Abusive relationships, whether they last a few months or a few years, can have a detrimental effect on the rest of a person’s life. And whilst you may never forget what happened, there are ways you can find strength and courage to move on and make the best of your life.

One way you can do this is claiming compensation from the CICA scheme, which allows victims of abuse to gain some independence and use this money to set up a new life, take a holiday, find a new home or even just treat yourself. It can be a difficult process but CICA UK can make the claim on your behalf to take away some of the stress.

Whilst you might move on physically it can take a long time to do this mentally, especially when it comes to trusting someone new. When it comes to these hard times it’s important to take some time for yourself, a little bit of simple self care can make the world of difference.

This simple care tips can help you to relax and refocus so you’re not focusing on the past.

Take a day for yourself

Sometimes taking a day off from work, or switching your phone off on the weekend and staying in bed could be all you need. There’s no problem in taking time for yourself, whether it’s to catch up on some good Netflix shows or just taking the time to read a book.

See friends or family

It can be easy to think that being alone is the best option when you’re feeling down or anxious, but sometimes isolation isn’t the best option. Seeing your friends and family is a great way of reinforcing the fact that you’re not alone. You don’t even have to leave the house, a simple phone call or nipping round for a cup of tea could be all you need to lift your spirits.

Get outside

Talking a long walk outside can help to clear the mind and give you a fresh perspective on life. If you’re looking for a reason to get outside more, may be a dog could be what you need, a couple of walks outside a day with a pooch could be what you need to help boost your mood.

Take a trip

Is there a place on your bucket list you’ve always wanted to visit? Then take a trip. This can be alone or with friends or family if you prefer. Giving yourself this independence to visit a new place can do wonders for your confidence and make you feel like your own person again.

Give yourself a pamper

Don’t underestimate the power of a long bath, a face mask and some new pyjamas and what it can do for your mood. Just taking a little time for yourself, such as painting your nails can be really therapeutic and relaxing.
If you’re feeling really indulgent you could even take a trip to a spa for a real pamper.

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Open days allow you to get a feel for a potential university and your future academic study. They are often packed with various talks, activities and tours; it’s important to try and get the most out of these days so here a few things to do to make sure the trip is worthwhile.

The first thing to keep in mind is to try and split your time equally between your potential course and getting a feel for the university itself. It’s important to know that both of these are a right fit for you and not just one or the other. Of course, it is different for each student, and a course of study that’s perfect for you might outweigh worries you have about the social side of the university. On the other hand, you might find yourself willing to compromise on the course if you find a university you know you’ll be happy to study at for three years or more. Overall these are two equally important areas and both deserve consideration, therefore make sure you get to know your potential faculty and talk to the staff wherever possible, but make sure you also take tours of the student accommodation and social areas, and talk to current students about their experience of studying and living in the area.

Take your time to make the most of the students at the open days. Students will often be a lot more honest with you and have a closer understanding of what you find important than university staff will. Of course, don’t go around harassing busy students on their way to lectures, but talk to the student ambassadors (often wearing very visible clothing or badges) who are there to tell you as honestly as possible what you want to know. They may be getting paid by the university for this service, but they are people who have gone through the same decision process you are currently going through, and want to help you make the right decision.

Often, your potential university can be quite far away from your current home. This might mean a long trip to get there and potentially going to towns or cities you’ve never been to before. Make sure to take the time to explore your potential new town or city. It can be a chance to see what is available outside of student life and other housing options such as Wolverhampton student accommodation, which offers city centre benefits while still being in student style accommodation. This can be particularly worth checking out if you know your potential university has limited on campus housing.

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Have you heard of Aquaphor? I had not done so but was delighted to receive a sample and see how it helped my family’s skin in these colder months. We all know that Winter brings its challenges including chapping, chafing and so on. I love my walks in the forest and am finding Aquaphor is keeping my skin in tip top condition despite the challenging conditions.

Skincare in my family

I take my skin for granted. I seem to have inherited good skin genes and rarely get even so much as a spot. I also feel as it is so rare that I put any make-up on that my skin benefits from the good old-fashioned benefits of fresh air. I did not get the common teenage acne. As menopause approaches, my skin can be a little dry from time to time but not enough for me to stress about it. Over the years through talking to female friends, I am aware of how lucky I am to be able to count on my skin and not have to spend a small fortune on products.

My husband has to think about his skin al the time because often it hurts. He has three forms of psoriasis. He had it when I met him and it fluctuates in severity. However, it is a rare day when he is pain free and he constantly feels the need to itch.  It isn’t nice for him or us as a family but there is no cure and treatments have not had much impact. Often he will wake in the night due to the condition so is often operating on limited sleep with all that that entails.

My children are all now teenagers but have inherited my good skin. They have the odd spot but nothing major.

Aquaphor review

Aquaphor is a balm so you do not need huge amounts. I have used it to moisturise my skin and it feels good to be taking care of myself a little better than usual.


We are looking after two kittens at the moment too so scratches are inevitable. Once again, it was good to have Aquaphor to hand.

Impressive results

For us, we were really surprised when my husband tried it on his psoriasis. He has tried injections, light therapy and other treatments over a number of decades. He found Aquaphor gave him full relief from itching and pain for almost 24 hours. When I asked him what he thought, his answer was “I would like some more!” which I guess speaks volumes.

