Child-free flights are on the wish list for British travellers.

Child-free Flights

Any parent knows that travelling by plane after having children is a very different experience. It can be challenging to entertain children on long flights. They may be sleepy and irritable.

I confess to waiting years before going on a plane with my children as even the thought of it made me anxious. I did not want to face the frowns of other passengers if my children behaved less than perfectly.

A new poll of 2000 Brits has revealed that a staggering 52% of us would opt for child-free flights given the opportunity. The survey carried out by HolidayHypermarket.co.uk found nearly 30 % of respondents cited noisy children and crying babies as the biggest annoyance you could experience on a plane.

Other bugbears were people encroaching on your personal space and drunken passengers

When it came to suggestions for flight improvements, 56% would pay for more spacious seats with only 27% saying they would pay extra for better food and drink.

Holiday Hypermarket representative Ian Crawford says “It’s not just children that annoy others on planes and that’s clear from the finding of our survey. It’s a tough call – many travellers have every sympathy with parents of noisy children and I’m sure there are plenty of people who would like to see family-only flights introduced as well. There have been talks of child-free flights for a while now and with some airlines introducing child-free zones, it’s good to see some compromise.”

So what do you think? Should we celebrate babies and children in any environment? Would you pay extra to secure an adults-only flight? Perhaps you have had a negative experience where an adult was at fault? I would love to know what you think so please leave a comment.

Mum Muddling Through

Welcome to my Dancewear giveaway courtesy of Dancewear Central and perfect for back to school season.

Dancewear Giveaway

The prize is worth over £50 and consists of:

•Vanity case
•Tote bag
•Water bottle
•Key ring
•Hair pins
•A4 and A5 notepads
•Legwarmers
•Pencil case
•Diary

DANCEWEAR CENTRAL

Dancewear Central is the leading specialist in dancewear throughout the UK. We believe that dance is the ultimate art form. With its creativity and beauty, dance is the perfect way to express yourself, and that’s why we only stock quality dancewear that will give you the freedom and comfort to move and perform. Everyone should be able to enjoy dance, that’s why our dance clothes are all available at affordable prices, so you can find something that suits you, whatever your budget.

Dancewear range

We stock a wide range of dancewear for men, women, girls and boys, including leotards, unitards, leggings & shorts, dance pants & tops, warm-up wear, underwear and footwear. If you have a dance exam coming up, don’t panic. We stock a wide range of dance exam and regulation wear, so you focus on practicing.

Dance accessories

We also stock the finishing touches to your dance outfit, from dance bags to keep your dancewear neat and tidy to dance shoe accessories. We’re also a proud stockist of professional and stage make-up, so you can look like a star while you dance like one.

Dancewear brands delivered directly to you

We only stock the best brands in the dance world, from Bloch to Capezio, you’ll find your favourite brands at affordable prices. We’re proud of our fast delivery service, meaning that your dancewear purchases will be with you quickly and efficiently. We offer standard, next working day and Saturday delivery with all of our products. Whether you’re a budding dancer or a professional dance teacher, one thing is for sure – you’ll find what you’re looking for at Dancewear Central.

 

 

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Money worries are something I know a lot about. Over the years I have had my own and as a debt counsellor, I have helped so many families and individuals get out of debt and manage their finances better.

One thing that always strikes me is how troublesome the emotions around money worries and debt issues can be. It is so difficult to take practical action when you are in a blind panic as to who will knock on the door next, what threatening letter will appear in the post and how you are going to manage to put on a show at Christmas for the kids.

Money worries

I asked some parents to describe their feelings when bills are high and income sometimes does not cover basis expenditure.

“When money is tight I feel suffocated and overwhelmed.” –  Kirsty

Money Worries

“I have a mental money line beneath which I get extremely stressed” – Kati

Debt problems

“I hate being in debt and wish I could be done with it once and for all” –  Claire

“I hate having money worries. When I do I am in a bad mood and miserable” –  Victoria

“Money worries can leave you feeling very lonely. When my wife was pregnant with our third child and had stopped working I didn’t want to tell her we were falling more and more into debt” -. Peter

“Completely out of my depth and very uptight” – Kimberley

Stuck

“I feel awful that we are having to be so tight with money Myself and my husband work 4 jobs between us and we still have to tell the girls no. As a parent it really hurts” -. Jade

“I hate it. It make me fell like all my options, choices and freedoms belong to somebody else like I have to justify every treat or non-essential item to some invisible banker. It makes me feel like I have no control over my future” – Luschka

Using my experience as a debt counsellor, I have put together a little money plan that will help people take baby steps to tackle money trouble. Subscribe to my blog and I will send you this resource.  This is free of charge and just might help you get on track to solving those money issues once and for all

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Getting over post-natal depression is possible and I really want women to know that as I know how truly awful the condition can be. I am writing this post to talk about some of the signs of post-natal depression that families, friends and colleagues can look for, I will also highlight some of the tools that can help a mum going through post-natal depression. I am hoping that mums who are starting to recover but might not feel that will be given hope by this post as highlight some of the signs mums are on the mend.

Getting Over Post-Natal Depression

Signs of post-natal depression

Poor personal hygience
Finding it hard to throw the duvet back in the morning
Never getting thrilled about anything
Seeking out darkness
Being scared of other people

Things that help women in getting over post-natal depression

Online support via social networks and mum groups like Net Mums and Mumsnet
Baby steps and not expecting too much of yourself
Writing or blogging it out can be helpful

Talking therapies

Getting Over Post-Natal Depression

Medication

What happens when you start to recover from post-natal depression?

