How do I start a post when I am still a little in shock from yesterday’s events?

For those who missed it, we held a Twitter party using the hashtag #groovymums.  If you are a #groovymums you are officially on trend according to Twitter.

The original idea was to acknowledge that the Groovy Mums blog hop and online support network established in September 2011 was 6 months old.

I thought most of the participants of the groovy mums blog hop would take part and maybe a few interested observers.  I was amazed to see loads of people joining in and some very interesting debates and chats taking place.

At some point in the party and yes I was sober but my head was still spinning, people started to tell me that #groovymums was trending at number 2 on Twitter.  This still seems very surreal to me but does at least show the power of mums when we get together and tell our stories.

Topics covered included ..

How to combat the isolation many mums feel

How to still have your own identity when you become a mum

How powerful or powerless mums are in society

How peer support can help mums move forwards in their lives

How media images and the celebrity culture affect how mums feel about themselves

What things get left behind when you become a mum and whether you can recover some of them

The hopes, dreams and aspirations of mums

How to increase energy levels and feel better physically

How to tackle mental health issues including post-natal depression and where to access support

Mums’ self-image

How to get involved in volunteering and how it might benefit mums

How to get back to work or into self-employment

How to get involved in learning

How mums can carve out me time and what mechanisms help them to do so

Whether partners and children can benefit when a mum puts herself first sometimes.

As you can see, it was an awful lot to get through in one hour.

I would like to thank so many people but if feels like the Oscars where I could end up writing for ages as so many people helped.  Particular thanks go to the parenting and blogging networks (Tots 100, Britmums, Love All Blogs, Mumsnet, Netmums).  None of this would have happened without those women in the last 6 months who have joined in with the Groovy Mums blog hop.  Personally, huge thanks go to Hayley, Louise, Caroline and Kat who are always there to put me back together again when I need it.  Finally, to each and every person who promoted or took part in or get in touch about the Groovy Mums Twitter Party.

Now for some more questions so please leave a comment, contact me on kateonthinice@gmail.com or tweet me @kateonthinice

1. Should we have another party or regular parties?  If so how often and what time suits people best?

2. Do you have any particular topics you would like to see covered via Groovy Mums?

3. Do you think you might link up blog posts to the Groovy Mums blog hop?

4. Would you like to take on a new role with Groovy Mums?  It will be unpaid but might be rewarding in other ways or enhance your blog profile.  If you are interested in this, please email me and I will be in touch by the end of the week with more information.

5. If you are an organisation or business, would you like to link up or partner with Groovy Mums in some way?  I am very open to ideas so drop me an email.  It would be lovely, for example, to see some prizes offered to participants at the next party.

Groovy Mums continues to evolve so all ideas and feedback are most welcome.

In them meantime, if you have a blog or website, you are most welcome to use the Groovy Mums badge which you will find in the sidebar.

If you think that the party was inspiring, changed things and/or stood out, you might want to consider voting in the Brilliance in Blogging Awards using the bright pink buttons on the right.  Thank you.

 

Where do you find support for mums?

Have you heard of or do you remember Groovy Mums?

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It was an initiative I set up when feeling down on myself to pick myself up and hoping that along the way I could off support for mums too,

We had Twitter parties, the mums who blogged shared their stories and most importantly, both myself and other mums made proactive and positive changes in their lives. It is amazing what you can do when you have a great peer support network behind you.

Groovy Mums is coming back with a new name and exciting ways to get involved. I think it is a splendid time to relaunch support for mums as children go off to school and mums might have a little more time to focus on their hopes and dreams.

1. Groovy Mums regularly got criticised for the name so there will be a new name. I do have a name in mind but I am also open to your suggestions too before next week’s post when we really get started on this amazing journey.

2. People will be able to get more involved by sharing their own stories about how have found themselves, carved out some me time or taken charge of their own destiny.

3. There will be a collaborative Pinterest board to share positive images of what we get up to.

4. A weekly linky will be opened on Thursdays will calls to action and inspirational ideas.

5. There will be a presence on other social media networks.

6. There will be a new badge and I am looking for a volunteer to design it.

7. There will be prizes and there will be certificates!

How you can get involved

1. You can take part in the weekly linky telling us how you are getting on and/or seeking the support of other mums. If you can add images or video, so much the better. It is good if you can visit the other posts linked up as you can lend your support to other mums and might learn something new too.

