If you are in your late 40s or in your 50s you are likely to be in perimenopause (which means ‘around menopause’) or in menopause to some degree. You may be aware of or suffering from the possible symptoms that come with this stage in a woman’s life such as; disrupted sleep, mood swings, weight gain around the middle, fatigue, loss of libido etc.
Thankfully menopause and the potential solutions to help women deal with its symptoms are more widely discussed. There are many different options that you could consider to help cope with or improve the symptoms of menopause, such as, HRT, acupuncture, exercise and even switching to a plant-based diet.
The problem for many women is that it can be overwhelming and they just don’t know where to start, and in many cases, this means they don’t start. When this happens symptoms often get worse and a person’s mental health suffers which can lead to anxiety or depression.
Other midlife challenges
In midlife, we are dealing with all that menopause brings along with the thoughts and stresses of life in our 50s such as:
- Ageing parents
- Children leaving home (or not!)
- The arrival of grandchildren
- Relationship problems with our partners
- Wondering what is next in life
- Loss of purpose
Very often we reflect on our midlife selves and think what the hell happened?
We get battered and knocked about by life and very often find ourselves a bit lost. More worryingly we’ve stopped listening to our inner voice and stopped living life to the full. The good news is that you do not need to deal with all of this alone and this is where a life coach could be a good solution for you.
How can a life coach help women deal with menopause & midlife?
Life coaching is about identifying how we want to change our lives (or indeed the world) and then moving all the fear and limiting beliefs that block us from letting out our brilliance. In life there are no formulas for how to be our most brilliant selves, living to our full potential, everyone has to figure this out and that is where a coach helps.
A good coach can help you:
- Identify new goals
When dealing with the desire to change your life you need to start with the “things” you want to achieve. These “things” or goals, may include specific wellness goals such as losing weight, creating new exercise habits, eliminating bad habits such as smoking or drinking too much.
You might create new goals relating to purpose, relationships, work, hobbies. A coach will help you determine what’s important to you.
- Design an action plan
Once you have decided what your goals are it is important to come up with a clear action plan to help you actually achieve your goals. This is where a coach will help you plan for success with a personalised action plan you can follow.
- Build a positive mindset
Having a positive mindset is vital as this will help you stick to your action plan and achieve your goals. A coach will help you learn to silence your inner critic and be kinder to yourself, helping you to maintain a positive mindset.
- Be supported in overcoming the obstacles
A life coach will support you and help you overcome the barriers that are stopping you from being consistent in your new behaviours. By working with a life coach you can be held accountable (in a nice and supportive way) as you will have to answer to another person for your actions. This motivates you to stay on track with your goals.
What do women say about working with a life coach?
Helena Bailey of Phoenix Coaching is a qualified life coach who works solely with women in midlife to create the lives, and changes women crave; setting them out on the next phase of their lives with renewed vigour and purpose.
Helena asked one of her clients what it was like to have a life coach and she said:
“What makes you such a powerful ally is that even when I think all the odds are stacked against me, you know the only things in my way are my bullshit limiting beliefs and my fear of failing. All my excuses and sob stories are received with a knowing smile and an invitation to see my challenges from another perspective.”
Thoughts from a women’s midlife coach
Helena says “Midlife is a time of opportunity, we often end up in our 40s and 50s having the life we told ourselves we should have or our upbringing dictates. But deep inside we feel an electric restlessness – our imagination is begging to be released and a new life shaped.
Sometimes I hear “maybe when we retire” thrown about… but THIS is the very time that you have the experience and energy to make change happen. If you feel there has to be more, then this is the time for a personal revolution.”