We change over the years in so many ways. When I was in my teens, I was strongly of the view I did not want or need a man partly because I felt it would make me lose focus on more important things like my career. Of course, them I became totally smitten in a presumably unrequited way and ended up living with one bloke and marrying another.

I was reflecting recently on whether my taste in men has changed over the years. Do women look for different things as we get older? I have concluded that my must-have list has stayed pretty much the same since teenage years.

Sense of humour

Men who have appealed to me over the  years have always had a good sense of humour which is a good job because I can be quite witty and love a bit of banter and word play. Laugh easily and make me chuckle and I am all yours!

Kindness

I will notice a man if he is kind to others whether adults, children or animals. When I am struggling I want a man to show he cares with  a kind word, a touch or a small gift based on who I am as an individual. If he leaps in to protect me when I am threatened in any way, I can transform into my very own version of Cinderella.

Coffee

The way to my heart may well be through you making  me a coffee. Invite me for coffee, make me a coffee and wake me up with  coffee and you are my dream date.

Intelligence and conversation

I am an intelligent woman and I enjoy good conversation. Despite what many people might think, I love to have my opinions challenged and to get involved in a good debate. So ideally I need a bloke with a great mind who is willing to talk a lot. Lack of deep conversation is a big challenge in my current relationship.

Respect for women

I am proud to have brought up my boys to respect women. It pleases me to think how they will treat women as they leave home and carve out their own relationships. Respect for women is too rare a commodity in society still but that is changing and about time too. So please respect my thoughts, feelings and body and we will get on amazingly.

These days I would be a bit sensible too and look for someone who is ideally working and good with money. Similar interests would be good too such as a love of the arts and history. We live and we learn but it was fun to see how little my tastes have changed over the years.

Lucy At Home

Five Little Doves

So as Meghan has found her Prince I thought I would have a little fun and asked some fellow bloggers for their thoughts on what makes the perfect man. Some common themes emerged so if there is a bloke out there looking for love, you have a reference guide of what women really want.

SENSE OF HUMOUR

A sense of humour! I used to have a thing for Chris Moyles and Jonny Vegas because they made me laugh, they’re not the most ‘conventionally’ attractive men!
www.meanniebee.com

Someone who you can have a bit of banter with, and doesn’t take themselves too seriously
www.wingingitwithtwoboys.com

What attracts me to a man is a fantastic sense of humour, I can’t be doing with anyone too serious plus they just have to be nice. It sounds simple but a nice guy will always be there for you and be somebody you can rely on. https://emmareed.net

Oh it’s all about somebody fun who makes me laugh. Because that will always be there, the looks, money and all that jazz are transient. If his sense of humour leaves him I’ll be off too!
plutoniumsox.com

Someone who makes me laugh and doesn’t realise they are handsome http://thequeenofcollage.blogspot.co.uk/

LOOKS

I’m a sucker for well built arms with tattoos!
mummyswaisted.co.uk

My friends laugh as they say my “type” would be a hobo – basically dirty and unshaven – but in reality I think a sense of humour, kindness and someone who can be a gentleman beats everything! www.kippersandcurtains.com

He can’t take himself too seriously… and he doesn’t spend hours in front of the mirror. I like a mans man, not one of those blokes who goes to get his eyebrows waxed with his Mrs.
www.thentherewerethree.uk

Someone I can have an actual conversation with where I feel my opinion is valid and respected. Looks wise, I like tall! The taller the better! Http://inspiregratitudemanifest.com

TEAM PLAYER

I think seeing a relationship as a team effort and long game. My husband is totally and utterly my wing man and vice versa. I ended up marrying the guy of “my dreams” from my teenage diary (piercings, tattoos, bmx rider with his own car ) but I ended up with a lot more than that.
Www.tinytripping.com

Being a good team mate, my partner is 100% my team mate in everything, hes straight into daddy mode as soon as he’s home from work. That means the world to me, he’s my best friend. He’s got a decent beard too
2nerdsandababy.com

A partner that steps up and supports. I want someone to make decisions with me and not just have to tell them what is going on.
www.sineadlatham.com

