Adoption stories can help different characters in the adoption process including birth parents, adopted children and adoptive parents. They can help people decide if adoption is for them at all either putting them off something that would not have suited their circumstances or firming their resolve to go ahead. It is not only the adopted child who experiences loss and trauma in the process and the more we talk about adoption openly and honestly, the better off people in the process will be.
The first thing to say is that no two adoption stories are the same.
Even the reasons a birth mother will have for giving up a child will differ.
What is it like to be a friend or colleague of an adopted person?
How do adopted people cope with the education system?
Do adopted people struggle to form loving relationships?
Is it important to celebrate the day you were adopted even after you have lost your parents?
There is so much loss in the adoption process and some victims are forgotten such as a sister who loses her siblings to adoption.
There are birth fathers who perhaps never find out they are dads and there are those who were not given a voice in the adoption process. How do they feel?
What is clear that bare statistics can never tell the full adoption and fostering story.
Here’s to adoptive parents who give children a second chance.
Adoption UK is a charity that is a great diving board into the world of adoption.
Are you involved in adoption? Would you like to share your story?