Support for families with children with ADHD and autism can be difficult to find and perhaps at time when parents are at their wit’s end. In this post Soli describes her personal experiences and the support she offers to families.

 

“Life as a parent with a chid with special needs can be really lonely. Your friends all seem to have the perfect family. Yet for me, our lives were a daily struggle and I had no one to turn to. My life certainly wasn’t turning out how I’d planned.

My husband and I met when we were still teenagers, we got through university in separate towns and then he proposed in Paris. How amazing our future seemed.

Then along came our son, whom we adopted at 14 months old. He was a ball of energy and didn’t stop. He caused chaos wherever he went. I had to give him my full attention from the moment he got up, to the second he fell asleep. He got asked to leave every group he ever attended and whilst at a child minder the final straw was when he stood on a caterpillar. He didn’t listen to the swimming teacher, the cub leader, the music specialist. He had no friends and was never invited to play dates or one single birthday party.

At school every day I dreaded the ‘can I have a quick word…’. He couldn’t read, write, do simple maths or pay attention for more than 10 seconds. We were at our wits end.

At 8 years old he was eventually diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder known as ADHD. This label saved us all. Now we knew why he couldn’t control his impulses, was completely inattentive and – oh my goodness – so hyperactive! It wasn’t our fault or anything we were doing wrong. My son’s brain is just lacking a chemical that controls impulses. Teachers now were able to adapt their practices and we were given a clue as to how we could help him at home. I educated myself and read books and went to lectures and absorbed all I could about this condition which affects between 2% and 5% of school age children.

Now alongside this drama of my home life, I was gaining more and more experience as a classroom teacher. I don’t think I’m a believer in fate, but my son came into our family and my whole life took a different turn. As a teacher I just ‘got’ the children who couldn’t fit in, the boys who couldn’t sit still and the children who were left on the periphery of friendships. And so my specialism in special needs started to take hold. I progressed to assistant Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENCO) at a large London primary school. I was the inclusion specialist and advised staff how to make sure all children were included, their needs were met and the curriculum differentiated as necessary.

But I wasn’t completely satisfied and wanted to get the message out further. I never had any support when my son was little. I felt alone, judged and criticised. I was exhausted. I felt I was doing everything wrong and couldn’t get why he couldn’t just let us have one bloody family outing without some argument or row.

So I set up Yellow Sun.

My aim is to support families with children with ADHD and autism. I don’t want any other parent to feel alone and exhausted. I offer advice, help, guidance and can give real practical suggestions what we can do to help our special children. We need to change our reaction to inappropriate behaviour and ensure the environment is suitable. I am so mindful of the damage that can done to a child at an early age if he constantly gets told off, feels he’s useless and a failure and has no friends. We want our children to have amazing emotional health and it is up to us to make it happen. I am here to help.

 

For more information, have a peep at my website www.soli-lazarus.com

I am offering free video training ‘How To Live A Happy Life With ADHD’. Check it out at www.liveahappylifewithadhd.com/freetraining

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Before becoming a parent and home-maker I did not think about flooring much. If I could walk on it that was enough for me. Flooring much like storage becomes of deep interest when you start a family. There are practical considerations but also the more time you spend at home the more attractive you want it to be. As a stay at home mum, any way to remember who you are in terms of taste and fashion is welcome. Let’s look at flooring trends for 2018.

I encourage you to check out online just how amazing laminate and wood flooring can be with the injection of vibrant colours and interesting shapes. I have never thought of flooring as an art form before but why not?

I am pleased to see that recycling is playing more of a part in our flooring reusing old materials in new ways. I am a bit late to environmental awareness but the more I look into the future of our planet, the more I see why we need to take action to protect it now. I am intrigued to hear how fishing nets can now be made into carpets for example. Similarly, I am fascinated at how cork floors can now replicate the look of wood or stone. Cacoa shells are another material used in 21st century flooring.

You can now personalize your flooring perhaps with a company logo or an inspirational quote.

Laser technology is now used to enhance the aesthetic appeals of our floors. Flooring is not as boring as I used to imagine. You might even want to experiment with different textures on the same floor. The world really is your oyster when it comes to the floor beneath your feet.

