My children have two uncles on my side and 2 aunties and an uncle on their father’s side.
One uncle on my side threatened to make them homeless during the Summer. He did not actually have the power to implement the threat but I am stating now that this was not good enough. My late Mum used to get cards and gifts for my children and say they were from him. Now, he manages to toss some money in my direction for my son’s birthday and actually took my 84 year old Dad’s birthday card for my son because my son does just not matter enough for him to go and get one himself.
My son turned 6 last week and my other brother caused huge shock by sending a card and a ten pound note for him probably because my Dad had visited him recently and reminded him. He sees my children around once a year. I am stating now that this lack of involvement in my children’s lives is not good enough.
The uncle on my husband’s side has seen my children once at our wedding 3 years ago. Why my husband wanted him at the wedding in the first place after his long silence I do not know but there we have it. This uncle runs a school so his total lack of interest in my children is not good enough. I wonder what the fee-paying parents of his religious school would think of his rejection of 3 innocents.
The aunties have never seen my children. One has never acknowledged their existence and the other only once.
I can accept just about that these aunties and uncles may not wish to spend time with myself and my husband. However, I want to state that I think it is wrong of them to mistreat my children.
I also want to state that anyone who meets my children is very lucky. They are caring, sensitive, funny, intelligent lovelies. Everyone says how well-mannered they are and how popular they are with children and adults alike.
This year, I am going to make my Christmas cards out of a family portrait and send it to all but one of the uncles. Let them face up to what they are missing. I know it is absolutely their loss but just for once, I wanted to say out loud, this is not good enough behaviour.
Originally posted 2011-11-09 18:10:04.