Building A Successful Relationship With Your Kids

Building a Successful Relationship with your kids

All parents want to be close with their kids, but unfortunately this isn’t a reality for all families. Now is the time to truly focus in on what you’re doing and how you’re interacting with your kids on a daily basis if you want to grow closer with them. You can make a start on building a successful relationship with our kids.

Start by mapping out what a successful relationship with your kids looks like to you and set goals for getting to a better place. Know there will be obstacles along the way and remain patient when you’re feeling frustrated. It takes time to create mutual respect and trust with your kids, but don’t give up because the rewards will be well worth your efforts.

Listen to them

While it’s tempting to want to tell your kids what to do because you’re the parent, be mindful to also listen to them too. Hear their side of the story, their thought process, and why they feel the way they do. This will help you better understand where they’re coming from and your connection will strengthen. Practice active listening when they’re trying to tell you a story, how their day at school was or discuss an issue they’re having with a friend.

Problem Solve Collectively

Your first reaction may be to get upset or yell when your child has a major problem or gets into trouble. However, remember this is only going to make the situation worse. For example, they may have been in a car crash but it wasn’t even their fault. Put your heads together, problem solve as a team and hire a lawyer from a firm like who can help you retrieve the compensation you deserve. It makes a lot more sense to come up with a solution together then it does to argue and blow the situation out of proportion.

Spend Quality Time Together

The only way you’re going to get to know your kids is if you spend quality time with them. This means away from any distractions such as your phones or the television. Ask them what they like doing and brainstorm various activities you both can do together. Relax, laugh and be silly with your kids and show them how much you care by being in the moment. These are the types of interactions you need if you’re going to build a solid foundation and successful relationship with your kids.

Encourage them in all they do

What you don’t want to do is go around judging your children and making them second guess what they’re doing. Encourage them to dream and try different kinds of activities such as music, sports and dance. Let them know you have their backs and are cheering them on to succeed. Show your support by driving your kids to practice and attending their events and games. Keep telling them again and again how much you love them and that you simply want to see them happy.


It’s not always easy to get close with your kids, but that doesn’t mean you should give up trying. These are a few ideas for you to give a chance if your goal is to have a better relationship with your kids. Keep an open mind throughout the process and remember that growing a stronger bond will take time.

Do you have tips on building a successful relationship with your kids to share with my readers?

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  • Laura - Dear Bear and Beany

    My girls are still only young, but I make sure I put the foundations in now for a close relationship in the future. I listen to them, we work together on problems and I hope that this will stay the same as the grow up. I often to say to relatives, just because you have the title of ‘grandparent’, it doesn’t mean they will automatically be close to you. You have to build that relationship, by putting in the time and the love. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  • Maria | passion fruit, paws and peonies

    I totally agree with all your points here. It isn’t easy and it does, in my opinion, take a lot of ‘being the grown up’, ‘rising above it’ and a little ‘pride swallowing’. They are still transitioning into the people they will become and it’s confusing for them (and us). Being close to them should come when you give them the respect they are due, and deal with them respectfully even when they don’t. x

  • Kayleigh (Mini Human Resources)

    My children are all still little but having always struggled with my own relationship with my parents I’m really set on doing whatever I can to remain close to them (whilst still being a good parent). some great advice here. #sharingthebloglove

  • Tubbs

    I agree so much with this but living it out is so much harder. Alot of the issues the Tubblet is facing are ones that we have no direct experience of – like social media – and it’s hard to come up with solutions that work for everyone .

  • Sara @ Magical Mama Blog

    Listening to their wants and needs is huge! Not only problem solving together, but teaching them to problem solve on their own is something I’m seeing less and less of over the years. Fabulous post!

  • Laura: Adventures with J

    Some good tips. As you say sadly not all parents are close to their children but open communication and having fun together rather than everything being negative is so important! #Sharingthebloglove

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