Of course carpets are a traditional way of injecting warmth and colour into the home but I am not a fan as they get dirty so easily. However, if you are a domestic goddess carpets and rugs are a way to express yourself. I do love how handmade carpets celebrating real craftsmanship are on trend this year. Artists are drawing on their own histories and the beauty of nature both of which are to be encouraged.

So what are your favourite flooring trends this year?

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Building yourself up after leaving an abusive marriage can be hugely challenging particularly if you also have health issues. Be  inspired by Zoe’s story of how she turned her life around and become a strong woman in more ways than one!

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Please tell us a little about your childhood and teenage years

I grew up with my Mum, Dad and younger sister.  I loved school and in particular school sports and social activities.  We grew up going to church and I went to a church school.  My parents divorced when I started secondary school,  For the most part of my secondary school years I lived with my mum stepdad and sister.

Please tell us about any relationship difficulties you have encountered

At 21 I got married after a whirlwind romance.  We had our son just under 18 month later.   The relationship wasn’t healthy, as often happens I through it could be resolved and fixed but it didn’t.  We separated in 2006.

What advice would you give to a woman in a violent or abusive relationship?

I don’t think any general advice can be given as these situations are very much down to the individuals.  What I would say is that you will learn a huge amount of strength and resilience as a result that you can use to build a bright and stronger future

Please describe any physical health issues you have found challenging

I gained a lot of weight whilst I was married.  I was able to lose the weight but didn’t do this in the healthiest way and as a result had my gall bladder removed.  After years of digestive issues that followed I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis (Inflammatory Bowel Disease).  I manage this through nutrition and keeping my stress levels down as much as possible.  Being physically active also helps with this.

What encouraged you to take action to change your life for the better?

We lost a family friend in 2015 in unexpected and sudden circumstances.  It was my catalyst for change.  I knew I had to change my circumstances and get my life back on track.

What tips would you give to someone trying to lose weight?

Think long term lifestyle change and your relationship with food.  Diets with end dates don’t work, and neither does excluding foods or food groups unless you have an allergy or intolerance.  You need to create a new way of eating and new behaviours.

Please tell us about your sporting achievements.

I started training in Strongwoman events in September 2015 after someone persuaded me to sign up for the first local strongwoman competition

Trojans Strongest Woman 2015 – 5th  (first ever competition) Nailsworth Strongest Woman 2015 – 3rd Southern England Qualifier 2016 – 5th England’s Strongest Woman Championship 2016 – 4th Britain’s Strongest Woman 2016 – 2nd  (Highest placing!) Europe’s Strongest Woman 2016 – 9th  Southern England Qualifier 2017 – 3rd England’s Strongest Woman 2017 – 7th

If you could encourage a woman to read just one book, what would it be and why?

Chimp Paradox, Dr Steve Peters.  It is in my top 3 books I recommend as it helps understand how our brains work.

If you could refer a woman to one website apart from yours, what would it be and why?

http://www.better-days.co.uk/   Lots of positive blogs to read

What does your life look like now?

Happy fulfilled and busy .. just how I like it.  My son is now 15 and off to college next year.  He is also thriving!

Who supported you as you made positive life changes?

I have been very fortunate to have had some amazing friends, some closer than others but all who have been behind me all the way.  Sometimes just hearing someone say ‘you’ve got this’ is all you need to move forward.

What would you say to a woman who feels it is impossible to change her life for the better?

When you are caught up in it everything seems impossible.  Just keep moving forward, one small step at a time and it will slowly get better.  Always forward, never back, small achievable steps.

Check out Zoe’s website for details of life and wellbeing coaching.

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When Simply Be get in touch  to ask if you would like to take a look at their collections for Spring, you jump at the chance. It’s a well-known and trusted brand.

I do have one little complaint though and that is that I spent literally hours browsing their site as there are so many great choices. Set some time aside and take a look – you will not be disappointed.

I was delighted to see Simply Be stock Sloggi knickers because frankly these are my go-to pants as they are good quality underwear and hold in that mum tum nicely. I feel secure when I am wearing them. I chose black ones and was so pleased with them.

