I am indulging in some positive thinking for mum.

Not too many days ago, I was feeling a bit blue as the fatigue and disruption of the house move took its toll. Today, I feel that I have emerged from that and am moving forwards positively in our new life in Hampshire.

1. I think the marital spark may have disappeared a bit whilst we were living apart. So I took action and asked my husband on a date night. OK so we had the children with us but we took a break from unpacking boxes and went out for an evening meal at a local pub. We enjoyed it so much that we spent the next two nights out and about too. We seem more like a couple again. It can’t be all work and no play and I intend to ensure there is plenty of play in this new chapter.

2. The children are playing out and making new friends. This is helping them settle into the new area and will help when they start at school with already established friends.

3. My oldest son has realised he can retain his friends from Yorkshire even though we have moved. He is happier as a result.

4. We have all our belongings here now although we had to give things away or send them to the tip as we have moved from a big house to a small one. Fortunately, the space here is good in terms of storage so a lot of things don’t need unpacking just yet.

5. After a blip, we have managed to get the washer plumbed in today which is a huge relief. You take these things for granted until they aren’t there.

6. I have been enjoying getting to grips with a new piece of work.

7. For the first time in ages we have felt able to go out and buy things without stressing so I have a new value hoover from Argos which is superb, a new rug to protect the carpet near the back door and a new kettle. The last purchased was not planned but after somehow getting blue dye in the old one, I could not face a coffee from it again.

8. I found the knickers I lost in the house move along with the bag of my son’s clothing that had also gone missing in the move.

9. I got an email from school today so hopefully we can arrange a quick return for the children who are clearly getting bored and ready to return to education.

10. I have found my Dad’s memoirs so will be posting more of those soon.

11. There is a Bank Holiday weekend coming up giving us the chance to explore the stunning countryside round here and also to see the sea.

12. The week was polished off nicely with news that I am shortlisted in the Inspire category of the Brilliance in Blogging Awards.

What are my New Year’s revolutions?

My daughter has stated that we do not have resolutions in this house, we have revolutions and I quite like that rebranding of an old idea.

Despite our current situation being so insecure, I do think I need to focus on me a little too.

1. I am going to start to believe it when people say I am a beautiful soul, inspirational or amazing.  It is disrespectful to those people to not allow them to praise when they wish to do so.  What I will say is that there are many women with such qualities out there.  Sometimes, I think it is only the fact that I took my clothes off (sort of) that led to me having increased visibility.  However, I do some good things and I do genuinely care about other people.  If people want to use those adjectives about me, perhaps I can harness that in some way and do something truly inspirational this year.

2. I am giving up drinking alcohol at least for a while.  It is important to remember that it is fundamentally a depressant so in challenging times, it is easy to lean on but then it affects the mood and makes me a little crazy.  I don’t need that.  Nor do my family.

3. I am going to get back to healthy eating and join in with @AutismMumma’s weekly weight loss linky “Wobbles Wednesday”.  I know I can lose weight.  I know how to do it.  Let’s get on with it!

4. I am going to write a novel and will start today.  I have the idea and I think it could really take off and be popular.  I would like anyone to suggest ways to help me stick with this and to let me know of any information and advice networks on writing.  I quite fancy entering writing competitions too.

5. I am going to find  a way of making friends that I can see in the real world.  Most of my friends are online or far-flung.  That is great but I need to see people sometimes or it all gets a bit lonely and intense.  I am very shy by  nature and that holds me back way too much.

6. I am going to celebrate family members who are no longer with us.  I am sharing aspects of my Mum this week.  I also have a big project around getting my Dad’s naval memoirs from the forties published if only on this blog.  If anyone has any other ideas on helping them reach an audience, let me know.

7. I am going to write a small manual for the house with systems in it so that things don’t slide.  I have started insisting that I get more help with chores and so far this is already showing very positive effects in the house.

8. I think this might not happen but it will be interesting to see whether it can.  I would like to travel overseas again this year.

9. I am going to proactively reach out to people for writing and social media assignments.

10. I am going to re-establish Groovy Mums for mums who want to take a little control back about how their lives develop and to encourage new interests and ways of being.  I learned a lot from doing this before and the new Groovy Mums will retain the great things it had before and develop in new ways too.  There will be a post shortly for those who fancy taking part.

Is that revolutionary enough?