Something inside so strong

Have you seen all my excitement after my husband was finally offered a job?

We envisaged an move to a beautiful area with vibrant cities, beautiful countryside and the sea.

We thought we might get back on our feet financially after months of struggling on paying out thousands of pounds in interview expenses. Keeping on keeping on and working with blind faith fuelled by the support of generous spirits in the real and online world.

The phone call came today.

The Royal British Legion have stymied us yet again. Their reference merely confirms that dates that my husband worked for them. Nothing about his loyalty, skills, experience or even the fact he left because of redundancy.

The potential employer is clearly concerned at this turn of events.

So now we sit and wait to see if whatever evidence we can pull together will be enough to convince the potential employer that my husband will be an asset to their organisation.

I want some time because I would quite like to let the stress of the last few months out with a good crying session.

I swear. I shout. I feel bitter at the injustice of it all.

Then I remember I am very much my late mother’s daughter and start to take action.

As I start to have my say and to come up with practical steps to move us forward, this song comes to mind. It was a favourite back in the day and seems apt right now.

The higher you build your barriers the taller I become – we will find a way forward despite the difficulties the Legion are putting in our way

You can deny me. You can decide to turn your face away – we are hurt that an organisation that claims to stand shoulder to shoulder with ex-service people has turned its back on our family when my husband was a loyal member of staff and is ex-forces himself.

Something inside so strong. I know that I can make it – I have the support of people with good hearts on and offline. I have the “backbone” that my mother instilled into me. I can be strong for my husband and children as she was for hers.

The more you refuse to hear my voice.The louder I will sing – Ain’t that the truth!

My light will shine so brightly – you betcha!

Brothers and sisters
When they insist we’re just not good enough
When we know better
Just look ’em in the eyes and say
I’m gonna do it anyway
I’m gonna do it anyway

Bet your bottom dollar this family is about to overcome whatever it takes.


Because there is something inside so strong!

Wednesday Words


  1. MummyTries February 12, 2014 / 7:03 pm

    Fabulous post Kate! Stay positive and focussed, and try not to let the injustice get to you too much. Fingers crossed for hubby and hugs for you lovely lady xx #WednesdayWords

  2. Mummy Plum February 12, 2014 / 10:40 pm

    So glad to hear that your husband has been offered a job. I must say, I thought it was fairly commonplace today to simply give a reference confirming dates of employment. That’s what both of the large corporations I worked for pre-children did as standard. (I think because of fear of legal action / comeback if people then didn’t get a job on the basis of that companies reference.) It was therefore my assumption that companies would look more closely at personal referees.

    Anyhow, I am glad to see you are staying strong. Fingers crossed it all works out for you and your family. x

  3. Sarah MumofThree World February 12, 2014 / 11:12 pm

    Good for you for your positive mental attitude! It’s terrible that your husband has been treated this well. Will keep my fingers crossed for you that everything falls into place despite this setback.

  4. Ellen February 13, 2014 / 7:31 am

    Stay positive x

  5. Ojo Henley February 13, 2014 / 7:29 pm

    I read this yesterday, but didn’t have time to comment properly. I am so pissed off for you, I really am. Your family don’t deserve this rubbish treatment and, if there was someone with half a heart, they would sort this xxx

  6. Emma Day March 5, 2014 / 2:13 pm

    So important to stay positive. And it’s true – after every knockback, you have to just get stronger and taller. And if you need a good cry, do it. Then wipe your face and carry on.
    An emotional #wednesdaywords xx

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