Looking after elderly relatives in your own home is something more of us will be doing as we have an ageing population. As many families struggle with financial pressures, often it makes sense to pool resources and live in a multi-generation household. Whether due to frailty, loneliness or bereavement, many older people would love to live with their loved ones. My advice would be to think about the emotional and practical implications before making life-changing decisions. Honest communication is key along with practical stuff such as deciding if you need to install a stairlift in your home and working out which welfare benefits may be available to your family.

Looking After

Role reversal

There are certain times when it really hits us that we are actually adults. When your parents need you to care for them, you start to realise that you will be doing some of the very things they did for you when you were growing up. Tasks might range from offering a listening ear to more intensive care such as helping with dressing, toileting and personal hygiene. You may have to accompany your parent to medical appointments and ensure they take their medication at the right time.

Juggling it all

The very time when your parent needs to live with you often comes whilst you are bringing up your children and also trying to make a living. It can be a very stressful time and it is vital you recognise yourself as a carer and seek support. You may feel isolated but there are lots of people out there who can help from your local authority to a wide range of charities. It is a sign of strength to say that you need help and to seek it. Only by looking after yourself well can you care effectively for those around you so never think it is selfish to say you need support too.

My experience

When my mother died, I knew I wanted my father to come to live with me. He was adamant that whilst he liked the idea he would need his own personal space. It took me a year to find the perfect accommodation with an annexe attached to the house. We had some amazing years of memories together before he passed away. He had such quality time with his grandchildren treating them, reading to them and laughing with them. In turn, they learned so much from him and treasure their memories of him. I supported Dad as his needs became greater and he was lovely to have around for me too. We had fun trips out together with a regular Tuesday lunch date and also fish and chips on Fridays. He shared stories that he had not told me when my mum was alive. It was a very precious time for all of us.

Things that can help

You can meet other carers in person or online. You can ask your local authority for the assessment of your elderly relative’s care needs and also your support needs. You may be able to claim welfare benefits or to apply for grants. Depending on the individual, your relative may need special equipment which might be anything from mobility aids through to a specially adapted vehicle. Ensure you look into things like Meals on Wheels and laundry collection services that just might make life a little simpler for you all.

I would recommend looking after elderly relatives in your own home wholeheartedly so long as you have the right support in place. Of course, individual circumstances differ but with a little goodwill and imagination, it is possible to live together and thrive in a multi-generation household.


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In a world of dodgy dating apps, Instagram stalking and ‘Netflix & Chill’, it may seem as though romance is dead – but is it really? A 2018 survey by eHarmony involving over 2,000 people found that millennials are the most romantic generation, but it could be possible that this generation simply have different ways of showing their affection. We’ve teamed up with Angelic Diamonds, retailers of bespoke engagement rings, to take an in-depth look at how romantic gestures and displays of love have changed over time.


What is romance?

Your parents or grandparents might sometimes talk about how the first got together – perhaps they went out for dinner, enjoyed a few dates to the cinema or even attended a dance or two together before deciding that they were a couple. There were no dating apps to help start up a conversation and no option to ‘ghost’ someone by not returning their texts — in fact, you might think that it was much more romantic back then. But, the older generation had their dating sites in the form of lonely hearts ads (the first one being published in 1695) and it’s likely that people still had the experience of being stood up. So, maybe it wasn’t that different after all. Perhaps it’s the way that younger people define and recognise romance that makes them seem less affectionate than the generation before them.


A recent survey found that the top five romantic gestures according to British people are:

  1. Hand holding (46%)
  2. Cuddling (44%)
  3. Giving a surprise gift (43%)
  4. A romantic walk (32%)
  5. Giving flowers (31%)

The differences became a lot clearer when different age groups were asked for their thoughts on romantic or chivalrous gestures from history. A huge 93% of over-45s believed there was still a place for them in the 21st century, whereas 37% of 18-24 year olds disagreed. In particular, ordering for someone at a restaurant was frowned upon and taking off a hat when entering a room was also considered outdated.