2. You can take part in our regular Twitter parties to share your ideas and offer support for mums.

3. There are very exciting plans for the new and improved Groovy Mums in 2015 so now is the time to get involved to see what that might be all about.

Are you on board to take baby steps to make your dreams come true whilst offering support for mums too?

Groovy Mums launched last week encouraging mums to think of themselves a bit more. That might involve rediscovering who you are and having a go at things you used to enjoy. You might want to take on a new project altogether or just to incorporate some little changes to liven things up a bit. The idea is that you set the path and myself and other groovy mums support you along the way.

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Thank you to the 11 mums who linked up groovy blog posts last week. I ask where possible that you visit the other groovy mums posts and lend them your support with a comment.

This week I am asking mums to reflect on some questions about where they are now and where they would like to be. If you blog your answers, please add the link below or leave a comment.

1. To what extent have I lost sight of myself?

2. If I have lost my groove, how did that happen?

3. What do I want to get out of life in 2014?

4. What are the barriers to me getting what I want out of life?

5. What baby step could I take this week to move things forward a little?

Three Groovy Tips

A. Enjoy the great outdoors. Sometimes even going for a walk can seem a mountain to climb if mums are fed up. Challenge yourself to get out more than you do or if you already do, try visiting somewhere new.

B. Visit the Open University website. They have a vast range of courses and you don’t have to identify as academic to benefit from them.

C. Create something. Art, craft and cooking are all cool ways to express who you are. What could you make this week?

If you blog about getting your groove back using the questions above, please tag a few mum bloggers to have a go too. Yes, some mums’lives might be happy and sorted but we can always move towards new hopes and dreams one step at a time.

Get groovy this week!

Groovy Mums Twitter Party will take place on Friday 17th January from 1-2pm using hashtag #groovymums. The theme will be “How to change your life for the better as a mum”.

Now, go forth, think about getting groovy and link up blog posts below.

What are my New Year’s revolutions?

My daughter has stated that we do not have resolutions in this house, we have revolutions and I quite like that rebranding of an old idea.

Despite our current situation being so insecure, I do think I need to focus on me a little too.

1. I am going to start to believe it when people say I am a beautiful soul, inspirational or amazing.  It is disrespectful to those people to not allow them to praise when they wish to do so.  What I will say is that there are many women with such qualities out there.  Sometimes, I think it is only the fact that I took my clothes off (sort of) that led to me having increased visibility.  However, I do some good things and I do genuinely care about other people.  If people want to use those adjectives about me, perhaps I can harness that in some way and do something truly inspirational this year.

2. I am giving up drinking alcohol at least for a while.  It is important to remember that it is fundamentally a depressant so in challenging times, it is easy to lean on but then it affects the mood and makes me a little crazy.  I don’t need that.  Nor do my family.

3. I am going to get back to healthy eating and join in with @AutismMumma’s weekly weight loss linky “Wobbles Wednesday”.  I know I can lose weight.  I know how to do it.  Let’s get on with it!

4. I am going to write a novel and will start today.  I have the idea and I think it could really take off and be popular.  I would like anyone to suggest ways to help me stick with this and to let me know of any information and advice networks on writing.  I quite fancy entering writing competitions too.

5. I am going to find  a way of making friends that I can see in the real world.  Most of my friends are online or far-flung.  That is great but I need to see people sometimes or it all gets a bit lonely and intense.  I am very shy by  nature and that holds me back way too much.

6. I am going to celebrate family members who are no longer with us.  I am sharing aspects of my Mum this week.  I also have a big project around getting my Dad’s naval memoirs from the forties published if only on this blog.  If anyone has any other ideas on helping them reach an audience, let me know.

7. I am going to write a small manual for the house with systems in it so that things don’t slide.  I have started insisting that I get more help with chores and so far this is already showing very positive effects in the house.

8. I think this might not happen but it will be interesting to see whether it can.  I would like to travel overseas again this year.

9. I am going to proactively reach out to people for writing and social media assignments.

10. I am going to re-establish Groovy Mums for mums who want to take a little control back about how their lives develop and to encourage new interests and ways of being.  I learned a lot from doing this before and the new Groovy Mums will retain the great things it had before and develop in new ways too.  There will be a post shortly for those who fancy taking part.

Is that revolutionary enough?