Are you a confident parent? When did that feeling kick in?

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Taking a new baby home is a milestone in itself. I remember the lovely outfit I had bought for my son whilst pregnant being way too big when it came to the time to put him in his car seat for the first time. Car seats can be a challenge too for sure! I am the first to admit I was not the most confident new mum having not spent any time around babies before. My husband who had children from previous relationships seemed to know how to do things so much better than I did. The first nappy change my son experienced was by my GP as it was all too much for me to take in. I quickly worked out I was a clueless rather than a confident parent.

I was very quick to handover daily childcare to my parents so that I could return to work. That worked really well for all involved although I did sometimes miss moments that matter.

I read up about every parenting book on the market and slowly learned to distinguish between different sorts of cry. There is a great joy in being able to second guess why your baby is distressed. Like most things in life, you get better with practice.

I also made great use of online networks like Mumsnet where you could share openly and learn from others with more experienced and confident parents.

I guess my most important tip for new parents is to seek support and to recognise that doing so is a sign of great strength. None of us can know everything. Not all of us have the best support networks. It is OK to be unsure and if you are asking questions, you are showing that you are parent who cares.

The team at Nurofen for Children say, “it’s no surprise that in our survey almost nine in ten first time mums reflect on having a baby as a life changing experience as they rework their normal routines to take care of their little one. During their baby’s first year, mums say they felt the biggest impacts on their relationships work life and friendships[1]. Our research shows that on average, it takes a first time mum six months to feel confident as a parent[1], and for almost half (47%), the health of their child is one of their biggest parenting worries[2]”.

This is important – let’s realise that if we struggle we are not alone!

As time went on I loved that I knew my baby put his arms back when he was ready to sleep, got red cheeks when teething and only wanted a cuddle when he was poorly.

Take a look at Nurofen for Children’top 10 tips for becoming a confident parent.

They say that 38% rely on the advice and experience of their own mothers, and one in five turn to other parents for guidance. My Mum brought up babies in the Fifties so some of her advice was a little dated. I was terrible at reaching out to mums in the real world but did seek support online as 12% of survey respondents did. You can be that much more anonymous online and feel less judged.

19% mentioned taking the advice of a GP. I found my GP lovely but unhelpful when I sought help and he did not pick up that I was experiencing depression. 9% of respondents mentioned a pharmacist as a source of support and it never entered my head really to reach out to a pharmacist although I know my husband did.

My oldest child is now a teenager and I recently outlined my ideas on how not only to be a confident parent but also a happy mum because I think children need to us both confident and happy.

I am a member of the Mumsnet Bloggers Network Research Panel, a group of parent bloggers who have volunteered to blog about a specified subject or review products, services, events and brands for Mumsnet. I have editorial control and retain full editorial integrity. I have been entered into a prize draw to win a £100 voucher as a token of thanks for this post. Find out more about Mumsnet Bloggers here. And to see the other posts about this topic, see the linky here.

Please note that this post is not intended to contain any medical advice. Always contact your own doctor or health professional if you have any concerns about your child’s health.

(i) Survey of 2,000 parents with a baby under 6 years old, commissioned by Nurofen for Children (May 2014)
(ii) Survey of 2,000 mums by One Poll, commissioned by Nurofen for Children (October 2013)

What a funny old week! Lots has gone right and surprisingly well. On the other hand, some things have gone awry and one big one in particular leaving me a bit glum and frustrated. This makes it a great time to reflect on the good things in my week.


Reasons to be Cheerful

1. The cheque was finally in the post even if in the wrong name!

2. I picked up some freelance work that I was not expecting making December more likely to be fun-filled.

3. My son did come home last night safe and sound after going AWOL until after 9pm! At 15 he is clearly developing a life away from the family and I need to respect that whilst still ensuring I keep him safe. That sounds like quite a juggling act to me!

4. When the man with a huge skyscraper of parcels in his arms walked right into me, it did hurt but I was not seriously injured.

5. My youngest son no longer needs glasses now he is not in school according to the optician as he does not need to read at long distances. This is great as he hates glasses. He is also sporting a funky new haircut to his own specification.

