Britmums ask us about pleasure this week and as part of that we are to highlight the 5 blogs we love and why we like them so much. I have so many blogs that I read and enjoy that it is so difficult to narrow it down So here are 5 blogs that do different things for me and thereby bring me a pleasure of sorts. I have avoided mentioning those who have mentioned me as it would be too obvious and I will cover them in a feature I am planning for later this year. I have also not gone on about the wonderful women who do the world-famous blog hops as largely I have covered them in another post.

1. The blog that made me learn most is here http://cazandbelle.blogspot.com/

Caz is an Angel Mummy to Annabelle. To my shame, I had not really called mums who lose a baby mothers before. I am not proud to say that by the way but I am pleased that through Caz’s blog I woke up to the reality that if you have carried a child you are a mother. Caz is am amazing lady sharing her feelings so openly whilst fundraising for SANDS too. Caz’s blog is not always an easy read but it is an essential one in my view to understand the impact of babyloss. Caz last posted 8 days ago and I hope her next post will be sharing very wonderful news indeed. Please pay her blog and visit and offer your support for this inspirational woman.

2. Here is a recent find http://dichotomyof.wordpress.com/

If you want to know what I think is good writing, head over to this blog right now. I wish I could write as well as Laura does. I just write words but she paints pictures and has the most poetic way of expressing things. I like her also for her apparent healthy attitude towards authority (as I am a rebel, I will leave you to decide what I would see as a healthy attitude lol). Her blog also has wonderful recipes and anecdotes on family life. She is someone I would like to converse with into the early hours of the morning.

3. A blog I love to read but also a blogger I like to communicate with http://theramblingpages.blogspot.com

If you like my blog, I think you will like this one. It is this Mum would say all over her blog a work in progress but then aren’t we all works in progress as women and as blogs? I like the honesty of emotion and struggles in this blog, the questioning and the discovering. Here is a Mum coming to terms with the reality of children that society chooses to define as “special needs”. I could come up with other reasons but one of the main ones is that I would love to meet this woman and make her a friend.

4. http://mrsshortiesmind.wordpress.com is my fourth choice.

I wanted to choose a blog that talks honesty about post-natal depression. I had several to choose from but I have chosen this one as through it you are likely to find out more a very fabulous organisation that is actually trying to ensure that mums who are struggling do get support and understanding and that any stigma surrounding the issue disappears. When I think of the impact on post-natal depression on the woman herself (I was there too!) and the children of that woman, her partner, wider family, friends and colleagues, something must be done. Kate over on http://mrsshortiesmind.wordpress.com/ is trying to do something positive and I salute her for that.

5. It Could Be You! What I mean is that if I look at the other Britmums blog prompt this week about how I would spend a whole day to myself, the likelihood is I would be investigating new blogs for part of that day. That is the real pleasure about blog reading, there is always a new delight to be discovered. To do it for me, you are likely to be quirky or funny, challenging or questioning, funny or heartfelt, honest and true. I look forward to finding you.

Welcome to a Listography where we don’t have to think. This is great news as last week was a tough challenge thinking up 5 dates never mind 5 disastrous ones at that.

1. Halloween Carrot Cupcakes – I guess from this we can take it that I have lots of foodie readers and that I like to keep my blog topical when it comes to food if nowt else.

2. Savoury Dutch Pancake Recipe – Well, this goes to show my blog can be savoury as well as sweet. I quite like that idea.

3. Lincolnshire Hot Pot – more food. Is it any wonder I am weighing in stones overweight? Quite nice to see Hot Pot in the week where we lost the wonderful actress and singer, Betty Driver. She played Betty Turpin the long-suffering barmaid and cook at the Rover’s Return in Coronation Street.

4. Blog Hop Tuesday – this pleases me as will hopefully mean more people get interested in joining in with the Getting Your Groove back blog hop I launch every Tuesday. It is all about mums getting a sense of self in the midst of juggling work, parenting and the rest. If you have lost your va-va voom or never quite found it, if you want to rediscover or reinvent yourself, this is the blog hop for you. The good news is there are others on the same journey more than willing to offer support and ideas.

5. Get thin Freshers – Well, I guess I am on a journey to get to a reasonable size again even if not thin exactly. The Freshers bit means I went to university and have blogged about it. After all, way back in those days, I was a size 8 and thought I was fat. Oh to be so fat again.

So there are my 5. Have a go at Listography over on the Kate Takes 5 blog yourself.

You have a choice now. You can join the grooving mums some of whom are trying to get fit and healthy or you can think blogger it and indulge in the recipes for the lovely dishes outlined above. Which will it be?

Joining in with Mich’s blog hop over on the Mummy from the Heart blog at http://mdplife.blogspot.com

Here are my reasons for smiling this week.

