What are my reasons to be cheerful this week?

What Are My Reasons To Be Cheerful

1. Husband – we seem to be getting on very well at the moment. Lots of laughter, fun and spontaneity.

2. House-hunting – although the fact we have to move came as a bit of shock to the system, we are adapting now and enjoying looking at possibilities. Last night, we went on a drive to identify which locations might work best for us. Keep everything crossed that we find the right place and soon.

3. House – my lovely Dad has found a house with my brother that suits them both. It is even in a place beginning with H so I am certainly doing well on the H theme set by Michelle over at Mummy from the Heart this week. I don’t want to split up from Dad but it is the only way to move forwards for now.

4. Hosting – I have a new self-hosted website and I am rather excited about it. The address might fit in with “I” for next week.

5. Happiness about 3 lovely glowing school reports, about it looking like my husband might have a job interview coming up and about having friends who are there for me in times good and bad.

Short but sweet this week.

What are you chirpy about? Asking yourself “What are my reasons to be cheerful?” really can get you through the challenges life throws your way.

What are your helpful and unhelpful ways of thinking?

Now do a hop over to http://mdplife.blogspot.com and see what other folks are smiling about this week.

A Country Suite by Fiona Bennett

Do you listen to music? Are you set in your ways or are you open to new ideas?

I want to highly recommend A Country Suite, the most beautiful CD by Fiona Bennett.

There are 9 pieces of music on the CD. I like to play them when doing mundane jobs as somehow time passes pleasantly whilst playing this CD. It makes my mind wander to places much nicer that the washing up bowl in front of me.

Some pieces of music on the CD calm me and others move me. I think it is the sort of album that will be enjoyed in a unique way by the individual listening to it.

Fiona is a mum to two boys Dominic and Zachary. She also has greyhounds called Amber and Cleopatra. She seems rooted in family life both with her boys and by dedicating this album to her parents Mo and Des who did all they could to find her a wonderful piano teacher in Mary Rees. Fiona credits this lady with changing her life.

I sense the countryside means a lot to Fiona and this comes across in her work. There is a sense of the strength of nature and country traditions, a feeling that everything will pass and all will be OK.

Do you find music helps you deal with stress in your everyday life?

I wanted to explain what it feels like when everything changes very quickly.

What It Feels Like When Everything Changes Very Quickly

The first awful news causing emotional shock is that we had to put our beloved cat Max to sleep after he was attacked by a fox. There was nothing the vet could do. We were so upset and still are. Max was a gorgeous and huge ginger tom with the air of an emperor. He is sadly missed.

Then, our landlady announced she is ending our tenancy as she wants to put the house on the market as she is emigrating. We have just under 3 months to find somewhere new.

If I am honest, the loss of the house bothers me not at all. What troubles me is that it will almost inevitably bring an end to the lovely set-up we have now with my 84 year old Dad living in the annex and us in the main house. The chances of finding somewhere to accommodate us all with Dad retaining his independent are minimal to zero.

We have had a charming couple of years here with me feeling so less lonely having Dad around during the days when Him Indoors is at work and the children at school. I have enjoyed out laughs, our conversations, our shopping trips and our meals out. It is good to have such wisdom around on a daily basis and Dad often provides the most wonderful counselling for us all free of charge.

I think Dad has loved it too. Despite the chaos that comes with 3 children and pets, I think he has on the whole enjoyed it all. He adores his grandchildren and they him. I get tearful at the idea of it all coming to an end. Cheeky afternoon teas when nobody is looking, gifts for the kids on an almost daily basis, chats after school, crosswords and so much more.

Dad will probably move in with my brother about 1 hour away from us. I worry I won’t see him much and just feel a little heartbroken by that. My brother is not my greatest fan.

I know change always bring positives too and it will be fun looking for a new place. We are going to try to stay close to where we are now as we love the area and it is great for commuting and there are really good links to London when the need arises. The children are settled at school and this is a lovely place to bring up a family.

Sometimes I feel I am trying to suit so many people and I want to do it but sometimes it is tough to please everyone. I feel the weight of several responsibilities and try to be fair to everyone.

