Reflections on swimwear and body confidence and one woman’s amazing legacy

I did not have a clue what title to use when writing this post. I don’t want to get the tone wrong in the slightest way but I do feel I want to say something. If anyone has an issue with this post at all, please let me know and I will take it down.

Last Sunday, I was outside a bar as France won the World Cup. I felt a little tearful as that day would have been my Dad’s 91st birthday. He died in 2012 so the grief has eased so that I love to think of him and almost always with a  smile. We talk of him often as a family and he is very much a part of who we are and what we do.

Monday passed apparently uneventfully (little did we know) and then the blogging world was rocked when we heard the news that the amazing woman Kate behind the blog WitWitWoo has passed away. At first the information did not compute with me – it could not be true. I did not know Kate particularly well but I did know she was so full of life with strength, humour and the warmest of hearts that it seemed impossible that she had died. Of course she was very young too and leaves behind 2 sons and other family members who will miss her desperately I am sure.

Please take a look at this page and if you can help at all financially please do so because you know what, Kate would have done.

https://www.gofundme.com/funeral-fund-for-mum

The thing about blogging is that when big things happen, you very quickly get to know what bloggers think and feel. We all like the sound of our own words after all or we would not be bloggers in the first place. At the beginning of the week, I had to come offline as there were so many tributes to Kate and the more I read them the more unfair it seemed that such a good woman should be taken too soon.

Kate was not one of my blogging buddies which is why I feel a bit uncomfy writing this post. She had commented on my posts, I had commented on hers from time to time and we had tweeted. What I can tell you is that every time I saw her at a blogging event I used to think to myself “Why can’t I be more like her?” There are some beautiful bloggers with lovely qualities but Kate stood out in every way. She appeared to be permanently smiling or laughing and with gusto too.

Blogging had apparently changed over the years. It felt to me as if the thing had lost a little of its original soul. Connections seemed a little more shallow and bloggers are driving themselves so hard to increase statistics, gain an award or a ranking or make money. There is nothing wrong with those things but I missed the old days when it felt that every blogger was at least a little bit your friend.

Kate passed away and blogging founds its soul again. A Twitter hashtag of #bemorewitwitwoo started up and reminded us to live hugely and with good hearts like Kate did. Even if you are not on Twitter join today and check out that hashtag and you will be saner for it. Lessons are shared with that hashtag that are already changing the world one baby step at a time.

People started living their lives differently. They allowed themselves treats. Mine involved hot chocolate with swirly cream and chocolate sprinkles. They indulged in self-care. I felt a need to nap. They wore make-up if they didn’t normally and if they did, they went bare-faced. I very almost wore red lipstick last night and I never wear make-up. I bottled it but will put that right soon. How incredible that Kate continues to make such a strong impact even after passing away.

Today, people have faced their fears and punched through their own comfort zones to post pictures of themselves in swimwear. Take a look on Instagram again looking for that powerful hashtag and see an array of beauties because we all are you know. It is just that some many of us struggle to feel that.

I don’t know but I can guess that behind those photos are several outtakes that never saw the light of Instagram. How many of gave into negative self-talk tearing our bodies to bits before finally realising that body confidence is a choice or at least increased body confidence is. How liberating to show our true selves wobbles, back fat, mum tums stretch marks and all!

I did not own a bikini so I went to buy one today. I clearly bought a size too small. It went on but there was much boobage escaping out of the sides. I looked at myself, I slated myself and then I had a firm word with myself. We can always do more than we think we can and today I posted myself in a far too small bikini out in the garden. It felt quite liberating.

So a woman called Kate died last week and her legacy is already huge. How amazing is that! She will remain a positive influence in so many lives moving forwards.

Instead of saying “Why?” let’s say “Why not?” and see what happens.

Rest peacefully Kate and thank you.

My Random Musings

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15 Comments

  1. Kim Carberry July 21, 2018 / 7:34 pm

    I didn’t really know Kate. I spoke to her a handful of times on Twitter and I read her blog but I do know she was such an fabulous woman. It has been amazing to see the blogging community come together to pay tribute to her. We all need to #bemorewitwitwoo x

  2. BEcky Willoughby July 21, 2018 / 9:08 pm

    Kate kept me sane when I was a newly single parent! I had lost touch as Twitter expanded but felt that I had to join in. My son couldn’t believe I wanted him to photograph me in a swimsuit! Be brave be bold be more two wit to woo

  3. Daydreams of a mum July 22, 2018 / 12:53 am

    Fab post. kate and I were planning on being heavier ballerinas!!!!! The blogging community though has shown itself for what it is. #bloggersrock #bemorewitwitwoo

  4. Jayne @ Sticky Mud and Belly Laughs July 22, 2018 / 10:10 am

    What a lovely read Kate and an inspirational one at that! It was so sad to hear the news of Kate. I didn’t know her personally but she seemed to bring a little sunshine into everyone’s life. It’s nice how the blogging community comes together, that’s why I love our little group #MMBC. It is full of different personalities, yet all beautiful just the same. A lovely group filled with people I am proud to call my blogging buddies.

    Well done for rocking the bikini too! We all need to #bemorewitwitwoo.

    Thanks for sharing with #MMBC. x

  5. Paula @MummyVsWork July 23, 2018 / 10:59 am

    Such a lovely post – I did not know Kate but knew of her and I know her death has had a huge impact on so many lives. We always try to conform to what we think people want however what I have learnt over the last few days is we should be ourselves and do what makes us happy.

  6. Tubbs July 23, 2018 / 11:38 am

    I hadn’t come across Kate at all, until the swimsuit shots started appearing on my feed. It’s great she touched so many lives and made a positive impact. Sending hugs to everyone who knew and loved her, particularly her family.

  7. Samantha Donnelly July 25, 2018 / 2:19 pm

    I did not really know Kate that well, I had seen some of her posts and tweets, I was amazed at just how great the blogging community is as my news feeds were taken over with the hashtag x

  8. chickenruby July 26, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    i met Kate only the once, but I’ve been ‘friends’ online for many years, over the past few years though i haven’t really interacted with her, but I’m already missing her face popping up in my timeline #triumphanttales

  9. Jaki July 26, 2018 / 4:54 pm

    It really is such sad news. I didn’t know Kate personally either but we regularly shared a giggle on Twitter. What she has left behind is incredible. Lovely post, Kate, it gave me goosebumps. Thanks for sharing with #TriumphantTales

  10. Rachael July 26, 2018 / 4:56 pm

    I’m so ashamed to say it, but I had no idea who Kate was before last week. I’ve read so many tributes and I was taken by surprise at all the instagram swimsuit selfies and the hashtag – she sounds as if she was an amazing, genuine woman and she’ll be missed by many.

  11. Growing clan July 27, 2018 / 5:11 pm

    I didn’t know her well but she sounds like an amazing lady such a sad loss

  12. Leighanne July 27, 2018 / 5:36 pm

    Such sad news, but i love how our community has all come together to celebrate her life and help support her boys

  13. Eva Katona July 27, 2018 / 8:37 pm

    Awfully young! I didn’t know her at all, until now – I must be honest – as I’m relatively new to blogging. But her legacy is amazing and i’m sure she would have been so proud of the #bemorewitwitwoo movement!

  14. Enda Sheppard July 31, 2018 / 10:48 am

    Lovely post … one can see from the many posts talking about her that Kate was quite somebody. Such a loss. It’s always a risk writing about someone you don’t know well but I think you pitched this beautifully. #Triumphanttales

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