Romantic gestures by age group

Chivalrous acts from the history books aren’t the only thing causing different generations to disagree when it comes to romance. Studies show that they also express their affection in different ways:

  • 18-24: 90% say that they hold hands when they’re out for a walk, 70% make sure that they go on date nights together, and 68% enjoy making romantic gestures such as writing love notes.
  • 25-34: 79% enjoy making romantic gestures — more than any other generation.
  • 35-44: 15% less likely to go on date nights than older millennials. Holding hands during walks was the most common romantic gesture among this age group.
  • 45-54: less likely to buy their partner small gifts between birthdays and more likely to hold hands during a walk.
  • 55-64: 59% like to go on a date night and 49% enjoy making romantic gestures.
  • 65+: over 50% like to go on date nights and 40% like making romantic gestures. They were the least likely to buy gifts for partners outside of birthdays.

Everyone agreed that it was important to let their other half know how much they mean to them, with 68% of people across all age groups admitting that they say “I love you” daily and 65% kissing on the mouth for a second or two every day.


Showing your romantic side

So, if you’re looking for love yourself, what should you do other than following the typical romantic gestures for your age group?

Don’t be afraid to show your romantic side. One study revealed that 76% of Britons would enjoy having more romance in their lives but 57% said that they didn’t make romantic gestures because they didn’t want to be seen as cheesy! It might depend on where you live, too. If you live in the capital, definitely pull some romance out of the bag to woo your other half — an astounding 86% of Londoners said that they’d appreciate more romance in their lives.

A similar study on 9,000 users of the dating website Zoosk concluded that when users describe themselves as ‘romantic’ in their profiles, their matches increase by more than 24%. When the phrase ‘hopeless romantic’ was said, matches were boosted by 38%.

When deciding on that all-important date location, don’t feel pressured to splash out on the most expensive restaurant to make a good impression. Three-quarters of people surveyed in one study said that ‘snuggling in front of the fireplace’ is the most romantic date, followed by ‘candle-lit dinners’ (58%) and a ‘picnic in the park’ (45%).

As for things to avoid, people voted that mobile phone addiction, in particular at the dinner table (49%), was the biggest passion-killer. Closely followed by bad personal hygiene (45%) and rudeness (33%). So, no Snapchat or Instagram posts over dinner!

As we can see, the definition of romance has changed over time. But, this doesn’t mean that we’re any less romantic in ourselves — we simply have different ways of showing it. So, don’t be afraid to let your soft side show and display some affection.

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A study has concluded that private medical care and medicine is set to boom in emerging nations. The research, which was conducted by Swiss Re, has revealed that state-run services are going to be unlikely to keep up with the demand for premium quality health care. This high level of service is not only going to be demanded by expats but local communities as well.



The Swiss Re study came to some interesting conclusions, with the company predicting that the total expenditure on all types of medical cover, including international health and life insurance, will double within the next seven years in developing nations. In terms of figures, two years ago the total spend was calculated at £24 billion / $36 billion, yet Swiss Re predicts that this will hit £54 billion / $79 billion by 2020 in emerging markets. This expenditure is born from the fact that individuals are now demanding greater levels of quality in terms of health services, which will see private services boom across the entire spectrum, from treatment to medicine.

Over recent years, we have seen many progressions in terms of advanced medical technology, and people are becoming more educated about their health. We demand a better quality of life, and it seems that the majority of us are going to turn to private medical care to achieve this. There is no denying that, for the most part, the public hospitals in emerging nations cannot offer the premium quality medical care we are looking for. While there are some exceptions, people recognise that they will need to turn to the private medical centres if they are to receive the standards they demand. This is something we are willing to pay for, especially in the case of expats who often have to pay for public medical care in any case. Some of the private medical centres in developing countries are truly astonishing, boasting the most up to date technology and equipment, rivalling the main medical centres in Europe.