6. My daughter seems happy enough although often in her own little creative world or chatting on and on so it is Death by Pokémon!

7. I have enjoyed some lovely walks with my husband and pets.

8. Myself and Him Indoors managed a lovely lunch at a country pub.

9. I sorted out a mountain of paperwork.

10. I am still not stressed about Christmas but have started decorating the house.

11. My birthday is just 10 days away and I have a very good feeling about it this year.

12. Things that would have hurt me deeply in the past don’t do so now and sometimes I am getting lovely surprises from people that I have not always treated well.

13. Him Indoors seems to have got into the habit of bringing me roses on a weekly basis and I am not complaining.

14. Yesterday we had a shopping session of the charity shop variety acquiring a Giant Beagle soft toy which caused much festive hilarity and nearly got me thrown out of Subway. We are always at our best when we are laughing and being silly.

15. I started my weight loss programme about 1 year ago and didn’t I do well?

Now you have to admit that is pretty good for someone who was feeling glum at the start of this post.

A funny old week!

Do you know how to get a good night’s sleep?

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We all know that waking up refreshed, energised and ready to face the day is essential to our health and wellbeing but getting a good night’s sleep is sometimes more complicated than it seems. You may have perfected your ideal sleeping position and invested in luxurious Egyptian-cotton sheets, but a snoring partner, duvet hogger or even needing to get up and dash to the loo can quickly burst your dream bubble.

In fact, recent research from TENA Lady has found that one in six women regularly have their sleep disrupted by night-time visits to the loo, making it difficult to get those much needed ZZZs.

Nothing should hold you back from getting a great night’s sleep – especially not bladder weakness.

That is why TENA Lady has created the Sweet Dreams kit, to make sure you sleep ea-zzz-y and wake up looking and feeling your best every morning.

This handy kit contains the essential items to ensure you’re well rested and ready for the day ahead. Because, let’s face it, who couldn’t do with a little extra beauty sleep?

Relaxing tea

Drinking stimulants such as coffee and alcohol before bed can stop you from drifting off and leave your mind racing faster than the Grand National winner.

Instead, sip your way to sweet dreams by unwinding with a ‘sleep’ tea. Infused with herbs including camomile, lavender and vanilla, it will naturally calm your senses and prepare your mind and body for a night of uninterrupted rest.

I drink far too much coffee and indulge in the occasional tipple too. I am going to drink a relaxing tea before bedtime and see how things change for my sleep patterns.

Bath bomb

Battling the night sweats and throwing off your duvet in frustration can make it hard to get to sleep. A warm, lavender-scented bath before bedtime will help to bring your body temperature down and prepare you for a blissful slumber.

Lavender can calm anxiety and ease insomnia, so why not transport yourself into a state of deep relaxation by soaking your body in loving lavender and essential oils to switch on your sleep mode.

I do love a bath bomb although there may be added night time stress as I battle my daughter for it.

Personalised robe

Who doesn’t love the feeling of coming home and changing into their snuggest sleepwear?

Reclining in your bedroom in a luxurious yet cosy waffle robe will give the sensation of complete comfort and help your body to de-stress as you prepare to wind down for the night ahead.

The robe provided with my name on it by Tena Lady is a delight. It really does make me feel special and I always had an image of me wearing a white dressing gown that never quite came to fruition until now.

Sleep spray

Tired of tossing and turning when you can’t shut down your brain at night? This is a big one for me as I juggle work, home education, pets and housework whilst trying to keep up with friends and family too.

Ensure you effortlessly drift off to the land of nod the moment your head hits the pillow by gently spritzing your sheets with a soothing lavender fragrance – restorative slumber guaranteed.

I love the luxury of a sleep spray something I would not normally have except when I stay in fancy hotels.

Positive mantra bag

Stress can stop you from switching off and leave your mind racing until the early hours.

For a calmer, happier mind, a positive mantra and preparation for next day will help you forget your worries. Pack all you need the night before so you can hit snooze on your alarm a few extra times in the morning – bliss!

I am not great at preparing for my next day but am finding systems do really help reduce stress levels. The bag from Tena Lady is beautiful and says “Hello Gorgeous”. It is daft but this really does make me feel better about myself and my day. Plus it came at the exact time that the plastic bag charges came in so now I can shop in style.