Aquaphor details
  • Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm gives dry to very dry, cracked and irritated skin the SOS care it needs
  • Formulated with only seven ingredients, Aquaphor is gentle enough to be used on highly irritated skin as well as on sensitive baby skin and also in the nappy area
  • Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm protects the skin by creating a breathable protective barrier, allowing oxygen and water vapor to circulate to and from the skin, allowing skin to ‘breathe’ and strengthen its natural barrier function
  • The Eucerin Aquaphor formula was first introduced in the US market in 1925 and has been a household staple ever since – long trusted for its effectiveness in repairing a wide range of skin SOS cases
Conclusion

It seems a no-brainer to invest in Aquaphor. I love how it is a multi-purpose product so if you skin is in trouble even chapped lips or cracked skin on feet, it is just what you need. For us, the relief my husband got from his psoriasis symptoms was a relief to the whole family too and just in time for Christmas.

This post is an entry for the BritMums #MyAquaphor Challenge, sponsored by Eucerin. Discover the benefits of Eucerin https://www.eucerin.co.uk/products/aquaphor/soothing-skin-balm-45ml

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Musings Of A Tired Mummy

My first highlight has just happened as I thought my laptop had finally died on me but I seem to have managed to give it the kiss of life. I hate it when technology goes wrong and am the sort that could quite happily throw whatever gadget is playing up through the window. Anyway, I am here to report the happier stuff in my life right now.

1. Birthday news

Despite all my cynicism, it appears my husband has planned some nice things for my birthday. Apparently there is a meal in my favourite place and I will be getting a special artwork too. Just a couple of weeks to go now to the big milestone birthday. Looks like I will be spending it in my new front room with many of my favourite characters too. That will be a great start to what I intend to be an amazing year where I treat myself loads.

2. Home education

I got very stressed about home education this week. This is not an uncommon event as I worry so much that I won’t help my children enough and will eventually screw up their lives totally. My 18 year old had a lovely conversation with me and we have a new plan for the New Year. I will set my independent-minded daughter tasks for the whole week and she will report in at the end of the week. This will mean I can focus on my son who prefers to work with me right next to him. School is still an option for him too if I am honest but I don’t need to decide today. I remind myself once again how beautiful, wise and sensitive my new man is. Also maths is going really well which was always one of my challenges – we set work and they do it happily. My husband seems to be finally getting involved too so I feel a little less alone with it all.

3. Cookery

I have cooked with my daughter this week and she felt a real sense of achievement in cooking a meal that everyone enjoyed. We are also busy sorting out her clothes as she has some that are too small now that can go to the clothing bank. She keeps her room really nice these days and it is a lovely sanctuary for her when she needs quiet space of wants to listen to music, write or draw.

4. Shopping

I have started a new system of doing a big shop on Monday. This means the fridge, cupboards and freezer are stocked up. It turns out way cheaper and means I always have food in to inspire meals made from scratch. I tell you, I will nail this wife and mum business by the time I reach the milestone birthday after the next one. Yes it will take 10 years or more for me to reach your dizzy heights of domestic amazing-ness!

5. Good weekend

We did our usual meal out with my son on Saturday lunchtime. It means a lot to him and as he is talking about leaving home, I must make the most of these precious memory-building times. On the Sunday, we went to a car boot sale.

6. Telly nights

With cold days, I am enjoying hibernating a bit with the log fire going and trash telly like “I’m a Celeb” – I hate the trials bit but like the group interaction part. I can always pick up a book to read a bit during the trials.

7. Putting myself first

I have had some unhappy moments this week as I am not sure what I want to do next in life. I feel I am not making as much of a difference in the world as I would like to do so. This makes me quite envious of some of my son’s plans to change the world. I used to be like that and miss making a contribution to society. Having said that, that gives impetus to research some options for the New Year. I am worrying about housework less. I do not have to do it all nor do I have to do it in moments when I don’t feel like it. That weirdly leads to me getting far more done and more efficiently too. I am having lovely walks with my son and dogs through the beautiful forest. I am reading more. I am reflecting on the blog too and where it goes next. Part of that will be going back to basics and what led me to blogging in the first place.

Will that do?


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Property ownership is not just about living in a home. You may also want tips on increasing your property value so that you can sell it on at some point. Perhaps your house is already on the market and you are finding it difficult to sell. Did you know there are tangible ways of increasing your property value by putting some effort into landscaping? I was impressed with a report from Sloane and Sons telling you the best ways to go about it.

First impressions

When a potential purchaser visits your home, it is great if they are impressed even before they get to the front door. It is a really good idea to tie in the period and style of your house with the outside space. Also ensure your outside space has interest and colour all year around because you cannot guarantee the date that your perfect buyer will arrange to call. If there is anything unsightly around such as a wheelie bin, work out ways to mask it from view.

Think about your ideal purchaser

Make it simple for the buyer so perhaps decking works well with a modern home whereas someone looking at an escape to the country may want roses around the door. Your estate agent is your friend as they will probably be far better than you at guessing what sort of individual or family are most likely to make you an offer. If in doubt research shows that a balance of grass, low-maintenance plants and a pleasant seating area appeals to many. Most purchasers will appreciate that there will not be loads of work to do when they move in but will also want the scope to stamp their personality on the outside space. It’s a balancing act.

Simple and effective landscaping tips

Sometimes things don’t have to cost a lot to make a big impression. Edging your lawn properly is one of them. Placing trellis to hide a bin or similar is another. These immediately promote the idea that your home is well cared for and kept clean and tidy. Having a shed means potential buyers can see storage possibilities or even an escape from other family members. A patio or decking area will have them dreaming of social events and barbecues. Lighting can be over-looked and yet makes a huge difference to the ambience of your outside space.

Consult the experts

If you are like me, you may not have a lot of gardening knowledge. The wonderful news it that people who love gardening also generally like to share their expertise. Talk to a green-fingered friend or family member. Call in at your local garden centre and ask for advice. If you really don’t have a clue and have let your garden go, consider hiring a landscape gardener.

For more guidance check out Landscaping Tips That Will Increase Your Property Value today.

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