The Gallery theme this week is Home.

I have lived in many places. By the age of one, I had lived in four places including a convent. Perhaps there is traveller in my soul as at last count, I have resided in 34 homes including on the road in a camper van one mad Summer.

So for me, I am clear that a place does not make a home. If you don’t want to enter a deeply nauseous state, I suggest you read no further.

One day, I was in the car chattering away when Him Indoors told me to shut up. I started telling him not to speak to me like that when he said. “No, I mean, listen to this song because it expresses exactly how I feel about you”. It was Billy Joel and here are the lyrics that so impressed my Other Half.

Billy Joel Home

When you look into my eyes
and you see the crazy gypsy in my soul
it always comes as a surprise
when i feel my withered roots begin to grow

well i never had a place
that I could call my very own
but that’s all right my love
cuz you’re my home.

when you touch my weary head
and you tell me everything will be all right
You say use my body for your bed
and my love will keep you warm throughout the night

well i’ll never be a stranger
and i’ll never be alone
wherever we’re together
that’s my home.

Home could be the Pennsylvania turnpike
Indiana’s early morning dew
high up in the hills of California
home is just another word for you

Well I never had a place that i could call my very own
but that’s all right my love cuz you’re my home

If i travel all my life
and i never get stop and settle down
long as i have you by my side
there’s a roof above and good walls all around
you’re my castle, you’re my cabin
and my instant pleasure dome
i need you in my house
cuz you’re my home,..
you’re my home.

Him Indoors is not very good at expressing his feelings but he said that this song just about sums up our relationship for him. As for me being shallow, I particularly liked the idea of being an instant pleasure dome.

As I thought about it, I remembered Mum and Dad used to play this song a lot and it actually has pretty much the same meaning to the Billy Joel one.

You placed gold on my finger
You brought love like I’ve never known
You gave life to our children
And to me a reason to go on.

You’re my bread when I’m hungry
You’re my shelter from troubled winds
You’re my anchor in life’s ocean
But most of all you’re my best friend.

When I need hope and inspiration
You’re always strong when I’m tired and weak
I could search This whole world over
You’ll still be everything that I need.

You’re my bread when I’m hungry
You’re my shelter from troubled winds
You’re my anchor in life’s ocean
But most of all you’re my best friend.

You’re my bread when I’m hungry
You’re my shelter from troubled winds
You’re my anchor in life’s ocean
But most of all you’re my best friend…

Him Indoors likes to sit in “his” chair.

When my Mum died, I spoke to Dad and said one of the worst bits was turning to the phone to ring her and then realising there was no point. He said to me “Imagine how often I turn to “her” chair to tell her something and it is empty”.

What am I saying? That despite being possibly the least romantic couple in the world that Him Indoors remains in his chair perceiving me to be his “home” for a long time yet.

Home is wherever Him Indoors lays his hat for me too. Shhhh! Don’t tell him.

With love from the Striking Mum x

As I am fully committed to shifting the extra pounds (hey, who am I kidding? That would be stones and stones) I decided to invest in a brand new pair of weighing scales. I made an event out of it taking the whole family off to Tesco to choose some. I even took them all to MacDonalds afterwards to celebrate and yes, I had nothing except a diet coke.

So this morning once Him Indoors and the children were dispatched to their various lives, I whipped off all my clothes and bounced onto the new scales. Nothing. The instructions did not tell you you had to take a little plastic tab out of them to make them work. OK, that’s sorted. Try again. Wow, I appear to have lost 5 stones overnight! I knew this could not be possible but was quite happy to bask in the moment. Right, time to face reality. It does not say 10 stones 2 pounds. It says 102kg. Since when did anybody stuck in the Eighties want to deal in kg?!

Read the instructions and worked out that I needed to push a button if I wanted to deal in old-fashioned weights. It turns out I am around the 16 stone mark when I thought it was a mere (lol) 15 stone. Feel totally deflated after nearly 3 weeks of being so good on the healthy eating front.

Seized on the support of Twitter and within minutes was reassured. 70 pounds to lose is just 2 pounds for 35 weeks. That sounds far more manageable. It is pretty clear to me that I have lost around 91b already in 2 weeks so I am on track. As Him Indoors said, all that has changed is the starting point, so when you lose the weight, it will be an even more impressive story.

I am going to admit because I bet I am not the only one to do this that I tried the scales in various places in the house blaming sloping floors and all sorts for the terrible truth.

However, due to the support of Twitter and family members, I got in the car and went off to buy Weightwatchers bread and smoked salmon for lunch.

The point of this post is really to ask whether other women give the weighing scales too much power. Do you jump on and off them every 3 seconds? Do you move them around to try to get them to give you a different result? If you are on a steady path of weight loss, should they be so important in your life?

In case you are wondering, I will lose the weight. I am believing in myself and you lot can catch up in your own time.

How to be a happy mum is a question that torments many of us at various points of the parenting journey.

How To Be A Happy Mum

Last week, I started a new blog hop/meme/linky, call it what you will, concerned with helping Mums to have a bit of a personal revival and get their groove back. It is all about recognising that the individual woman sometimes gets lost a bit in the business of being a mum and trying desperately to juggle it all.

I was delighted to see seven lovely mums joining in and hope even more will write a blog post and link up this week. I also got so many comments that clearly shows I am not alone in asking where that feisty woman of yesteryear has gone to and resolving to find her.

