I am a week away from my milestone birthday. How I have managed to survive 5 decades on the planet is a mystery. I intend to celebrate and to be proud of how far I have come through good times and bad. So for a bit of fun I thought I would imagine all the things I would like to have in my life over the next year or so. I should warn that the items on this list may be quite random – welcome to my world!

A is for Afternoon Tea and Abacus. Afternoon Tea is always delightful and I had an abacus years ago. There is something lovely about an abacus and I would like another one.

B is for blankets, Baileys and books. I love to read and am managing to find time to do it recently after a long dry spell. As my late Mum said, you are never truly lonely if you have a good book and fond memories. Baileys should speak for itself and I know is a guilty pleasure for many of my readers too. Blankets are important because I like to keep warm and snuggly. In fact, if I had enough blankets, I could also have a beach hut all year round!

C is for cushions, champagne and chaise longue. My other half hates cushions so the only ones we have are in my daughter’s room or in storage. My Mum always had cushions and I would like some of my own on the sofa to be enjoyed. Champagne is something I only truly enjoyed when I was a teenager on French exchange. It was very good and I think it spoiled me for lesser versions. So I am on a mission to find a lovely bottle of Champagne. I had a chaise longue but it was not retro enough and actually not very comfy either.

D is for duvets and decanters. I do enjoy duvets and the higher the tog the better. I want a decanter because my parents had them and so this one is pure nostalgia really.

E was a letter I struggled with. A friend suggested eroticism and once I find out what that is, I may well consider it.

F is for flowers and I would like some to be delivered every week. My other half buys them so rarely for me so I have started buying them myself from time to time. I would love the luxury of them just turning up on the same day every week.

G is easy because I have wanted a globe drinks cabinet for years. I know why of course. It is because my amazing Uncle Lawrence had one in the Seventies when we used to visit him regularly at his flat in London. I would also like a glitterball because I have just always fancied one.

H is another letter I struggled with. A friend suggested a hot tub but I would want one to myself as I am such a shy, introverted woman.

I is for Impressionist prints. I have always loved Impressionist paintings. I chose a card with one on to present to my parents when I got into Cambridge and we all took a day off from life to celebrate going to Ilkley and indulging in hot chocolate fudge cake.

J is another letter I struggled with. I used to want a Jaguar but I think that moment has passed. Maybe I will just settle for jelly either with ice-cream or in a trifle just like my Mum used to make – boozy and with deep layers of cake, jelly, custard and cream.

K is for kiss. I would like to have a kiss from someone who really wants to put one my way. Don’t they say you have to kiss a frog who will turn into a Prince?!

L is for lighthouses. My late Dad started this one off I think as he took us to Flamborough a lot. I used to hate it at the time but nowadays I love all things lighthouses and have often thought I would like to live in one. L is also for lamps because I would like to have lots of them just like my Mum did and have seen some spectacular ones recently in vibrant colours and that give off aromatherapy scents too.

M is for music, maxi skirts and Mah-Jong. I love an eclectic range of music. My other half does not like me to play it loud.  As he now has poor hearing and we have a bigger place, I can get away with it more. I keep wearing trousers and miss having maxi skirts but cannot seem to find any in the shops here. If anyone knows a good online store for maxi skirts, let me know. Mah-Jong is a game that my lovely Uncle gave me years ago but I was too young and could not grasp the rules. I do remember the set was beautiful and would like to finally learn the game before I am older and even more grey.

I warned you it would be random!

I will work on N-Z tomorrow!!

If you had to pick just one item off my list to receive yourself, what would it be?

Milestone Birthday

 

 

My first highlight has just happened as I thought my laptop had finally died on me but I seem to have managed to give it the kiss of life. I hate it when technology goes wrong and am the sort that could quite happily throw whatever gadget is playing up through the window. Anyway, I am here to report the happier stuff in my life right now.

1. Birthday news

Despite all my cynicism, it appears my husband has planned some nice things for my birthday. Apparently there is a meal in my favourite place and I will be getting a special artwork too. Just a couple of weeks to go now to the big milestone birthday. Looks like I will be spending it in my new front room with many of my favourite characters too. That will be a great start to what I intend to be an amazing year where I treat myself loads.

2. Home education

I got very stressed about home education this week. This is not an uncommon event as I worry so much that I won’t help my children enough and will eventually screw up their lives totally. My 18 year old had a lovely conversation with me and we have a new plan for the New Year. I will set my independent-minded daughter tasks for the whole week and she will report in at the end of the week. This will mean I can focus on my son who prefers to work with me right next to him. School is still an option for him too if I am honest but I don’t need to decide today. I remind myself once again how beautiful, wise and sensitive my new man is. Also maths is going really well which was always one of my challenges – we set work and they do it happily. My husband seems to be finally getting involved too so I feel a little less alone with it all.

3. Cookery

I have cooked with my daughter this week and she felt a real sense of achievement in cooking a meal that everyone enjoyed. We are also busy sorting out her clothes as she has some that are too small now that can go to the clothing bank. She keeps her room really nice these days and it is a lovely sanctuary for her when she needs quiet space of wants to listen to music, write or draw.

4. Shopping

I have started a new system of doing a big shop on Monday. This means the fridge, cupboards and freezer are stocked up. It turns out way cheaper and means I always have food in to inspire meals made from scratch. I tell you, I will nail this wife and mum business by the time I reach the milestone birthday after the next one. Yes it will take 10 years or more for me to reach your dizzy heights of domestic amazing-ness!

5. Good weekend

We did our usual meal out with my son on Saturday lunchtime. It means a lot to him and as he is talking about leaving home, I must make the most of these precious memory-building times. On the Sunday, we went to a car boot sale.

6. Telly nights

With cold days, I am enjoying hibernating a bit with the log fire going and trash telly like “I’m a Celeb” – I hate the trials bit but like the group interaction part. I can always pick up a book to read a bit during the trials.

7. Putting myself first

I have had some unhappy moments this week as I am not sure what I want to do next in life. I feel I am not making as much of a difference in the world as I would like to do so. This makes me quite envious of some of my son’s plans to change the world. I used to be like that and miss making a contribution to society. Having said that, that gives impetus to research some options for the New Year. I am worrying about housework less. I do not have to do it all nor do I have to do it in moments when I don’t feel like it. That weirdly leads to me getting far more done and more efficiently too. I am having lovely walks with my son and dogs through the beautiful forest. I am reading more. I am reflecting on the blog too and where it goes next. Part of that will be going back to basics and what led me to blogging in the first place.

Will that do?


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