I was recently asked to share my tips for attending a blogging event.

Does Blogging Make You Feel Less Alone

“Dear Kate on thin ice,

This will sound really silly but I have blogged for a year or so and made some good online friends. I have seen the adverts for blogging events like BritMums Live 17. I would love to attend one day to meet people in the real world and to learn more about blogging. However, I get really anxious in social situations and just think I will be left standing on my own feeling isolated and stupid.”

Dear Bricking It Blogger,

Thanks for getting in touch. The first thing to say is that your feelings are completely normal and opening up about them in a brave first step. You obviously really want to go deep down or you would not have put pen to paper about the situation. Here are my top tips based on personal experience and from talking with other bloggers.

It’s not all about you!

1. Instead of focusing on what ifs which involve you having a terrible time or making a fool of yourself, focus on the what ifs that see you making a new friend, having a giggle and just feeling like a person in your own right for a change.

2. Read about the experiences of other bloggers and you might realise just how many feel like you or have done so in the past.

3. Could you reach out to a blogger that you could travel with or at least meet up with to enter the venue together? It’s a courageous step but you could be doing that blogger a huge favour too.

Seek support

4. If you really want to go for it. contact the event organisers and ask if you could have a role at the conference perhaps on reception or even hosting a workshop. Often if we have a role, we can hide behind that label a bit.

5. Read up the facts about social anxiety and find out how you can take baby steps to overcome it.

The event itself

6. On your way to the event, perhaps read an inspirational book. I find “Feel the Fear” by Susan Jeffers very simple but also very powerful.

7. When you get to the event, look out for people who are on their own or trying to merge into a wall. A really good place to find the nervous tribe is in the loos! That is why they get so crowded!

8. If it all gets too much for you , build in breaks where you can go somewhere just to breathe and take things in a bit. You do not have to attend every aspect of blogging events.

9. Reflect that whatever your fears, it has to be worse to be sitting at home reading the social media updates from everyone who is there and having an amazing time.

The really great thing is that WHEN you go, you can come back here and say what worked best for you thereby helping others in the future.

Can anyone else share their tips for attending a blogging event to help a anxious blogger?



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I am going to BritMums Live so I will AWOL and heading for London.

It wouldn’t be a normal week if I didn’t write down my reasons for smiling though so before I start panic packing, here are my positives this week.

1. I am going to BritMums Live tomorrow and Saturday.  It was touch and go for a while as my Dad had a health scare but all was well in the end.  I am looking forward to being in rather marvellous company and to relaxing as a grown-up for a little while.

2. I am cheerful that despite any negative self-talk, I am going to be involved in two of the workshops as a speaker and also womanning the Give As You Live/#mums4good stand at 1.45pm on the Saturday.  So if you have brickbats or bouquets, that is where you can find me.

3. I am really looking forward to hearing from Ruby Wax and Sarah Brown in particular on the celeb front.  I am also keen to learn a lot in the workshops I am attending.   I hear rumours of wine, beer and goody bags.  Who wouldn’t be cheerful?

4. Nobody has asked me out to dinner or anything on the Friday night but that is fine as I have the Brilliance in Blogging Party thing to attend and then will hook up in London with my husband for dinner and some precious and rare “us” time.

5. Even the idea of just being away and staying in a nice hotel is making me cheery.

6. My adult step-daughter is taking the children off my hands and I know they will be fine with her.

7. My Dad has changed his plans for the weekend so that he can look after the animals.

8.  I have other reasons to be happy this week but BritMums Live is the major one partly because it makes me realise just how far I have come in a year.  Last year I bottled going to CyberMummy.  This year through the support of some rather lovely ladies, I feel fine about coming along and playing my part.

It will be alright on the night, won’t it?!

Here are 9 blogging tricks that work magic!

Blogging Tricks That Work Magic

If you are here expecting me to tell you exactly how to blog and how to stop being authentic in the pursuit of possible fame and financial riches, you are in the wrong place.

1. Blogging will make people who know you look at you in a different way. It’s good to shake up opinions others have of you which are often so far from the truth.

2. Blogging has a habit of sending exactly the right person to your blog at exactly the right time whether it is you who is having a crisis or them

3. Blogging waves a magic wand to reduce any sense of isolation you may feel

4. Blogging events bring heartfelt friends even if you do try to merge into a wall or hide in the loos!

5. Blogging will deliver opportunities you never sought but they may be just what you need.

6. Blogging helps you tap into sources of expertise that you don’t have

7. Blogging helps husbands and kids realize that you are more than a wife and mum

8. Blogging can bring the words of our ancestors to life

9. Blogging can change you – it is up to you to decide that it will be for the better.

I would love you to share the blogging tricks that work magic in your life.

 

Cuddle Fairy

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