Have you ever sent a love letter or perhaps you have received one? Yes, it’s Valentine’s Day so I am using that as a neat little hook so that we can all feel the love but in a bit of a different way.

Love Letter

So as ever, we would love you to link up any post about how you are making you life more positive.

If you really want to go for it and take up my challenge, it would melt my heart if you could link up a love letter to yourself. I know this will be difficult to tackle for some readers but I also think it is a really worthwhile exercise to do. Write it in a way you see fit – some of you may want do a poem and of course prose is wonderful too.

Just in case you need a little help to get you started, try these questions.

1. What physical feature of yours is particularly attractive?
2. What qualities and personality traits make you loveable?
3. What skills do you have that you are really proud of?
4. What challenge have you overcome in the most inspiring way?
5. What gets in the way of you loving yourself as much as you should?

If you blog about how you are improving your life one baby step at a time, please link up with us. You don’t have to answer the questions or even think about them so long as you have a post about positive life change, you are welcome to the Best Boot Forward linky.

BESTBOOTFORWARD LINKY RULES:

1. Add a backlink to this post using #bestbootforward and fear not, our badge is coming soon!

2. Please comment on this post and the one from Chloe at Indigo Wilderness and at least one other. Obviously the more you comment, the better and it is a super way to get to know other people and to interest them in your blog.

3. Link as many posts as you like so long as they are about you moving your life forward positively in some way.

4. The linky is open for a week so there is plenty of time to link up.

5. Tag myself @kateonthinice and Chloe at @IndigoChlo on Twitter for a Retweet with #Bestbootforward

Link up below and we would LOVE to have you!


100 years of women’s right to vote in the UK certainly sounded like something to celebrate and there was a lot of coverage of this anniversary in the media.

Woman

The reality is only women who were over the ago of 30 and who met a property qualification were allowed to vote. That meant 60 per cent of women in the UK remained without the vote. Quite why you needed to be over 30 to have a view on who should govern the country I do not know. It is also worth noting that this Act we were supposed to celebrate so much also let men over the age of 21 vote because apparently they had the brains to do so at a much younger age than their female counterparts. The property qualification makes me smile but wryly. The UK and its over-emphasis on the value of person according to their property status does so much damage.

So yes I am pleased by any move towards an increase in fairness for women but there were flaws in this act and women 100 years later clearly still have a lot of battles to fight for a fair deal.

I can’t cover everything that needs to change for women and men in one blog post so let’s tackle Chloe’s questions for Best Boot Forward this week.

If you could change one thing, and one thing only about the world we live in today, what would that be? We’re talking anything you like here. Would you want to close the pay gap? Would you banish all modern technology? Or might you fancy living in a world where wearing socks with sandals was compulsory..?

I used to fight a lot for women’s rights and still hate the injustices they face. However I am starting to question why always aligning with our own gender does us any favours at all. If we looked at the abuse of power against anyone whatever their gender, perhaps we could remove a lot of the battles and win the war for a better world for all of us. I hate the abuse of power and one thing that I would wave a magic wand for immediately if I could is to remove domestic violence from our world. I would also like us to be able to walk without fear on our streets. I would like all landlords, employers and government agencies to act with fairness too.

2.How do you think making that change would affect you personally?

I would do a merry jig! Seriously I have certainly had my share of abusive employers and landlords in my time. If there was a fair distribution of power in society, I would also be less scared of offending the men in my life over the years and do less housework allowing me to do more merry jigs in my best boots of course.

3.If we wound the clock back 100 or so years, would you see yourself as a Suffragist, a Suffragette or neither? Why would you have made this choice?

Suffragist is a generic term that includes not just women but also men who supported the cause of women’s suffrage. I do wish more men would stand up for women’s rights but then again perhaps more women should stand up for men’s too. Suffragists behaved in a peaceful manner and sent letters to their elected representatives to raise voice in their support. I use words persuasively I think so perhaps this would have appealed to me.

Suffragette is a term used to refer to women members of the groups that were violent and aggressive and indulged in acts of violence to draw attention of people to their cause. I am not a violent person but there is the odd rare occasion where I see people being attacked or abused where I can head that way a little. I get very passionate about things so who knows?

Such a challenging question as if I am completely honest, I am not convinced by democracy as the best system that it is held up to be. That’s a whole blog post in its own right!

”Best

Is putting things off a good or bad idea? I suspect delaying things can be both depending on the situation involved. The Best Boot Forward questions this week are all about such matters so I will answer them as best I can.

Delaying Things

1.What are you putting off?

I am putting less things off to be honest partly because I faced up to the fact that I was doing so when I wrote these questions last week. Paperwork of various sorts was getting on top of me and I worked out if it was stressing me out so much I would probably feel way better for tackling it.

In my life, I have put off looking after my mental and physical wellbeing. That has changed in recent years and although there is more work to do on the physical side of things, I am taking action and feeling better for that. Never neglect your wellbeing – it is not good for you but also terrible for those around you.

