way. It is a recognised phenomena. I think this happens to some stay at home mums too when presented with time and freedom.
On Coronation Street this week, Katie said how she could not even remember what music she liked after just a few weeks of parenting. What happens 2 years, 5 years or 10 years later?
In September, I set up Groovy Mums and that has certainly helped me move forwards. Whether it has helped others seems a little unclear to me at the moment.
So there is progress but there are too many days that drift. Today and this is very unusual these days, I stayed in my pyjamas until 4 in the afternoon. Nothing to do, nowhere to go, why bother? I dug deep and now am changed into clean clothes and smelling rather lovely if I do say so myself.
I wonder whether I should set myself timetables for day like I would if I was in a job. Otherwise, it is way too easy for life to consist of housework and daytime telly.
Even when I think about writing the timetable, it feels daunting. How do I fill my days with positive things? Which is odd because I know I want to walk, exercise, read, plan a business and so on.
Does anyone else have days that just seem to drift away with nothing much achieved? How can that be changed?
She was there again yesterday. She turns up wherever I go. She has no means of knowing where I am headed but she is usually there. I take this as destiny working its magic.
I know her a little bit. She is one of the mums from my children’s school. We have done two after-school classes in the same group. She is the one who would smile encouragingly when I misbehaved or made political statements.
I can tell she is a little irreverent and incorrigible. That appeals to me. She is smart and sassy but obviously not up herself either.
I heard her mouth the word “wanker” about an idiot at a school event. She did it so subtly and sort of in my direction. Perhaps she likes me as much as I like her.
Him Indoors thinks I am daft. He says I will still be referring to her as my best friend who isn’t yet in 2 years time.
As for me, I think one day we will be thrown together for a length of time and become buddies.
Do you ever have that sense that you have met a kindred spirit?
When I got home, I had an email from a mum I got to know a little bit 2 years ago. I have not heard from her for over 18 months. I am hoping she might turn into another best friend that isn’t yet. She must have remembered me and made contact for some reason.
Then there are the bloggers I might meet very soon.
I may go from zero real-life friends to countless wonderful ones soon. Wouldn’t that be lovely?
It is important to post about my weight loss journey even on the bad weeks. Overall, it helps to keep me on track.
I have not had the greatest week. I think when you are months into the weight loss thing, it can get a bit boring.
When bored in whatever way, it is so easy to eat all the fattening foods. I have also over-induldged on the booze front which tends to lead to low moods.
However, there is a commitment to do better and to forgive myself when I have a blip week
I have done a big internet shop buying in lots of very good food in terms of fruit, vegetables and other healthy meal alternatives. This is good as it will stop me being tempted when out and about with my Dad at the supermarket. Knowing I have full fridges, freezers and cupboards will stop me making daft purchases.
I still can’t seem to nail the exercise thing. I want to make it a habit as it will help me get out more and also is reputed to give you a surge of those feel-good endorphin type things which I can certainly do with.
How do you change from couch potato to exercise babe?
These days, I don’t get down-hearted by falling off the wagon on the healthy eating for a while as I know this is a long-haul journey and will succeed in the end. It is still also important to note all the weight lost so far and baggy trousers.
Which leads to me another point. How come since I have lost weight every item of clothing I fancy in the charity shop is a size 20 or above? Who said life was fair?
For mums who are jogging along in an attempt to lose their mum tums, check out #mumentum on the New Mum Online blog. Read all about it by clicking here http://newmumonline.blogspot.com/2012/02/mumentum-lose-your-mum-tum-in-2012.html