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Who Supports Bereaved Children? – Phoenix Bereavement Support
Who helps children when a parent or sibling dies? This is a guest post from Phonenix Bereavement Support as part of my promotion of charities for free on my blog during June 2012. Ben* was devastated when his Dad died. It was so sudden. He went out in the morning to work, but didn’t come home. His motorbike had skidded off the road. Ben’s Mum couldn’t stop crying, and his little brother kept asking him, ‘When’s Daddy coming home?’ None of us like to think about death, especially our own, but for some children and young people death comes into their family very unexpectedly and very suddenly, like in the…
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What Does It Feel Like To Be Adopted? – National Adoption Week
It is National Adoption Week. I intend to blog about adoption every day this week and hope to cover various viewpoints. It is one of those life issues that affects many people, rippling out down the years and across boundaries. So there are many voices – adoptive parents, birth parents, adopted people, siblings of adopted people, wider birth relatives, partners of adopted people, children of adopted people. If you would like to submit your voice, please send me some writing to mums-the-word@live.com this week for hosting on my blog. I recognise that it is all too easy to judge and that many in the mix have feelings and hurt ones…
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Getting advice from a probate solicitor
Getting advice from a probate solicitor can help as we face our own mortality. Love and pain If we are loved and have loved, we have had an amazing life right there. However almost through that very loving, we are guaranteeing ourselves abject emotional pain in the future. Death is an inevitable part of everyday life and when you see someone looking miserable and you feel like telling them to cheer up it is good to remember that they might be recently bereaved. We can debate whether it is more challenging to lose someone suddenly in an accident perhaps or after a short or long illness. What is clear is…
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Zayn leaving One Direction and how to help your child cope
Is your child upset about Zayn leaving One Direction? Our new agony aunt Molly Coddle has some words of advice for you. There is no doubt fans feel a real sense of loss. What can you say to your child if they are devastated by the One Direction News? 1. Zayn leaving One Direction as a voluntary act. This is what he either wants or needs. “I am leaving because I want to be a normal 22-year old who is able to relax and have some private time out of the spotlight,” he said in a statement posted on the band’s Facebook page. If you really care about the band…
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Christmas memories
Christmas is a time to think of loved ones and to miss those who are no longer with us. I lost my Mum in 2009 and my Dad in 2012. I seem to have moved to that stage of grief where you enjoy the memories so much that the pain is almost cancelled out. Christmas at home. I miss it. I was the baby of the family by 16 years and for many of my childhood years my two brothers lived elsewhere as young adults. I loved the magic of Christmas and coming down and finding all the presents. There was always a huge pile. Weirdly I remember very few…
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Fed up and separated
I am not down as such. I just feel a bit fed up and want to get out the various frustrations out of my system. Blogging always helps me deal with my feelings and sometimes work out what to do next too. I am miffed that having helped loads with the great job search for my husband, he has started the new life but myself and the children are left behind. I know it has to be this way but I still don’t like it much particularly when I think about all the adventures waiting for us once we can manage to get moved. He has come home for weekends.…
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The perfect bag for a busy mum – Mia Tui
What is the perfect bag for a busy mum like me? The first thing to reveal is that there used to be battles when I was a teenager. My late Mum felt a handbag was an essential piece of kit for all girls and women. She had lots of different ones and I could never see the point of that. Now I sometimes see bags that remind me of hers and there is one of those little pangs of grief. They were very much a part of who she was. They were a bit like the Mary Poppins’ bag in terms of having every possible item you might need in…
