With the beginning of 2018 and all that it is a good time to set some goals for the coming year. Here are mine and I look forward to looking back at the end of the year and seeing how I got on. Something tells me I will do well with the peer support gained via Best Boot Forward which is new and super-exciting!
Physical and mental wellbeing in 2018
I lost weight a couple of years ago and although I have put some back on, most stayed off. I would like to eat more healthily and am going to cut out red meat and booze for January as a starting point. I am looking forward to experimenting with vegetarian cookery so if you have any tips on that, please do share.
After too many years lost to social anxiety and depression, I look after my mental wellbeing as a priority. Only if I am well can my children be so it is vital. I am thinking of taking up yoga and mindfulness to help on this front although I also celebrate feeling well these days.
Time out/Respite in 2018
I juggle a lot various work projects and home educating my younger two children. Then there is the bulk of housework and planning generally which so often falls on me despite there being five people in the home.
I want to delegate some tasks on the home front this year and to not be so easy to give in when my husband or children complain when I ask them to do things.
I also want to take regular walks on my own with the dogs to just be in the moment and to enjoy nature. It is easy to feel crowded in my current situation and to forget who I am outside of the labels of worker, mum, wife and so on.
Work and money in 2018
I am happy with how work is progressing and can see me building on this proactively in 2018. Changing my mindset and valuing myself more worked wonders in the latter half of 2017 so I believe the future is bright.
I need to regain control of my own money so that I feel like an independent woman again. I earn money and should be able to enjoy some of it rather than it all getting sucked up in luxury items for other people. Again, I am too soft in this area and need to be more assertive in my relationships.
Image and style in 2018
I am happy with who I am as a person. I have a good heart and a fine mind. However, I got lost style wise when I became a parent and have never really recovered. I would like to experiment more with fashion and the like this year as a form of personal expression. I neglect myself too easily and that needs to change.
Relationships in 2018
This is also an area where I need to put in some work. I don’t enjoy my marriage particularly much of the time. It is stale and I have no idea how other couples manage to keep things upbeat and interesting. It is by no means all bad and we do have fun and have some shared values. Perhaps having started to like myself more, I enjoy my own company more than my husband’s sometimes. Is that OK or not OK? Is it time to give up on fine romance and get real? Anyway, suffice to say I want to put some real effort and thought into relationships this year.
I have recently made new acquaintances/friends and that pleases me. I have had a habit probably due to depression of being overly dependent on my husband. I need more than that moving forwards and am proud of myself for reaching out and expanding my social life in recent months.
So that’s me! Like every other woman I know by no means perfect but good enough and willing to put the work in where it matters to put my best boot forward.
As ever your comments, tips and support are very welcome!