My husband is honest, loyal and has been there for me over the last 10 years no matter what. This has included a few breakdowns in my mental health, and I am so thankful for it.
autumnsmummyblog.com

Being someone who can get on with anyone because he doesn’t have to like my friends and family but he has to be able to get on with them and be friendly
www.justaveragejen.com

SHARED INTERESTS

Someone who’s great at sports! I love competitiveness and fitness, so someone who can match me! And always good banter and entrepreneurship
mamamei.co.uk

For me it’s sense of humour and sharing similar values or politics. If you’re a funny, vegetarian, socialist then you’re the man for me
www.theincidentalparent.com

CONFIDENT AND AMBITIOUS

Someone confident who knows what he wants in life. I like a decision maker as it shows self-worth.
www.livingwithajude.co.uk

I’m all about eyes, in particular blue eyes If we’re talking personality then self- assurances is a massive thumbs up for me – I’m basically describing Zac Efron aka the perfect man!
www.mommyandrory.comSomeone secure in themselves there is nothing more attractive. www.sophobsessed.com

Someone with ambition and drive!
www.welshmum.co.uk

Ambition and drive. Very sexy!
www.fivelittlestars.com

.SUPPORTIVE

I want someone who understands that I’m not always perfect myself and still loves me for it. My husband is so patient when I get stressed out about silly little things and he’s always there for me.
http://www.frugalfamily.co.uk/

A man who accepts you for who you are, no matter what size you are, what weight you are. Someone who loves your flaws. Someone who is loyal and has your back 100%.(my husband does all of this)
www.thismummyrocks.com

Someone who stands by me when my mental health isn’t doing so good, who defends me against the bullies and the meanies of the world and of course someone who appreciates the value of a good quiet moment without needing to talk.
www.mummycatnotes.com

Someone who is kind and does not play games. Respects you and has a proper serious conversation when needed.
Http://www.wavetomummy.com

My husband is perfect!!! I fell in love with him mainly as he was a great dad to his kids. I knew he would be amazing for me and any children we might have and I am so lucky and so is our son.
https://freddiesmummyuk.com

AND FINALLY!

Nothing has changed since in my teens I have always gone absolutely and completely on my emotional response to a man and nothing practical at all – oh it’s got me into so much bother but has been fabulous too https://www.abeautifulspace.co.uk

I used to want a man who could dance, had style and was ambitious – my husband is none of those things! But he is intelligent, funny, supportive and his ability to live in the present keeps me grounded.
www.freefromfarmhouse.co.uk

What do I think? I will be sharing that tomorrow. How about you? Who is your dream date?

What  Do Women Really Look For In A Man

Mum Muddling Through
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Every day it seems that there are new gadgets and machines to help our lives run a bit smoother — and gardening is no exception. But which new devices can you use to improve your garden throughout 2018 and beyond? Check out this tech guide as we look at the top must-have pieces of technology for gardeners in 2018…

Grow new things

Due to the climate, we’re slightly limited regarding which foods we can grow in the UK. If you want to grow something more exotic, why not invest in a heated propagator? A heated propagator allows seeds to germinate earlier and more successfully (meaning that less goes to waste). This isn’t necessarily a new idea, years ago, it was heated greenhouses and heated benches that were on the market. But, they can add to your energy costs as the heat can quickly dissipate and therefore must be on all the time to be successful. Instead, the propagator has walls and a lid which can retain the warmth.

With a varied temperature of between 5°C to 30°C, you can grow a host of new plants with this device. Some of the more exotic seeds and hot chillies require warmer temperatures and it could be impossible to grow them in cooler climates without this piece of technology. Being able to grow from seed is more cost-effective than buying an already germinated young plant too — saving you some pennies!

Plus, the light and reflector in these products can create and reflect light that diffuses deep into the plant leaves for better growth.

Ask for extra help

Gardening is not immune to the popularity of apps. Try downloading these to help:

  • Garden Compass — lets you upload photos to the website, ask questions to horticultural experts and create a personalised garden-care calendar.
  • GrowIt! — connects with local gardeners for advice. You can also upload photos of your own plants to share your gardening knowledge with others.