1. It is official. I will be speaking at Britmums Live next June which means that I have to actually turn up and is a great motivation for getting my groove back generally. It is a bit daunting to see the calibre of the other speakers but I guess they would not have asked me to get involved if they did not think I have something to offer to the mix.

2. Him Indoors went away on a business trip this week. The children behaved really well and I enjoyed some me-time including being in charge of the remote control for the telly.

3. My daughter got a cerficate for good behaviour in school. On an more worrying note, my son tells me that the boys in Year 6 have voted her the cutest girl in the school. This stresses me out on two counts, one that she must be protected from demon boys at all costs and two that I was never ever seen like that when I was at school. Yes, mums can be petulant too!

4. My son has really taken to netball and his team came second in an inter-schools event.

5. My other son is doing so well with his reading and spellings. He is so enthusiastic about his work and I love to see that.

6. I have tackled some highly personal stuff on here recently and I so appreciate the warm-hearted comments and support received. Even when I could have been judged harshly, wonderful women and even the odd bloke have reached out and said lovely things.

It is one of those weeks where finding reasons to be cheerful is easy. I feel like I could go on and on but will hold some stuff back for #mumentum and #groovingmums posts next week.

Now go forth and read some other lovelies blogging about their happy stuff.

I am joining in with the Britmums Prompt this week where we are asked to tell you about the best day with our family.

When I became a mum, it felt like a lovely two had become a wonderful three. My son was a bonus, adding to an already fun and lively couple. Yes folks, once upon a time I was fun and lively. We had great days out at the seaside, in the countryside, at car boot sales, at airshows and even figured out ways of my son accompanying us on trips with work. They were really happy times.

When you become a mum to two, things get more complex and especially if that monster known as post-natal depression enters your world. I was delighted when my daughter was born but I soon found myself really struggling with the demands of both children especially when a family conflict resulted in my parents not contacting me for months on end.

I was shocked when I became pregnant again with number 3. I don’t know why as by now I had worked out what causes babies. I decided that I would enjoy the pregnancy and just hope for the best I would cope when my second son came along.

My third child was born a day early. I remember them doing all sorts to induce proper labour as things just did not progress. Eventually, it was a case of an emergency Casarean. Does that make a difference I wonder? Anyway, the hugest baby ever seen in the hospital was delivered and I just remember the midwife rubbing his face against mine. All I wanted to do was sleep after a traumatic night. We took him home and we had a near miss car crash on the way home. More stress. Then he started screeching and we had the horrors of colic for months. Through all this, I was very clear that although I knew I was responsible for this baby, I had no feelings for him at all.

One day, we were out in the car on a day out. I suddenly looked at my son and saw he was ill. He was funny colour and his eyes were sort of lolling around. We rushed him to hospital. I was so scared that I sent my husband in to get the diagnosis and sat in the car with the other children. I know that sounds awful.

When my husband brought him back to the car, the news was good. It was just tonsilitis. At that point, all the love flowed from me and we have never looked back. In fact, we are so very close and he gets away with more than the other two my husband says. I always say that he had to do without my love for months so it will be there in heaps now. He is my cheeky chappy, my comic genius, my born performer and my healer. He is essential to this family.

So this may seem a strange post considering the prompt. What I want to say is that it is this day when my family became complete, the day I started to love all my children for the first time.

The Gallery theme this week is Inspirational People.

Who has inspired me?

There is the teacher at school who did not have a television and challenged my thinking.

There is the solicitor who fought miscarriages of justice.

There is the lovely Freddie Mercury who I admire for his creativity and his willingness to live his life his way.

I could talk about my late Mum who inspired me to blog in the first place. However, I tend to write about her as part of the Little Legacies Project organised by Penny at the Alexander Residence blog.

So family wise, here is an inspirational person.

Mum always said she would be happy if I worked on the Pick and Mix in Woolworths. I think if anything my ambition frightened her a bit. In reality, she need not have worried as I did not achieve much in the end.

The photograph below is my lovely Dad. He always encouraged my ideas about what I might achieve. He is a decent man and I strive to be as good-hearted and true. He always believed in me and used to tell me to walk tall as I am as good as anybody. Dad has travelled the world and understands about different cultures. When Dad talks, it is always good conversation and plenty of laughter too.

I now live with my Dad and as I attempt to revive myself after the first 10 years of parenting, he inspires me to work to be the best that I can be on all fronts. He has developped a keen interest in my blogging and social networking which is not bad at all for a 84 year old. He teaches me that it is never too late to learn or to try new things. His example has also demonstrated to me that although never the same, there is life after loss.

In the last couple of years, several people have said I inspire them. How I do this when I am a stay at home mum battling huge weight issues and struggling to get back whatever va-va voom I had in the first place, I have no idea. However, it does please me that people make changes to their lives saying they were inspired by something I did.