Losing a sibling to adoption story

What does it feel like losing a sibling to adoption?

Last week, I promised to acknowledge National Adoption Week with posts from various perspectives on the issue. I have a few more to share and here is one. It was written last year. Too often, we forget the impact on the wider family members of adoption.

“I don’t cry very often.

For various reasons, I have learned not to show my feelings and to bottle things up. I like to appear hard. Don’t let them in and they can’t hurt you. I am not going to trust people with my feelings and be abused again.

They took my little brother and sister away. I know they had to go and they are better off in their adopted family. But I love them and I don’t get why I can’t see them when I would never harm them in any way. I need them and I bet they need me too.

I cried today when my social worker brought me some news about them. Could not stop, curled up in a foetal position, sobbing.

I miss them so much.”

This post is dedicated to 3 amazing women who know who they are.

You may also be interested to read the story of a birth mum who gave up children for adoption.

If you would like to adopt, there is lots of helpful information online.

Do you have experience of losing a sibling to adoption?

Every woman carries moments that shaped her. If you feel ready to share one of yours, you’re welcome to add it to my What’s Your Story? space — a gentle corner of the internet where real voices matter.