Even in tiny ways you will start to feel like a somebody rather than a nobody. It is so easy to lose sight of yourself as a mum.
Tackling health issues such as needing to lose weight or gain weight
Investing in treats for yourself
Looking after yourself
Not accepting everything people dump on you
Noticing light and that there really is one at the end of the tunnel
You realize your story can help others
You stop always putting other people first
You start to say yes to positive experiences rather than hiding from them
You know you can make a fresh start
Expressing your thoughts and feelings and saying what you need
Recognizing your own talents, skills qualities and achievements
You realize you are not alone
You stop self-medicating with booze or other negative influences

Is it worth seeking help for post-natal depression?

There is lots of help out there both medication and talking therapies – neither define you as bad or mad although your poor friend depression might try to convince you of that until you get better
You will enjoy parenting in a much fuller way when you start to recover.
You will also be a better parent to your children although you are a good enough mum right now
You can make up for the dark days by making new and positive memories for you and yours

What needs to change?

Better recognition of the signs of post-natal depression
More resources for mental health services
More recognition and support for mums in the workplace

I know about getting over post-natal depression because I have done it but it was a long battle and I want to speed the recovery period up for other mums if I am able to do so.

 

 



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Wendy’s son has Down Syndrome and she kindly agreed to share her celebration of her life with him.

What is a human being?

NOUN

· A man, woman, or child of the species “Homo sapiens” , distinguished from other animals by superior mental development, power of articulate speech, and upright stance.

Son Has Down Syndrome

Personally, I believe there are many more qualities than this that make up the complex definition of a human being. Empathy, emotion, self-awareness to name but a few. What the above definition does not explain is exactly what is superior mental development? What is articulate speech? If you cannot stand upright are you less than human? Who, or what are we comparing ourselves to and who decides what makes us superior?

So many questions, and why do I ask?

My son has Down Syndrome

My son is three years old, comparative to his peers, he does not have superior mental development or articulate speech, but he is human and he has Down Syndrome. So is he less worthy of life? Current UK law classifies Down Syndrome as a severe disability and therefore allows termination up to 40 weeks. The termination rate following a positive diagnosis of Down syndrome is around 92%, in some countries it is 100%.

Hundreds of thousands of pounds of NHS money is spent improving prenatal testing in order to detect genetic ‘abnormalities’. I understand that they can also detect other syndromes such as Edward’s and Patua Syndrome, which are life limiting conditions and to know of any pre-existing condition can be the difference between life and death.

The problem I have is when archaic information is given at the time of diagnosis from medical professionals and the media generally have a negative view on Down Syndrome. If you are given nothing but a gloomy account of what a child with DS will bring you, how can you make an informed choice?

You may think that I exaggerate but some midwives are actually taught to tell parents ‘it’s bad news’. Some women have been booked in for terminations despite stating categorically that their baby is very much wanted.

So let me tell you a little bit about my son, and then you can decide if he is less worthy of life, and a burden on society who brings me nothing but hardship and misery.

Celebrating a little boy’s life

I’m usually woken at around 6 am with some chirruping sounds coming through the monitor, as I slowly awaken this turns to happy chatter (he’s a mini Alan Carr), and he happily plays in his room until I’m finished showering and dressing at around 7 am. When I go through, he has pulled all his cuddly toys and some books into his bed and he is enthusiastically hugging them and pretending to read to them. I am greeted by an indescribable smile of pure joy, I undo his sleeping bag and hold my arms out. He toddles over to me and flings his tiny arms around my neck, holding on for twenty, maybe thirty seconds of bliss. He hands me a book and we sit on the floor while I read (and sign) the story.

We have breakfast, he scoops yoghurt into his mouth (and everywhere else) while he watches Peppa Pig. Squealing in delight and running around the room when the excitement gets too much. He signals to me that he wants the milk from my cereal, it’s teamwork, he finishes what I would normally waste. At some point whilst I’m getting ready he will jump on my knee, covering me in yoghurt, stroking my hair and bouncing up and down.

When we go out we go swimming, horse riding or perhaps to a wildlife sanctuary where he can interact with the animals. He wants to hug everything, from ducks to donkeys to bunnies to birds of prey. As you can imagine some creatures are not so taken with the cuddles, some relinquish willingly.

My son is amazing, he has a zest for life that I have never seen in any other human, he has a determination that I could only dream of, he is happy, he is healthy and he is loved beyond words. These are the bits that the medical world don’t see, that the media don’t want to see.

Yes, he can be a pain in the bum and sometimes a total nightmare, can’t any child? We have our challenges, I’m a single parent so that is to be expected. But the joy that this tiny person brings to my life, and all those around him, surpasses any negatives or challenges that we may encounter. He is my teacher, my inspiration and my guiding star. He is a human being.

He is more worthy of life than so many, but there is no prenatal test to detect who will be a murderer or paedophile, but sadly there is a prenatal test for an extra chromosome.

So please, don’t feel sorry for me or give me pity, Be jealous, because I get to see life through the eyes of a child with Down Syndrome, I get to see life through the eyes of Elijah with wondrous excitement and awe.

Elijah, you are my world, and without you in it, I would cease to exist.

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Thanks so much Wendy for sharing your story with  us and for showing that yes your son has Down Syndrome but is very much an individual in his own right.

 

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