9 tips for attending a blogging event

I was recently asked to share my tips for attending a blogging event.

Does Blogging Make You Feel Less Alone

“Dear Kate on thin ice,

This will sound really silly but I have blogged for a year or so and made some good online friends. I have seen the adverts for blogging events like BritMums Live 17. I would love to attend one day to meet people in the real world and to learn more about blogging. However, I get really anxious in social situations and just think I will be left standing on my own feeling isolated and stupid.”

Dear Bricking It Blogger,

Thanks for getting in touch. The first thing to say is that your feelings are completely normal and opening up about them in a brave first step. You obviously really want to go deep down or you would not have put pen to paper about the situation. Here are my top tips based on personal experience and from talking with other bloggers.

It’s not all about you!

1. Instead of focusing on what ifs which involve you having a terrible time or making a fool of yourself, focus on the what ifs that see you making a new friend, having a giggle and just feeling like a person in your own right for a change.

2. Read about the experiences of other bloggers and you might realise just how many feel like you or have done so in the past.

3. Could you reach out to a blogger that you could travel with or at least meet up with to enter the venue together? It’s a courageous step but you could be doing that blogger a huge favour too.

Seek support

4. If you really want to go for it. contact the event organisers and ask if you could have a role at the conference perhaps on reception or even hosting a workshop. Often if we have a role, we can hide behind that label a bit.

5. Read up the facts about social anxiety and find out how you can take baby steps to overcome it.

The event itself

6. On your way to the event, perhaps read an inspirational book. I find “Feel the Fear” by Susan Jeffers very simple but also very powerful.

7. When you get to the event, look out for people who are on their own or trying to merge into a wall. A really good place to find the nervous tribe is in the loos! That is why they get so crowded!

8. If it all gets too much for you , build in breaks where you can go somewhere just to breathe and take things in a bit. You do not have to attend every aspect of blogging events.

9. Reflect that whatever your fears, it has to be worse to be sitting at home reading the social media updates from everyone who is there and having an amazing time.

The really great thing is that WHEN you go, you can come back here and say what worked best for you thereby helping others in the future.

Can anyone else share their tips for attending a blogging event to help a anxious blogger?



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19 Comments

  1. suz July 24, 2017 / 10:24 pm

    I’ve never attended an event like this. Maybe one day 🙂
    Great tips
    #bigpinklink

  2. Tubbs July 28, 2017 / 12:21 pm

    I went to BM16 last year, the day after the EU Ref. It was a very weird experience as the event continued as normal and everyone so often you’d peek at the news to see something else had happened. Still debating this year.
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  3. Random Musings July 28, 2017 / 3:31 pm

    I’m going to my first conference this year (BlogOn) and I’m kind of nervous but also really excited. I know I’ll be fine once I get there – talking to people has never bothered me I’m that weirdo that talks to strangers wherever they go lol.
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂
    Debbie

  4. Liz Deacle July 30, 2017 / 6:51 am

    I’d never even heard of one of these 5 months ago and I’ve certainly never been to one but now, if ever I do, I’ll remember this post! Thank you!
    #TheListLinky

  5. Gemma Nuttall July 30, 2017 / 10:39 am

    I love this post – really helpful, honest and informative. I went to my first conference last year (Britmums) and had mixed feelings on it but did meet some new blogging friends and I am now going to BlogOn in September to meet up with them again. I always get nervous before these things but I figure most people are in the same boat and try to put my big girl pants on and enjoy it. Thanks for joining #bigpinklink x

  6. Annette, 3 Little Buttons July 30, 2017 / 9:21 pm

    Love this post Kate. I’m coming to BML17 for my first ever blogging conference. It feels a bit scary, but I agree that taking little steps and linking up with fellow bloggers beforehand is likely to really help. I would normally be one of the ones trying to hide in the wall! #DreamTeam x
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  7. Victoria - Lylia Rose July 31, 2017 / 11:54 am

    I’ve not been to an event yet, but perhaps one day and I’ll need these tips!

  8. mainy August 2, 2017 / 8:44 am

    I’m going to Brit mums 17 for my first conference and am very excited. I’m going to schedule in my own little breaks so that I can go and chill out for 10 minutes away from it if I feel its needed. Maybe it wont be!:)
    Mainy

  9. Bread // Queer Little Family August 2, 2017 / 8:35 pm

    Good advice. As someone with anxiety I generally avoid these things like the plague but I hope the writer manages to go and enjoy themselves.

  10. Laura @ Dot Makes 4 August 3, 2017 / 4:21 pm

    I’ve always wanted to attend a blogger event and hopefully will one day. As someone who suffers from anxiety, this is some great advice for when I do.

    #KCACOLS
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  11. Jenny (Accidental Hipster Mum) August 5, 2017 / 5:36 am

    This is really helpful, I’ll be attending y first blogger event when I go to #BML17, I’ really excited but mega nervous too!

    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time

  12. Kel August 23, 2017 / 5:26 pm

    Great tips Kate, thanks! I’m going to BlogCamp soon and I’m very nervous, as it’s my first event. I’ll try to remember your suggestions! #MMBC

  13. Caitlin November 6, 2017 / 5:23 pm

    I am very similar to the OP in that there are conferences I’d really like to go to, but it would be a huge step outside of my comfort zone so I’m not sure that I will. I think a lot of writers are comfortable behind the computer screen and maybe not so good at talking to people face to face. I fear my own awkwardness I suppose! Thanks for the advice though, I do hope to push myself to go through with it eventually!

  14. Jennifer Hughes November 6, 2017 / 6:17 pm

    Great tips. Wish I had these for whenever I first started going to blogger events. I’m lucky enough now to have my best blogging gals with me now.

  15. Claire Rocks June 1, 2018 / 5:44 pm

    Great hints and tips. thanks for sharing #FabFridayPost

  16. Sarah TheRealLaraShoe June 3, 2018 / 7:11 am

    Some great advise here going to new places can be scary. We all love our comfort zones. I’ve never done the blogger event thing. Maybe one day! Thanks for sharing and linking up with us #FabFridayPost

  17. Su {Ethan & Evelyn} June 7, 2018 / 9:20 am

    Great tips here. I remembered going to my first blogging event. That was freaking nervous! lol! Now, I just go with the flow. xx

    Thank you very much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost

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