I have never worn a dress with a peplum before but the reviews were so good for this dress with a lace top and black skirt with a belt included that I had to have it. This dress is lovely, a nice length and shows off curves in the most beautiful way.

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Now I have to confess I can find jeans a little boring but no longer. Check out these beauties with pearl and jewel embellishment detail. I have had so many compliments about these and they really do turn heads. In my case, they distract the eye neatly from my tummy.They fit so comfortably too and are a really good fit which cannot be claimed for all jeans as every woman knows. They come with extra jewels and pearls too just in case.

 

Everything I have mentioned was of fantastic quality and if anything better than expected and at reasonable price points too.

In fact, just writing this post made me revisit Simply Be where I have my idea on a printed maxi skirt from Joanna Hope one of my favourite designers featured on the site.

Simply style it up with Simply Be for the season ahead.

Let me know what you would order?

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Losing weight is an ongoing battle which can be extremely challenging for a lot of people. Of course, everyone’s body is different and what works for one person isn’t necessarily going to be the best weight-loss solution for another. If you have been trying and trying to shed the pounds for some time now but find that you are not getting anywhere, it could be that you are committing one or more of the common mistakes that we are about to discuss in this article.

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Mistake One: Only Focusing on the Scale Weight

Despite sticking closely to your carefully planned regime or alternative diet, you may still find yourself in a position of not losing weight as fast as you would like. But if you are only measuring your success or failure by the scale weight, you are likely not to be getting the full picture. Your weight is affected on an ongoing basis by factors like fluid fluctuations and how much food you are retaining in your system, meaning that your scale weight can do up or down by as much as 4 lbs over the course of a day. Hormonal changes in women can also lead to greater fluid retention. And if you have been working out regularly, you are likely to find yourself gaining muscle and losing fat. Try some alternative methods of monitoring your progress such as using a tape measure around your waist or taking regular pictures of yourself which will show you if you are losing weight despite the scale number not really changing.

Mistake Two: Only Eating Low-Fat or ‘Diet’ Foods

When you are trying to lose weight, you obviously need to monitor what you eat closely. However, if you are only eating food that is labelled low-fat or diet, they may not be helping you out in the way that you would think. A big proportion of these products contain high amounts of sugar to improve their taste. And rather than keeping you full, they are likely to make you even hungrier, meaning that you end up eating more. You are generally better off switching from ‘diet’ food to products which are both nutritious and minimally processed.

Mistake Three: Not Eating Enough Protein and Fibre

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There are certain food groups which are more beneficial than others when you are trying to lose weight. Let’s start off with protein. Some of the main advantages include reducing your appetite, increasing your metabolic rate and protecting muscle mass during weight loss. If you are not getting enough fibre in your diet, this can also cause an issue when it comes to shedding pounds. A high-fibre diet can help to reduce your appetite by filling you up so you eat less. Not only this, it may also help in ensuring that you absorb fewer calories from other food.

Mistake Four: Having Unrealistic Expectations

Of course, it is great to have goals that you are striving to achieve, but it can have an adverse impact on your weight-loss efforts if you have unrealistic expectations. The road to weight loss can be a long and difficult one for many people, so you need to be prepared for bumps along the way. If you find that your goals are unattainable, reset your expectations and celebrate your smaller achievements.

Mistake Five: Not Reading Labels

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If you are not in the habit of reading labels whenever you go to the supermarket, now is the time to start. Otherwise, you are likely to find yourself consuming unwanted calories and unhealthy ingredients. Don’t be fooled by the healthy marketing language that they use on the front; it is the actual contents that you need to be checking. Of course, the first thing that you need to do is learn to read labels in a way that you easily pick out the most pertinent information.

Mistake Six: Getting the Wrong Amount of Exercise

Weight loss tends to involve a reduction in your muscle mass at the same time. Exercising helps to minimise the lean mass that you are losing, increases fat loss and prevents your metabolism from slowing down. However, exercising too much can also end up being problematic. Trying to force your body into burning more calories is neither an effective nor a healthy way of losing weight. You could even end up piling stress on your body, which in turn impairs the production of adrenal hormones.

So, if you recognise that you are committing any of these six common mistakes, now is the time to reassess you weight-loss techniques. 

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