So what might help you get your groove back? It might be doing a course, volunteering, applying for a job or looking into setting up a business. It might be as simple as taking time out for you to go for a walk, to have a pampering session or to organise a night out with the girls. It might be learning to say no to some things and yes to others. It might be returning to an old hobby or developping a new skill. The fun of it all is that you get to choose and then you get to share how it all went with some very supportive blogger friends going through the same sort of thing.

To clarify things, you can link up on any day of the week but if you do it on Tuesday, that is fabulous. Please do try and find time to visit some of the other entries (or all of them) as you can bet you will be inspired and also able to give a supportive comment or two too. I will visit and support all entries.

I like to play around a bit (oo-er missus!) so will set little (tiny) challenges or things you can do and report back on the following week. However, this blog hop is not about rules so please feel free to post about what you want and to ignore any parts of the challenges you don’t like.

This week, I have two questions for you.

What song would be best to play a lot whilst attempting to get your groove back?

My choice is Revival by Annie Lennox

What can you do to make your body feel better this week?

Right, what have I done to get my va-va-voom back this week.

1. I have had a habit since experiencing post-natal depression of hiding from and saying no to positive experiences. I have made myself a bit of a prisoner sometimes I think. This week, I said yes to a night out at the seaside, yes to a shopping trip to town and yes to a carnival.

2. I have also got very much into putting my family first which is a good thing but not if it means you are constantly denying yourself. This week, I went out and bought myself a new duvet and some silly but fun things from the charity shop that amused me. You really don’t need bigger justifiction than that. Do I like it? Do I consider it be beautiful or useful? Can I afford it? Right, buy it – where’s the problem? You can see my finds at the charity shop in my Magpie Monday post from yesterday.

3. I am looking into volunteering in a charity shop, at school and with Homestart. For those who don’t know Homestart provides trained volunteers to support mums with children under 5 years old. I think a Homestart volunteer could have transformed my life when I was finding looking after 2 under 2 and a 4 year old so tough.

4. I have continued to indulge in healthy eating most of the time and join in the #mumentum community of women trying to lose mummy tummies. I said more about this yesterday including revealing that I am such an emotional eater so need to tackle that.

So that’s me but this blog hop is all about you. Yes you who is thinking whether you should join in or not. What are you up to? Are you going to commit to improving your own life? Fancy joining some very lovely women doing the same? Well then, what are you waiting for?

Write a post today or if you really can’t manage that sometime before next Monday and link up below. Any questions, just email me on mums-the-word@live.com.

Ideally, take time out this week to visit some or all of the other entries from brave and open women and give them a lovely comment on their blog.

I look forward to hearing how you are getting on.

Another favour, please tweet about your post and use the hashtag thing so that we can all spread the word about the blog hop. Do the same if you will on other social media sites too. I have decided to keep it simple so please use the #groovingmums when mentioning this blog hop.

If you don’t do any of these things, I will not be hunting you down with a big stick. If you do them, I think we will all get more out of the experience.

Right, time for me to stop babbling and you to start blogging and linking up. Ready, steady, go and find out how to be a happy mom.

Joining in with one of my very favourite blog hops where we bloggers celebrate our bargain finds.

I went to the charity shop with my Dad during the week. He likes to get books there with their buy two, get one free offer. He is retired and gets through loads of books.

I bought lots of very “essential” items.

One was a pink leather passport cover. I have seem girly women with these and although I am far from girly, maybe this will be the start of me becoming so. £1

I saw a bundle of teaspooons with a rubber band around them for 50 pence. Well some were teaspoons and some were tiny little ones and not sure what you would use them for but they are very sweet. Him Indoors is always banging on as if the world would end if we ran out of cutlery so bought these for him really. Never let it be said I don’t make the huge romantic gestures. There were probably 12 spoons in total for 50 pence.

I also got some shower gels in a range of lovely flowery fragrances for £1. I do like to have nice smellies to pamper myself with.

However, my very favourite treasure this week was these. The first thing I noticed was how they were cuddling. I wanted to know more so investigated further.

They are actually very shy salt and pepper pots with the stoppers in too but if you ask them nicely, they turn into very friendly ghosts and give you a wave. For now, I am using them as ornaments and they make me smile every time I look at them.

I am joining in with Mumentum run by the wonderful New Mum Online blog. What is it all about? It is about mums supporting each other as they try to tackle mummy tummies. I am reporting a weight loss slow down.

It was an odd week because after losing half a stone in one week, I knew from past experience the rate of losing slows down after that initial hit. That was quite a depressing thought in a way but I stuck to the healthy eating most of the time. Once again, I find I am discplined when on my own and less so when with other people. I also realised I am very much an emotional eater and after an unpleasant altercation in Tesco, actually ate 2 slices of cake and part of my husband’s kebab. It felt like me saying “I’ll show them!” but show them what exactly? Just self-sabotaging behaviour altogether.

So I have spent a lot of the week annoyed with myself for eating the bad stuff. I am not going to get into the game of jumping on and off the scales every minute of every day so I had to wait until today for the results of my week’s effort.

Well, I am delighted to report I have lost another 2 pounds.

I have two events to work towards coming up that can help to motivate me. These are the Britmums Conference in June 2012 and then my stepdaughter’s civil partnership in July 2013. It would be so lovely to look vaguely slim again and I know that is such a long way off but I am minded to stick with it and hope for the best.

This week, I would like to start exercising. I have got the Wii set up now for Wii Fit. That is a start in my book lol. I am hoping to do some walking and am trying to be more active generally.

I also want to work out how to avoid emotional over-eating and giving in to the offers of other people.

How did my Mumentum friends get on this week?