Positives from my week

I am going to try to ensure I count my blessings every week on my blog this year. It is always good to reflect on what is going well and all to easy to slip into negative thinking with the focus on things that are less than perfect.

1. We are getting more quality time as family after my planning exercise early in the New Year. Even if things don’t always happen according to the master plan because somebody is tired or whatever, the commitment to the quality time means that it does happen so much more. We had a tea out with my daughter on Monday and just took it in our stride when wraps were not available taking the opportunity to enjoy cake instead. We went for hot chocolate afterwards and I was thrilled that my timid daughter summoned up the courage to shake hands with two men.

My big one-on-one times with my new adult son consist of morning or late night debates on history and politics. We also get out every day for a walk in the forest with the dogs, cat and kittens. Whatever the weather, this is good for the soul and makes you realise other stuff can be left behind to get to when necessary if at all. Something tells me these walks will be very fond memories for him when he leaves me.I would like to think so anyway.

My younger son works best with me in the kitchen. We have cooked together including a brilliant cheesy chicken dish that was gorgeous and new to us. We also like to bake. Writing this makes me aware it is time we mixed it up for him so I will plan something new for us to enjoy together.

2. Home education is making pleasing progress and I think it almost inevitably will always be a work in progress as our interests and circumstances change. Perhaps that is OK and I should relax about it all more. I am reading about home education regularly now as it is good to have someone to hold your hand on what can be an emotionally wobbly journey.

French lessons are going well and if we get behind we just add in more the next day. I picked up some new books at a car boot sale including a huge book of French poetry from across the ages, one on conjugating verbs and one on fun maths challenges.

A clear-out of a cupboard is also revealing resources that I had forgotten we had. I want to stress less and enjoy more in our home education journey this year.

The other day with all the Brexit stuff going on it was so impressive to hear my children discussing politics and history with such knowledge and insight. It made me think we might be doing OK after all.

3. My disturbed nights of sleep made me very tired the other day. I even struggled to get out of bed. However, I am pleased to report that I have had two excellent nights of sleep and am hoping this is the start of a new chapter.

4. The weather seems to be getting a little warmer and we have lovely sunshine today. As soon as I got up today, I took the dog for a longer walk than usual and on my own. My lazy Beagle stayed in bed but came out with us later for the big forest walk. Warmer weather means we won’t need as many logs which is good as all saves the pennies.

5. The refugees charity got back to my husband and don so we just need to work out suitable dates for them to go and volunteer there.

6. Housework is happening. I am not making it a huge issue anymore. My drive to keep things spick and span ends up as just another battle I will lose so I will do it but try to keep in mind it does not define me. One thing that has gone really well is a decluttering exercise and a very cluttered cupboard is now looking more streamlined. I am working out that I can give some heirlooms away as the children do not want them so they simply stay gathering dust.

7. My husband and I rumble along. We have so many good times getting out and about. We went to a car boot type event on Sunday and bought very little apart from lovely ham and pate sandwiches and a chocolate mousse. We are having Scrabble nights which we both enjoy.

8. I need to develop my independence more. I might work up my way to going out on my own and perhaps should set that as a challenge for myself. In the depressive years, I got too co-dependent and that’s not healthy. I am pursuing my own interests more and am delighted that I have finished one novel and am well into another book so early in the year. I actually have two other books that I dip into too so all very good.

9. I got out to the bar on Friday. It was strangely quiet leading me to say it was about as exciting as an episode of Countryfile. It warmed up as me and my husband chatted away with me revealing apparently for the first time that I used to be an anchor man in tug of war at school. My husband commented how surprising that was as I was so slender back then. It’s true but I was called fat and ugly then and it remained my self-perception for so many years. These days I celebrate who I am more. It was good to end Friday with a man blowing a kiss and winking at me and I may have wiggled my generous bum as I passed another bloke.

10. Finally this week I count my blessings that I am still alive. I heard of the death of a college peer. It’s a wake-up call as these things always are to make the most of every day.

Wishing all my readers a lovely week ahead.

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  • Candi

    These posts give such a wonderfully rounded picture of your life, well the good bits anyway and they do hint at the difficulties too: I like that you temper them with a bit of realism. Congratulations on your novel! I will have to check that out. And for juggling so many tasks, relationships and home educating. It’s a phenomenal achievement x

  • midlifesinglemum

    I’m a bit envious of those forest walks. Actually I’m envious of that whole lifestyle of being your own boss and not having to jump to schedules set by other people. xxx

  • Rosie Doal

    I really like this, Kate. I’ve read a lot of positive posts and gratitude posts recently and it makes me want to start it too – just to celebrate the ups in life a lot more. I’m glad you’re spending QT as a family. Weather getting warmer is always great news and after reading about the death of your college peer, Polly, it’s good to see the appreciation of life. We should all be grateful for each day we are on this earth x #TriumphantTales

  • Jean | Delightful Repast

    Kate, this was so lovely. I really enjoyed reading about all your happenings, and it’s wonderful to see someone being so positive about all the good things rather than just noticing the bad. Lots of mums would be thrilled to being doing things with their sons as you do. Maybe your cooking son could find something he’d like to try on my blog! #triumphanttales

  • JakiJellz

    I like to read positive posts especially with everything that is going on with us at the moment. It helps to keep everything in perspective. Thanks for sharing with #TriumphantTales

  • nightwisprav3n

    It’s a very good idea to remember the good things that are happening. It has been way too easy to focus on the negative, especially with so much negative in the media and on social media. But thinking about the positives allows us to step back and reflect, and it gives us a moment to breathe and be thankful. #AnythingGoes

  • Helen - from Mummy to Mum

    I’ve started to do this with my children. They have a diary each and we try to write in one good/happy/positive thing that happened to them that day – it allows me to see what makes them happy and they can really understand how to keep positive.

    I love your list – I think I need to sit down and re=evaluate mine too and what I need to do more of!

  • Tracey Carr

    It’s great to see Kate that you are focusing so much on all of the positives in your life. It’s something that we should all do. When you sit down and think about it you realise that there is so much to be thankful for. A lovely post! #ablogginggoodtime

  • mackenzieglanville

    Love this Kate, it is great to look back and see the positives when it is so easy to focus on the negatives isn’t it! So happy to read this, sending love

  • mackenzieglanville

    Hello my lovely, just popping back to say you are my featured blogger this week! Hope you can pop by and grab your Featured Writer badge xx #Ablogginggoodtime

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