I did not have a clue what title to use when writing this post. I don’t want to get the tone wrong in the slightest way but I do feel I want to say something. If anyone has an issue with this post at all, please let me know and I will take it down. This is a post about swimwear and body confidence. It is also about a very special woman.
Last Sunday, I was outside a bar as France won the World Cup. I felt a little tearful as that day would have been my Dad’s 91st birthday. He died in 2012 so the grief has eased so that I love to think of him and almost always with a smile. We talk of him often as a family and he is very much a part of who we are and what we do.
Monday passed apparently uneventfully (little did we know) and then the blogging world was rocked when we heard the news that the amazing woman Kate behind the blog WitWitWoo has passed away. At first the information did not compute with me – it could not be true. I did not know Kate particularly well but I did know she was so full of life with strength, humour and the warmest of hearts that it seemed impossible that she had died. Of course she was very young too and leaves behind 2 sons and other family members who will miss her desperately I am sure.
Please take a look at this page and if you can help at all financially please do so because you know what, Kate would have done.
The thing about blogging is that when big things happen, you very quickly get to know what bloggers think and feel. We all like the sound of our own words after all or we would not be bloggers in the first place. At the beginning of the week, I had to come offline as there were so many tributes to Kate and the more I read them the more unfair it seemed that such a good woman should be taken too soon.
Kate was not one of my blogging buddies which is why I feel a bit uncomfy writing this post. She had commented on my posts, I had commented on hers from time to time and we had tweeted. What I can tell you is that every time I saw her at a blogging event I used to think to myself “Why can’t I be more like her?” There are some beautiful bloggers with lovely qualities but Kate stood out in every way. She appeared to be permanently smiling or laughing and with gusto too.
Blogging had apparently changed over the years. It felt to me as if the thing had lost a little of its original soul. Connections seemed a little more shallow and bloggers are driving themselves so hard to increase statistics, gain an award or a ranking or make money. There is nothing wrong with those things but I missed the old days when it felt that every blogger was at least a little bit your friend.
Kate passed away and blogging founds its soul again. A Twitter hashtag of #bemorewitwitwoo started up and reminded us to live hugely and with good hearts like Kate did. Even if you are not on Twitter join today and check out that hashtag and you will be saner for it. Lessons are shared with that hashtag that are already changing the world one baby step at a time.
People started living their lives differently. They allowed themselves treats. Mine involved hot chocolate with swirly cream and chocolate sprinkles. They indulged in self-care. I felt a need to nap. They wore make-up if they didn’t normally and if they did, they went bare-faced. I very almost wore red lipstick last night and I never wear make-up. I bottled it but will put that right soon. How incredible that Kate continues to make such a strong impact even after passing away.
Today, people have faced their fears and punched through their own comfort zones to post pictures of themselves in swimwear. Take a look on Instagram again looking for that powerful hashtag and see an array of beauties because we all are you know. It is just that some many of us struggle to feel that.
I don’t know but I can guess that behind those photos are several outtakes that never saw the light of Instagram. How many of gave into negative self-talk tearing our bodies to bits before finally realising that body confidence is a choice or at least increased body confidence is. How liberating to show our true selves wobbles, back fat, mum tums stretch marks and all!
I did not own a bikini so I went to buy one today. I clearly bought a size too small. It went on but there was much boobage escaping out of the sides. I looked at myself, I slated myself and then I had a firm word with myself. We can always do more than we think we can and today I posted myself in a far too small bikini out in the garden. It felt quite liberating.
So a woman called Kate died last week and her legacy is already huge. How amazing is that! She will remain a positive influence in so many lives moving forwards and not just in the area of swimwear and body confidence.
Instead of saying “Why?” let’s say “Why not?” and see what happens.
Rest peacefully Kate and thank you.
Do have any reflections on swimwear and body confidence?