Asking for support works so I urge anyone who is going through challenging times to do so. I think many of us are too proud to reach out to others. We don’t want to reveal that our lives are not picture perfect and that we don’t always have the right answers. Sometimes we don’t have any solutions at all. You might be like me and also my own mother who are always there for others in a crisis. I think the natural helpers in life can find it particularly tough to say that they need back-up too. Last week my husband said he is giving me three months to prove myself or he thinks we should go our separate ways. This was obviously devastating and I felt powerless. Feeling very much at my lowest ebb, I reached out for support.
Family members at home and away
My family members who live with me offered their support with cuddles and lots of listening. There were also some wise reminders that I needed to hear. I am so loved here by my amazing children. How lucky am I! I have also had support from my brother both in terms of emotional support and practical suggestions. Members of my husband’s family have also given me their time and patience. They have shared their experiences and resources freely. They are blessings, each and every one.
People who knew me when they were children
Thanks to the man who I last saw when he was aged ten years old. I remember him as a giggling child who I walked and talked with. I learned from him then about the countryside. This week in quite basic terms he said what he thought of my current situation. I thank him for that. It has made me think. It has given my hope.
Thanks to the woman who I last saw when she was about twelve years old. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on my current relationship. Thanks for saying how you saw me as a cool, bohemian woman back then and how you aspired to be like me. I have always secretly harboured a wish to be seen just like that so in the midst of all this stress, you made my day!
Bloggers are a supportive community. I have seen this on so many occasions when real tragedies have affected bloggers and their families. However, even I have been stunned at the level of support received once I started sharing my worries and concerns. Thank you everyone.
I have had huge generosity from a former colleague. There are Christian values spoken but then there are people who live by them. You know who you are and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Asking for support works
Speaking out and asking for support works. I have been surprised by the people and organisations who did not help or as much as I thought they would or as much as I would if they were in trouble. I guess it is true that it is in the bad times that you find out who your true friends are. Also you cannot always know what is going on other folks’ lives and the pressures they are facing. However, that does not take away from the fact that the results of asking for support are my reason to be cheerful this week. It appears I have a lot of people in my corner. I don’t need to work out why that may be the case. I just have to be very glad that they are there.
I was going to stealth publish this post but I am going to be strong and not do so.