The highs and lows of 2014

Here is something I do on the blog every year. It is good to look back and reflect on a whole year. It helps to put things in perspective. I always tag people to do a post using the same questions but anyone should feel free to join in. Just take the questions and answer them in a way that makes sense to you and preferably although it is not a rule say that the idea for the post came from this blog.

Here is my 2014

1. What was your happiest event?

Seeing my husband get back into work so we could move forwards with our lives and discover a new area.

2. What was the saddest thing to happen?

Seeing my daughter hating herself after bullying by staff and children in her new school.

3. What was the most unlikely thing to happen that actually went ahead and did?

Me becoming a home educator. I have always fancied the idea but gave up on it as Him Indoors was very against the concept. Then 2014 showed me that sometimes home education is a necessity rather than an option.

4. Who let you down?

My daughter’s new school in blaming her for being shy and sensitive rather than looking for tools to help her settle into her new school.

5. Who supported you?

My husband. He always believes in me. He has made mistakes as have I but we are fundamentally a formidable team.

Auntie S.

Bloggers. So many do this throughout the year. I look back and remember so many encouraging tweets, offers of telephone numbers, emails and comments. I appreciate them all. They sustain me.

Home educators and also teachers who have helped me find my way on what is a very exciting but also daunting journey.

The Professor – a steady reminder that someone watches from afar and wishes me well.

Facebook friends from school, college, working life and places I have lived. I got more into Facebook this year having always looked down my nose at it before.

My half-sisters. I must try and make meeting them one day a reality.

My children – three amazing souls who take me as I am and love me all the same.

6. Tell us what you learned

That I spent 10 years in darkness when all I needed to do was go and get some anti-depressants.

That you should never give up hope.

That security is an illusion but that there is freedom in that very fact.

That I should have been far more vigilant about the education system.

That I need to look after my physical health better.

7. Tell us what made you laugh

We laughed more this year generally as things started to settle down for us.

My teenage son telling me over and over that a girl was “just a friend”

My sons covering their ears as my daughter continues to sing at any given moment.

Spending more time with my children allowing us to be daft and crazy sometimes.


8. Tell us the things that made you cry

I cried when I empathised with others this year.

9. Tell us three things your child or children did to make you feel proud.

My oldest son is growing into a lovely young man. He treats me all the time and wants to spend time with me. He has settled well into his new school and made friends. He has developed a keen interest in philosophy and questions everything.

My daughter stuck to her guns leading to her becoming very unpopular with her Head Master. Like myself, she may not always be easy to be around but she is genuine and hates unfairness. I am so very proud that she stood up to authority. I love how she has committed herself to learning at home.

My youngest son being so supportive of his Dad. Also his interest in cooking and how he teaches me as much as I teach him.

10. Tell us the things that made you proud of yourself.

Finally going and getting my depression treated.

Entering a writing competition and putting some real effort into my fiction.

Keeping on keeping on through challenges.

Taking on home education and knowing that my daughter’s mental wellbeing had to come first.

Losing weight.

Reaching out to suggest social events with others.

11. Tell us the challenges you overcame

Depression. This has blighted my life for a decade. I felt it was OK for others to seek help but not me. In the end, all I had to do was see a GP, get some happy pills and see myself in the mirror again. Simples.

12. Tell us the things you would like to change about your life in 2015.

1. To continue to make progress in work.

2. To continue to lose weight and get fitter.

3. To forgive myself for the things I am not perfect at. Why should anyone be good at everything?

4. To do better at blogging and also to actively seek other writing and social media opportunities.

5. To get involved in home education meetings.

6. To continue to build on friendships and have some fun.

7. I quite fancy seeing if I would be any good as a visitor to a lonely old person.

8. To not stress about the goals I do not reach.

Over to you. Any blogger can have a go at this one if they fancy reflecting back on the year. What were your highs and lows of 2014?

Tagging some lovely bloggers

@AutismMumma @OjosWorld @sarahjchristie @messedupmum @CupcakeMumma11 @usthreebythesea @IndigoChlo @dragonsflypoppy @Glasgow_Mummy @needaphone @pndandme @SonyaCisco @TheBeezleyBuzz

If you choose to take part, please tag at 3 or more other bloggers.

7 thoughts on “The highs and lows of 2014”

  1. Pingback: Tagged – My Highs and Lows of 2014 » AutismMumma
  2. I love this post and your reflections on the year. The thing about your daughter being bullied by staff at her new school?? That made me shudder, the poor girl. Good luck in your home education journey, it’s something that we may consider in the future. I think Maz’s children are probably younger than yours, but I find this blog about home education really inspirational so I just thought I’d share it in case you could use some inspiration: All the best to you all for 2015.x

  3. I haven’t visited in a few months and I’m really pleased that things are working out for you after so much upheaval, particularly that you have taken so well to the home education.

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