TENA Lady Maxi Night Duo Pack

Frequent trips to the bathroom and worries about leaks at night can stop women getting a good night’s sleep, meaning you may find your energy and confidence levels are lower than usual.

Bladder weakness is more common than you might think – half of women experience it at some point in their lives, with one in six saying it regularly disturbs their sleep.

For extra peace of mind, TENA Lady Maxi Night with Lie Down Protection gives you Triple Protection from leaks, odour and moisture. With additional length and width at the back for extra coverage and security, TENA Lady Maxi Night is specifically designed to give you confidence that lasts all night long.

For added convenience, TENA Lady, manufactured by SCA, has now introduced the new TENA Lady Maxi Night Duo Pack. Boasting twice as many pads as standard packs, the new Duo Pack format means you can catch an extra 40 winks rather than rushing to the shops to restock.

Why not take a look at them for yourself? Free samples can be ordered online at www.tena.co.uk/women

Welcome to From Blogging to Jogging and I am so excited to be hosting.

I am so looking forward to reading your talks of health, fitness and well-being. I promise to comment on each post and to promote via my social media networks.

From Blogging To Jogging is open from Monday morning until Sunday night for all your health, fitness and well-being posts so whatever your goals, healthy recipes or tips are, please do come along and join the party.

This time last year, I was diagnosed with prediabetes. Since then I have lost almost 5 stones. I even flash my bum on my blog today which goes to show how much better I am feeling about how I look these days. I have a lot more to lose but my mental wellbeing is at a all time high and I know I can tackle what remains to be done on the physical front.

Are you finding Christmas treats tempting your tastebuds?

Do the dark afternoons make you feel less like getting out and about?

What is your favourite healthy eating comfort food. I highly recommend soups which are warming, full of colour and flavour.

I am going to press publish as I am so keen to hear how you are getting on.

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I remember how my late Mum used to sing the song “You don’t bring me flowers anymore” Dad was not great at treating her to flowers. If she had asked for them, she would have had the finest but he was not spontaneously romantic.

Him Indoors is like that too. So imagine my surprise when he walked in yesterday with a huge bouquet of the most beautiful pink roses. Apparently he thinks I deserve them for putting up with him. So my first reason to be cheerful to record this week is that he does still bring me flowers 17 years after getting together.

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It seems to have been a long week and I don’t like the dark afternoons or the soggy days. No wonder we need all the fairy lights at Christmas to brighten our hearts a little. In a way recording our reasons to be cheerful is like putting the fairy lights on to focus on brightness and colour.

Here are some of this week’s bright moments

1. My son turned 15 and we had a happy day with home-made cake and the inevitable Doctor Who and Flash watching sessions. He does not ask for much but he got what he wanted. It is odd to see him starting to tower over his Dad and to see the little moustache in the making. He is a beautiful boy inside and out. He will do fine in the world. I just need to convince him of that.

2. My daughter is amusing me with her manifestos on life. She is definitely a blogger in the making! Today she started the task which she loves every year of making fine Christmas decorations out of cheap and cheerful materials.

3. My youngest son is spending more time to me snuggled up on the sofa. I found him researching something the over day and was so impressed as it was a really deep scientific subject. He is also very politically aware in a way that I don’t remember being at the age of just 10.

4. Him Indoors and I have had some lovely days together sorting out a few bits and pieces and taking long walks. He is shortly going to make one of his wonderful dinners after getting in from his late shift.

5. I am alive and I have a great family and firm friends. The awful events in the world this week make me reflect how important it is to honour and look after those who add to our lives past, present and future. I resolve to try my utmost to do so.

6. Home education is becoming more relaxed which weirdly means we are actually learning more. Great and fun experiments on acid rain and volume this week. The more chilled I get about it the more excited I get and that leads to the children also being engaged. So simple really but takes some getting used to too.

7. Finally I did more than I thought I could this week putting myself up for a rejection that did not come. How easy it is to assume the worst. Here’s to assuming the best as a more positive way to approach life.

You don’t bring me flowers anymore. Oh yes you do!