The media tell us that today is Blue Monday. How can you get your groove back on days that are blue?

I have had a less than ideal week and sometimes felt distinctly like my groove was missing in action.

The key to being a groovy mum is not to accept feeling down but to take steps, even if tiny ones, to change things.

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Here are the little things I did that helped..

1. Held the #groovymums Twitter party on Friday even though I had not promoted it very well and was busy with less fun things. It was well attended with some really good points being raised. One that sticks in my mind was about perhaps not pining for who we used to be and instead deciding who we want to be right now and in the future.

2. Got out in the fresh air.

3. Visited a book sale. Sometimes just looking at book titles can make us want to try new things or remember interests we have not pursued for a while. I remembered my love of Charles Dickens, I recalled an amusing Twitter conversation with Gok Wan and also picked up a book for people who do too much. I think as mums we all do too much sometimes and my teenager son had mentioned my habit of doing so earlier in the day.

I also got a book of quotations and will share this with you today.

“My mother taught me that no matter how sad, scared or unwell I might feel, a good giggle works wonders. Even during the most challenging times, my mum is able to raise a laugh and make herself and everyone round her feel good”

Three Groovy Tips

1. Watch something funny on the television. Do whatever it takes to give yourself a giggle. Blog about what made you laugh this week.

2. Indulge your body in a little pampering this week – new haircut, spa day, sparkly nails or whatever. Tell us about it.

3. Investigate volunteering on the Do-It website. Wisdom has it that helping others puts our own issues into perspective and gives us the feel-good factor. Volunteering can lead to new skills, fantastic friends, training and employment. You have nothing to lose by checking what is available in your local area or further afield.

If you blog about the baby (or huge) steps you are taking to move forwards positively, link up below and I will promote your posts.

Are you good at taking time to indulge in imaginative play with your children?

I think it is important to do so as those sessions make for happy memories that last for years. I still remember playing shops with my mum back in the Seventies. I had a little cash register and we would take it in turns to be the customer or shopkeeper. I seem to remember her using egg boxes as some of the items you could buy. That shows that inventive parents don’t need to spend a whole lot of money to inject fun into their children’s lives. Of course, I learned a lot about adding things up when playing shop. I also remember us making a little house out a clothes horse. My Dad built me my own “kitchen” in the garden made out of paving slabs. It was my own little area and meant the world to me.

“Let’s pretend” opens up a world of possibilities and stimulates creativity. As parents, we can get in touch with our inner child and see stresses disappear as we give ourselves over to imaginative play. Vitally, it ensures we are spending quality time with our children.

My very favourite toy as a child was the doll’s house made by my Dad’s best friend. It had sliding doors and I imagined scenes similar to Downton Abbey taking place in it. I always did have delusions of grandeur!

The lovely people at Big Game Hunters recently sent my daughter a doll’s house family and furniture set. She loves them and has a whole scenario about an opera singing mother going on. Who am I to say the mother looks nothing like an opera singer to me? It makes absolute sense to her.

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She commented:

“I like this set because it is so colourful. I like the way that there are moving parts. For example the skating board has real wheels, the drawers and oven open so you can put things in them.”

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The furniture set also includes beds, sofa, table and crockery.

I have a Doll’s house family set and a furniture set to giveaway.

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How has Wednesday got here so quickly?

I have had a good week on the healthy eating front.

Obviously, the lack of alcohol is doing me a power of good both physically and emotionally. Have you sponsored me yet? It’s all in a good cause for Cancer Research UK. Simply text KKKK98 £1 to 70070 or visit my JustGiving page. I have not had a sponsor for a few days so go on, make my day and all that.

I have not got weighed but my clothes are already fitting more comfortably. The trousers were starting to strain in a very worrying way and now they are going on just fine. I seem to be losing weight off my legs from what I can tell.

The things that have worked for me this week include:

Weightwatchers bread

Weightwatchers yoghurts – good to grab when the munchies strike

Bananas – again great for when you feel tempted to eat something less healthy

Salads especially with cold meats or mackerel

I have had a few naughty moments usually because I have had nothing to hand in the house. Forward-planning is key. This week I will do an Internet shop and stock up on healthy options.

I do feel motivated and I know I can move mountains (of flesh) when I feel that way.

Linking up with the linky that helps bloggers lose weight over with @AutismMumma

I used to advise people who were experiencing debt problems. I worked in several Citizens Advice Bureau across the United Kingdom.

Sometimes people who are in debt find it incredibly difficult to deal with. It is common for debt to result in threats to mental wellbeing and a number of suicides have been linked to debt problems.

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It is too easy to judge people who have debts if you have never faced those challenges yourself.

The biggest thing to lead to debt troubles is a change in circumstances. It could be a job loss, sudden illness or disability or even an increase in the size of the family.

Financial education is schools is still sadly lacking so many young people find themselves taking on credit that they will not be able to pay back. I know I made that mistake when I was a student back in the Eighties.

It is very common for people who get a firm letter from a creditor to bury their head in the sand. I remember clients coming to see me bringing a black bin liner full of unopened post.

All too often people in debt respond to the creditor who sends the nastiest letter rather than working out who they would be best paying first if funds are low.

There is help available and you do not need to pay for that assistance.

You are not alone. If you don’t believe that, take a look at a debt map of the UK and you can see that there are others struggling with money problems just down the road from you.

I received payment for writing this post.

Groovy Mums launched last week encouraging mums to think of themselves a bit more. That might involve rediscovering who you are and having a go at things you used to enjoy. You might want to take on a new project altogether or just to incorporate some little changes to liven things up a bit. The idea is that you set the path and myself and other groovy mums support you along the way.

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Thank you to the 11 mums who linked up groovy blog posts last week. I ask where possible that you visit the other groovy mums posts and lend them your support with a comment.

This week I am asking mums to reflect on some questions about where they are now and where they would like to be. If you blog your answers, please add the link below or leave a comment.

1. To what extent have I lost sight of myself?

2. If I have lost my groove, how did that happen?

3. What do I want to get out of life in 2014?

4. What are the barriers to me getting what I want out of life?

5. What baby step could I take this week to move things forward a little?

Three Groovy Tips

A. Enjoy the great outdoors. Sometimes even going for a walk can seem a mountain to climb if mums are fed up. Challenge yourself to get out more than you do or if you already do, try visiting somewhere new.

B. Visit the Open University website. They have a vast range of courses and you don’t have to identify as academic to benefit from them.

C. Create something. Art, craft and cooking are all cool ways to express who you are. What could you make this week?

If you blog about getting your groove back using the questions above, please tag a few mum bloggers to have a go too. Yes, some mums’lives might be happy and sorted but we can always move towards new hopes and dreams one step at a time.

Get groovy this week!

Groovy Mums Twitter Party will take place on Friday 17th January from 1-2pm using hashtag #groovymums. The theme will be “How to change your life for the better as a mum”.

Are You A Groovy Mum?

Now, go forth, think about getting groovy and link up blog posts below.