Make sure your plants are watered and healthy

A pot watering kit can ensure that your seeds and plants live a long and healthy life. These kits can water up to 25 plants automatically and can sense what time of the day it is to water your plants. You can set up the gadget so that it slowly releases water to the root of the plant which will save you the effort!

Keep an eye on the health of your plants

It’s difficult to tell sometimes just how healthy our plants are as they develop. However, there is one gadget that can help — the Parrot Flower Power plant monitor. With a battery life of half a year and up to 7,000 plants in its database, this device is extremely handy.

Simply place this handy device into the soil next to the plants you’d like to monitor. Then, let it detect: sunlight, temperature and fertilizer. This information then is sent straight to your smartphone, so you know when to water or add more fertilizer to your plants.

Tell the world about your success

If you’re proud of your garden, why not take some snaps? Often the beauty of the plant is in the detail of its leaves or perhaps you enjoy watching the wildlife in the garden. Either way, to take the best photos in the garden you should invest in an Olloclip Pro Lens.

To make the most of this device, just clip it over the lens of your smartphone. From here, your gadget will combine with your phone’s digital zoom — letting you take macro photos with up to 100x magnification. It’s ideal for capturing the details that aren’t visible to the human eye or even monitoring insects as they enjoy your garden. You’re guaranteed to get some wonderful shots without the need for purchasing a professional camera.

 

This article was created by Suttons, a leading provider of hanging baskets in the UK.

 

 

 

Sources

http://www.suttons.co.uk/Gardening/Garden+Equipment/Propagators+and+Propagating+Equipment/Geopod+Heated+Propagators_MH4723.htm

http://fortune.com/2017/03/30/garden-gadgets-green-tech/

http://www.independent.co.uk/extras/indybest/house-garden/best-gardening-apps-tech-hozelock-olloclip-ue-megaboom-netatmo-a7013496.html

 

Twin Mummy and Daddy

It’s time for the weekly Best Boot Forward linky and our routine has changed a little. My gorgeous and talented co-host Chloe from Indigo Wilderness is taking a break so I am flying solo for a while so all support gratefully received.

 

Kate on thin ice

How Best Boot Forward is different

There are so many linkies out there for bloggers and we have decided we really do want this one to be a little bit different so each week we will set some question that you can reflect on as you see fit around a particular theme. You can blog about them and link up. You can reflect on them quietly yourself, You can ignore them completely and link up a post that is about you living life in a positive and proactive way.

If any of that is not clear or you have questions or concerns, please do leave a comment or contact me personally.

This week’s theme

ROUTINE

Routine can be a good thing as a tool for helping us get things done.

Routine can be a bad thing in stopping us reaching out for new adventures.

Routine can be an ugly thing when it is imposed by out roles or life’s circumstances and eats away at our mental and physical wellbeing.

That’s my take on routine anyway. How about you?

Questions

What is your current daily or weekly routine?

Does your routine bring you joy or pain?

How do you cope when your routine gets disrupted by unexpected or stressful happenings?

Is it time you changed your routine and what baby steps could you take this week to do that?

 

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When I was at home with my parents, I was very well aware of the term “My Chair” often delivered with an exclamation mark at the end. My mum had a chair just like the others in the room but she always wanted hers to be just for her. I did not understand it at the time and it used to make me quite angry as I hit teenage moods.

Now I am a parent myself, I can empathise. We give our all to our children. Finances tend to be applied to children’s needs and wants over our own. Everything that is really ours becomes that much more precious.

Mum would sit on her chair when watching television, chatting with friends or knitting. These days times have changed and so many mums are now working from home. Yes we like a cosy chair to snuggle up in on colder days but we also probably would like an office area with a chair too.

What chair do I associate myself with?

I had a good browse of the Furniture At Work site and chose the Hoxton high back leather chair because it says so much about who I am. I love leather and always choose it for jackets, sofas and car seats. It is easy to clean for a start which means a lot when life and work also involves children and pets. When it comes to fashion, I have a blouson red leather jacket that is now past its best but I find it so hard to get rid of. It is bright and makes me feel younger than I actually am.

This stylish chair comes in a striking and cheery red. I like to think I am striking and upbeat when at my best.  It is very generously proportioned which is great when you happen to be a fat-bottomed girl.

How does your chair reflect your style?