21 essential resolutions for new mums

21 essential resolutions for new mums come to you from a less than perfect mum who learned some of these lessons the hard way.


Take is as it comes

1. I will not have any set ideas about how my parenting journey will turn out
2. I will follow my instincts
3. I will ask for support clearly as soon as I need it
4. I will ensure I build in time for myself and my partner
5. I will say when people cross my boundaries telling me what to do with my child

Ask for and offer support

6. I will recognise that most mums struggle in some way and reach out to them
7. I will carve out quality one-on-one time with my other child/ren
8. I will celebrate my imperfections as they show I am human
9. I will know that if I am doing my best I am not a bad mum
10. I will recognise that the most challenging times will pass

It’s a balancing act

11. I will keep a balance between what is private and what is to be shared.
12. I will focus on enjoying memories not just recording them
13. I will recognise that parenting like life is a series of ups and downs
14. I will not assume that the mum who looks perfect actually is
15. I will know that money spent and happy moments do not necessarily mean the same thing

Celebrate your individuality

16. I will speak at to someone at the nursery/school gates even if I think it will kill me – it rarely does!
17. I will not expect my children to perform on demand
18. I will not apologise for my child being an individual
19. I will tap into online and offline support networks
20. I will never beat myself up or write myself off
21. I will know that I am blessed to be a mum even in the shitty moments and there will be plenty of those!

Suggestions for resolutions for new mums

What would you add to my list of essential resolutions for new mums at the embark on the parenting ride?


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  1. Imperfect Mum August 11, 2017 / 6:13 am

    3, 8, 12 & 17 were my absolute favourites but I loved all of these. Great advice! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime

  2. The Pramshed August 14, 2017 / 8:47 am

    This is a brilliant post and some top tips and goals for all new Mums and Mums. I wish I had taken some of these when I had my daughter. I think it’s more relax and go with the flow. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  3. Crummy Mummy August 16, 2017 / 3:57 pm

    I’d add that even if you’re new to motherhood & haven’t done it before you’re still the one who knows what’s best for your child #ablogginggoodtime

  4. Honest Mum August 21, 2017 / 12:26 am

    Such an empowering read. Wish I’d had it when Oliver was born. Thank you for linking up x

  5. Lucy November 27, 2017 / 8:00 am

    This may well have to printed out and stuck on the fridge as a reminder throughout the next year! xxx

  6. Kirsty January 22, 2018 / 10:10 am

    I wish I had been given these when I first became a mum. Understanding that your best IS good enough and that the bad times to come to an end is really hard in the baby days. I think the midwives should give this list out after discharge from the labour ward rather than leaflets on how to breastfeed and not ‘fail’.
    Thank you for joining #ThursdayTeam

  7. Jen February 19, 2018 / 9:40 pm

    These are fab, and so useful for new mums. My eldest is almost 9 and I still struggle with talking to mums at the school gate. I don’t know what I’m so afraid of! #anythinggoes

  8. Helena March 14, 2018 / 2:12 pm

    These are good tips. Often others think they know best when actually mother’s instinct should be trusted not neglected.#BlogCrush

  9. Alice | Letters to my Daughter March 14, 2018 / 10:38 pm

    This is a great list. I’d probably add, “Always remember, this too shall pass” because that got me through so much in the early weeks/months especially! #BlogCrush

  10. Heather Keet April 28, 2018 / 2:30 pm

    I think asking for support cannot be emphasized enough. In this connected world, no one should be left feeling alone and unsure of what to do! Thanks for the fantastic post. #DreamTeam

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