Life goes on after loss

When I was on holiday with my son in France, there was a lovely, life-affirming moment which proves that life goes on after loss. I did not say anything to him for fear of upsetting him. I did not mention it to my brother either. As ever, the blog is a safe place to share it.

We visited a café and sat outside in the sunshine. My son ordered a pancake with lemon. He clearly enjoyed it very much.


I remember a day when he would not eat one.

This post will only really make sense if you read tough post on my old blog.

My mum died in September 2009 and almost 5 years later her son, daughter and grandson went on a holiday to France.

The day where my son would not eat a pancake is also the one where my parents and my brother cancelled a holiday to France because she just could not face it with the horrors of her illness.

In 2012, Dad was due to go on holiday to France with my brother but did not go as his final illness took hold.

Yet in July 2014, my son sat happily in the sunshine on his first visit to France eating his pancake completely unaware of how very much this meant to his Mum.

Life goes on. You think it won’t but it does and in time you smile at memories instead of being devastated by them.

Now that is a kind of magic.


  1. Ojo Henley August 25, 2014 / 12:03 pm

    So glad you’ve got to this point. It took me a long time to smile after losing my grandad, but I often think of him now, with nothing but fondness xx

  2. Jaime Oliver August 25, 2014 / 1:58 pm

    aww Kate moments like this are so very special at helping us heal just a little bit x

    Thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments lovely x

  3. Steph @MisplacedBrit August 25, 2014 / 6:58 pm

    These are the magic moments.
    The trip that she missed, she made this time, in your thoughts and in your hearts <3

  4. Yvette August 26, 2014 / 7:12 pm

    I’ve just read your ‘tough post’ too, both made me well up for different but similar reasons. Loss is so hard but eases so slightly, so gradually that it can take a pancake-in-France-with-your-son moment to feel the shift. A beautiful, and magic moment for sure.

  5. Somethings Crunchy Mummy February 12, 2016 / 6:07 pm

    Oh bless you, life really does go on and it’s a lot easier with kids. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

  6. Harriet from Toby & Roo February 2, 2017 / 12:28 pm

    This is such an uplifting post – I will read your old blog post in a minute but I think this is lovely Thanks for linking up with #bigpinklink H x

  7. Brandi Puga February 2, 2017 / 4:03 pm

    It’s really amazing what people can get through, how they change over time and convert pain into memories that bring smiles….lovely post #bigpinklink

  8. Sarah TheRealLaraShoe February 8, 2018 / 5:33 pm

    I’m glad you are able to smile at your memories. Time is definitely a healer. Thanks for sharing and linking up wtih us #FabFridayPost

  9. Su {Ethan & Evelyn} February 8, 2018 / 7:39 pm

    I’m so sorry for your lost. I know what you mean. My sister passed away two years ago, but it still feels like yesterday that we were still laughing together. Life does go on. Hold on to the magic while it there. <3

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