So the Royal Baby is imminent and I am so pleased I am this Kate and not that one.
When I had my first child, it was all about the baby, myself and my partner. The only other people involved in my labour were the amazing midwives and they backed off where possible.
I loved how even though there was the pain of childbirth, there was also a celebratory feel. It was a sort of mixture of “Didn’t we do well?” combined with awe at the whole way such a dozy act as sex can result is something quite so amazing.
My labour went on for days but the hospital bit lasted from the early hours until 11.02am when my son entered the world and changed it forever. I was so caught up in the whole experience that I did not know what time of day it was at all and sort of became aware as he was born. A new baby, a new boy and a new day.
Compare all that intimacy and privacy with the media circus surrounding Kate and her baby. I am a bit old-fashioned. I remain uncomfy with the whole idea of plastering pictures of your insides all over your social networks. I was very picky who I showed my scan photos restricting the honour to close members of the immediate family.
I remember been so angry that someone announced the gender of my baby to his half-sister before we could let her know ourselves.
I remember having to dig deep to even consider letting baby’s half-sister’s schoolfriend and my partner’s boss come to visit us in hospital.
With Kate beyond telling us just how many centimetres she was dilated at any given moment, her birth has become public property. In twenty-odd years time when the new Royal Baby become a parent, we will probably be live-streaming the whole birth! Who wants to start their journey in the world as a hashtag?
So yes, they had a decent car to arrive at the hospital rather than an old banger that broke down on the way as in my case.
Yes, they will not struggle financially as we have sometimes.
They will be judged with everyone thinking they have a right to an opinion. Sadly, mums are never deemed quite good enough in society and most of us don’t have to live under the scrutiny surrounding Kate. You could already sense people turning on her for not getting pregnant soon enough and now for taking too long to produce the baby. Give the woman a break. She has behaved like a machine in terms of doing most things perfectly since taking on her role. I don’t know how she does it to be honest as a modern woman. I know I am way too gobby and too much the rebel to ever be a company wife let alone a princess.
She will never escape. I recently read Diana’s mothering skills criticised and so many years after her tragic early death.
I will settle for being this Kate. Privilege comes with a huge cost attached and it is one I would not want to pay.
P.S. This blog may be late as the world is watching and apparently a flag has gone up at Buckingham Palace.