What were your personal highs and lows of 2018? I have a tradition of sharing mine and encouraging others to do the same. Bloggers can get involved using the following guidelines. We all have ups and downs as part of life’s rich tapestry and I find reflecting on mine and reading about other people makes me feel ready for everything a brand New Year has to offer.
1 Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog and mine as the founder of the tag https://kateonthinice.com
2 Answer the questions
3 Tag to take part 5 or more bloggers asking them to take part and let them know on social media
4 Post the questions without your answers at the bottom of your post so that they are easy to copy and paste for the people you tag
1. What was your happiest event?
2. What was the saddest thing to happen?
3. What was the most unlikely thing to happen that actually went ahead and did?.
4. Who let you down?
5. Who supported you?
6. Tell us what you learned.
7. Tell us what made you laugh
8. Tell us the things that made you cry
9. Tell us three things your child or children did to make you feel proud. Please miss this question out if you are not a parent.
10. Tell us the things that made you proud of yourself.
11. Tell us the challenges you overcame
12. Tell us the things you would like to change about your life in 2019
Now I never ask you to do what I would not do myself so here are my reflections on the last year.
What was your happiest event?
Without doubt my birthday celebrations last month. A community that I have lived in for such a short amount of time did me proud with an evening do. To walk into a darkened room and everyone launch into “Happy Birthday” was something I never thought would happen to me. There was a home-made banner held up by two of my favourite male friends. There was a special ice-cream dessert with a sparkler. There were flowers and a plant. There was special wine. A singer and musician serenaded me for most of the night and that will do me just fine Same again this year please!
What was the saddest thing to happen?
We were delighted to take on two goats but sadly our joy in them was short-lived. They died after a matter of weeks most unexpectedly.
What was the most unlikely thing to happen that actually went ahead and did?
Spending the night at a French man’s house.
Who let you down?
I was disappointed that my family did not make a huge fuss of my birthday. I think this is partly because my husband really does not get the whole idea of special days. Having said that it was him that tipped off the community and he did buy me a lovely painting.
Who supported you?
My husband and children support me in many ways whether bringing me a cup of coffee in bed every morning which my husband is great at to lots of cuddles and help with practical tasks.
My brother helped me emotionally and financially as he has really since my Dad died.
One stand out moment is after an argument with my husband when I was feeling tearful in the bar, a woman came and made me sit with her and her friends. She absolutely insisted and it turned an evening when I was feeling so raw into a good one.
The community I live in is amazingly supportive in a myriad of ways throughout the year.
Tell us what you have learned
I have learned that everyone has their ups and downs. I have realised that even if some areas of life are less than perfect, it does not rule out having a very good time in others. I have learned some people put on a very good show so it is vital not to be taken in by perfect social media profiles or public behaviours. We all have our stories to tell and our struggles. I think most importantly I have learned that I am OK, acceptable and loved.
Tell us what made you laugh
I have laughed so much this year. I live in a village that values laughter a lot. As someone said the other day “When everyone is giggling, I am happy” – that’s not a bad philosophy on life.
Tell us the things that made you cry
As ever, grief for my parents and brother can catch me particularly on anniversaries and birthdays. It does get easier with time though. On New Year’s Eve which is Mum’s birthday, wearing her amber necklace was great but not upsetting.
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with my various responsibilities and get upset. I am a bit of a perfectionist which does not serve my wellbeing at all.
I was also upset when my youngest brother’s long-held retirement dream of living in Greece went so badly wrong.
Tell us three things your child or children did to make you feel proud.
My oldest child handled a crisis situation really well reassuring his siblings and working out a strategy for moving forwards. It reminded me that he is now a fully-grown adult and will make his own way in life with aplomb.
My daughter’s focus makes me proud. If she is reading, she can do 5 books in a matter of days. When she is writing, she refines things over and over. She researches how to get better at writing and at art.
My youngest son makes me proud with his wisdom. He is by far the most chilled and adult person in this household.
Tell us the things that made you proud of yourself.
Despite often thinking I am failing, the fact is that I do keep house in a fashion, make money, home educate and support others.
I am very proud of setting up an online group for bloggers where they can come together to share opportunities, tips and support. It was lovely to have wonderful thank you messages from them over the festive period.
I am really proud that as an extremely shy and introverted person, I have managed to make friends and even find my inner party animal in a totally new community.
Tell us the challenges you overcame
I improved my housework skills. I am still so very far from being a domestic goddess but I get huge marks for effort.
I worked out a new strategy for home education to meet the differing needs of my children. It’s a work in progress so we will see how it pans out in the New Year.
I proved I can be more successful than I thought possible at the start of the year and on very many fronts too.
Tell us the things you would like to change about your life in 2019
I would like my marriage to be more peaceful and happy. This will take the effort of myself and my husband. We have some new challenges this year so will need to operate in a new way. Whatever happens, I hope we retain our friendship.
I would like to develop the confidence to be more open about some of my feelings.
I would like to increase my income and think this is entirely possible. I am also determined to write that novel even if nobody reads it. I am going to commit to taking baby steps every day to move this one forward.
I am considering a house move so may not be in the same place the next time I write one of these posts.
I would like to come to terms with my oldest son leaving home and to see him find his own path in life.
I would like to have this home education gig entirely nailed.
Now let’s start tagging! I tag the following bloggers …
Katie- Louise at https://www.katie-louise.com
Alice at livingwithajude.co.uk
Sam at www.stressedmum.co.uk
Michelle at www.whatmummythinks.co.uk