The truth is we don’t have very long to find somewhere so I guess it is a case of seizing the pivotal moment and seeing where it takes us all.

So this is what it feels like when everything changes very quickly.

As ever, wherever life takes us it all makes for blog fodder.

Wish me luck!

Do you fancy a customized sign for your home or workplace that says something about who you are and what you believe?

As a family we have a bit of a thing about surrounding ourselves with inspirational messages on signs. That’s great but increasingly you see the same messages everywhere in the real and virtual world.

Customized sign for your home or workplace

Imagine having a sign that is just for you and yours! Smartsign is the leading provider of customised signs for the home and workplace. You might want a sign to promote your blog or an inspirational quote to keep you going on the days where the juggling gets too much for you.

What messages would you want to have to inspire your children so that they remain mentally and physically well whatever the world throws at them?

Sign of the times

I fancy a sign that reminds me husband to acknowledge my housework efforts every time he gets home from work.

My daughter has loved anything to do with art and design since the first time I put crayons in her hands when she was throwing a tantrum at a party when she was about 18 months of age. She drew a colourful pattern that looked like a lizard to me. At that point we decided she was a creative genius and have encouraged her real love and passion for making up stories, writing songs and making her mark on the world with different media.

Making things has got her through dark days too particularly when she was bullied at school and when she lost her grandparents. A creative spirit helps you find your own sanctuary.

So I told her about a blogger challenge and asked her what she could come up with.

Customized Sign

I love how she has used her own handwriting and celebrated her individuality. She has used some of my favourite colours too and the frame is really different. The little heart at the end reminds me that she carried out this project with love.

Finally, even though I did not give her a specific brief at all, she has neatly made me feel better about the fact that I am no domestic goddess but I encourage creativity within our household.

 

This post is an entry into the #MyCustomSign www.smartsign.com blogger challenge.

I was recently asked to share my tips for attending a blogging event.

Does Blogging Make You Feel Less Alone

“Dear Kate on thin ice,

This will sound really silly but I have blogged for a year or so and made some good online friends. I have seen the adverts for blogging events like BritMums Live 17. I would love to attend one day to meet people in the real world and to learn more about blogging. However, I get really anxious in social situations and just think I will be left standing on my own feeling isolated and stupid.”

Dear Bricking It Blogger,

Thanks for getting in touch. The first thing to say is that your feelings are completely normal and opening up about them in a brave first step. You obviously really want to go deep down or you would not have put pen to paper about the situation. Here are my top tips based on personal experience and from talking with other bloggers.

It’s not all about you!

1. Instead of focusing on what ifs which involve you having a terrible time or making a fool of yourself, focus on the what ifs that see you making a new friend, having a giggle and just feeling like a person in your own right for a change.

2. Read about the experiences of other bloggers and you might realise just how many feel like you or have done so in the past.

3. Could you reach out to a blogger that you could travel with or at least meet up with to enter the venue together? It’s a courageous step but you could be doing that blogger a huge favour too.

Seek support

4. If you really want to go for it. contact the event organisers and ask if you could have a role at the conference perhaps on reception or even hosting a workshop. Often if we have a role, we can hide behind that label a bit.

5. Read up the facts about social anxiety and find out how you can take baby steps to overcome it.

The event itself

6. On your way to the event, perhaps read an inspirational book. I find “Feel the Fear” by Susan Jeffers very simple but also very powerful.

7. When you get to the event, look out for people who are on their own or trying to merge into a wall. A really good place to find the nervous tribe is in the loos! That is why they get so crowded!

8. If it all gets too much for you , build in breaks where you can go somewhere just to breathe and take things in a bit. You do not have to attend every aspect of blogging events.

9. Reflect that whatever your fears, it has to be worse to be sitting at home reading the social media updates from everyone who is there and having an amazing time.

The really great thing is that WHEN you go, you can come back here and say what worked best for you thereby helping others in the future.

Can anyone else share their tips for attending a blogging event to help a anxious blogger?



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