The other area I put off was looking after my relationship. Who knew? They take work and hard work at that. Like many mums, I put the children first which is great but can mean you neglect who you are and also who the “us” that  made the children in the first place is/was. At the start of the year I reflected that my marriage was stale. Somehow again the magic of acknowledging that has made things improve. We are going out more, communicating better and perhaps learning to adapt to a new chapter in our lives. I am still not 100 per cent happy with the relationship but the friendship that got us together in the first place is back and that’s a good foundation for future progress.

2.How does putting it off make you feel?

Putting things off like paperwork and work tasks ends up making me feel very stressed. In fact last week it resulted in tears which is most unusual these days. I knew that was a warning sign and took action.

Putting off looking after my wellbeing resulted in 10 years of depression and mental health difficulties. The only good to come of that is that I can hopefully act as a warning to others and also that I really value my happiness nowadays.

Putting off the work on my relationship made me seriously question  whether I wanted to stay in it. It also led to boredom on both sides. We had different strategies for dealing with that but we could have kept the spark if we had watched our partnership with a little more vigilance along the way.

3.What would happen if you took action instead of procrastinating?

It appears that taking action even if baby steps does work wonders but also makes me feel empowered. I have really recognised that the tiniest step taken should be celebrated and that suddenly a momentum builds up and things can change radically for the better.

4.How risky is the gamble you are taking by putting something off?

They say life is too short. My brother died young last year but he lived in a full-on way whilst he was on the planet despite health issues from a very early age. That gave me great comfort during the grieving journey. I hope when I die my children can say that I lived!

Some things can be put off positively I think. I don’t need to write that novel. I don’t need to be a perfect mum or educator. I should make my own choices and they may be new ones.

Well those are my thoughts on delaying things in life for what they are worth.

Putting things off is on my mind today and it appears I have even put off the Best Boot Forward weekly post until late evening.

Putting Things Off

Putting things off can certainly bring us a lot of pleasure if we want to avoid something. However, in  the end the task or situation at hand will catch up with us. Perhaps that means putting things off is a negative thing.

However, although we might commonly associate putting things off with negative things, we should ask ourselves if we are also putting off the good stuff. We can really make some powerful  arguments as to why we want to do something  but can’t just yet. It is almost as if some of us are scared of being happy and/or following our dreams. We too easily take that huge gamble that we have all the time in the world when the truth is none of us can know that.

So my questions for you to reflect on this week if it helps you at all are ..

  1. What are you putting off?
  2. How does putting it off make you feel?
  3. What would happen if you took action instead of procrastinating?
  4. How risky is the gamble you are taking by putting something off?

I will be answering these myself and posting later this week.

If you blog about how you are improving your life one baby step at a time, please link up with us. You don’t have to answer the questions or even think about them so long as you have a post about positive life change, you are welcome to the Best Boot Forward linky.

BESTBOOTFORWARD LINKY RULES:

1. Add a backlink to this post using #bestbootforward and fear not, our badge is coming soon!

2. Please comment on this post and the one from Chloe at Indigo Wilderness and at least one other. Obviously the more you comment, the better and it is a super way to get to know other people and to interest them in your blog.

3. Link a maximum of 1 post per week.

4. The linky is open for a week so there is plenty of time to link up.

5. Tag myself @kateonthinice and Chloe at @IndigoChlo on Twitter for a Retweet with #Bestbootforward

 

After a heavy week on the Best Boot Forward front last week, the lovely Chloe is lightening things up with some great questions on love and smiles to reflect on in our weekly linky.

Do you have something or someone in your life that makes you smile on a regular basis?

The someone has to be my son Ramsey who is a comic genius with fantastic word play. He also has a very expressive face which can make me chuckle without him saying a single word. He is very aware of his charisma and the power of it which I think will serve him very well in life.

My other children make me smile too of course but can’t drag me out of a down day as much as Ramsey.

What do you love about your life?

I love how balanced it is now with family, friends, work and play. I enjoy time both inside and out. I also enjoy I am no longer blighted by depression so can just decide to have a go at something without stressing about it. I love that my FB blogging groups and the Best Boot Forward FB community for women are going from strength to strength with very good hearts coming together. I love enjoying the present and having faith in my future.

2.How can you draw on this special feeling to help you keep moving forward on your quest to reaching your goals?

I think that I answered that a little in question 2. This is very typical of me and I have embarrassed many an interview panel as they asked me the first question and then I incorporated the other questions on their list into my first response. I guess I have a lot to say.

Seriously though, I think I move forward quite naturally now and want to encourage others to do so as it is so easy and so negative to get stuck.

I intend to review my Best Boot Forward goals in detail monthly but keep them in mind all the time so that they happen or if not, that there are very good reasons why not.

3.Can you do, or have you recently done something positive for someone in your life? Often, a great way to feel good about ourselves is to do something selfless – big or small. Could you perhaps lend a helping hand to a friend or maybe you have recently raised funds for charity?

I have a strong record of supporting charities by donating, volunteering, working for and managing them. To some extent doing this with such commitment took its toll on my wellbeing.

I now help charities via my blogging and social media and have a really interesting charity story coming soon from an amazing woman.

I give to good causes when I can and I am moved by the appeal.

I like to use my blog to support women who I still feel can get such a raw deal in society.

”Best

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