In terms of the spending on private medical cover, treatment and other related products, Swiss Re predict that the greatest growth will occur in emerging Asia countries, where we can see a rise from £6.4 billion / $ 9.4 billion recorded in 2013 to a predicted £21.6 billion / $31.8 billion in 2020. However, significant increases in spending can be seen across the globe. The market in Africa and the Middle East is predicted to double from £5.3 billion / $7.8 billion to £10.6 billion / $15.6 billion, whereas in Latin America the spending is expected to go from £10.1 billion / $14.9 billion to £17.2 billion / $25.3 million.

This is music to the ears for expats, and it also provides a great opportunity for anyone that is interested in nursing or currently works at a hospital in the UK. By taking a Masters in Nursing Online you could have the opportunity to work in some of the best and most impressive hospitals around the world. Plus, there are likely to be more and more job opportunities that come with this.

As you can see, the picture regarding private medical care and medicine seems very positive to say the least! It is certainly something worth keeping an eye on.

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Blogging is very much a digital endeavour that we all do for many reasons. However, if there’s one universal thing that all bloggers want to achieve, it’s more viewers and more exposure. After all, writing to a crowd of three people is going to get boring eventually, so naturally, you’d want to increase your audience and get more people talking.

There are many ways to do this, but we believe that one of the best ways to get more attention to your blog is to learn a couple of digital skills that can not only help your blog but will also help in many other digital aspects that involve the internet and design in general.

So in this article, we’ll be discussing five skills that we recommend everyone pick up at some point to help boost their blog and their knowledge of digital skills.


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  1. HTML

HTML stands for hypertext markup language and is essentially the programming language used to build websites. With just a notepad file and knowledge of HTML, you could in theory create an entire website. It’s not going to be very safe and the design won’t be as good as a website builder, so why learn HTML?

Simple; because a lot of design elements have technical aspects behind them. Simple things like learning how to create a responsive web design that fits to the device you’re viewing on and optimizing your links and posts can all be done with a little HTML knowledge. HTML classes are incredibly popular among bloggers, and the skills can easily be transferred to a future of web design or technical support as well.

  1. Social Media

While not necessarily a “skill”, learning how to use social media can be one of the best ways to grow your blog. You’ll need to possess excellent communication skills and you also need the drive to engage with readers. Whether it’s responding on social media, creating posts that could potentially go viral or even connecting with influencers, it’s very important to learn to use social media.

Without knowledge of social media, it becomes incredibly difficult to build a faithful audience that you can interact with, so make sure you brush up on your social media marketing skills to grow your audience of readers.

  1. SEO

SEO stands for search engine optimization, one of the most popular strategies to help your website get more attention. Every search engine has an algorithm that they follow in order to rank websites based on their popularity and relevance to a search term. While this system can’t really be gamed anymore due to Google’s methods, there are guidelines that you can follow (published by Google themselves) to give you a better chance of appearing higher on a search.

This is a very technical subject, but it generally involves understanding keywords, optimizing meta descriptions and ensuring that your blog is friendly to mobile devices. Many companies pay third parties to optimize their website for SEO, but with a bit of knowledge and work on your own blog, you could optimize your website for search engines with relative ease.

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What is a cold room is a funny old question to ask. With the decreasing temperatures as we welcome Autumn, many of us may think we have a cold room as we turn up the heating and buy logs for the wood burner. That’s not the sort of cold room I am writing about today. I am talking about industrial cold rooms used by a wide variety of businesses.

What is a cold room?

A cold room is generally found in a catering establishment such as a hotel or restaurant. It is effectively a walk-in cold  room or fridge/freezer to protect foodstuffs or other items.

What to think about when putting in a cold room?

You need to think through your exact requirements. How much space do you have available? What is your budget? Are there any regulations you need to consider?

Every Cooling Solution

Every Cooling Solution supplies and installs walk-in cool rooms. They work with the height and width that you have available. They work with your individual business taking your specific needs into mind.

Other cold room uses

Cold rooms are also used to store pharmaceuticals where health and safety regulations are rightly very strict. The offer clean rooms with panels. Whether food and drink, medicines or in IT and other commercial outlets, cold rooms can be super useful.

It’s a little bit chilly

Walk-in cold rooms range in temperature from minus 40 degrees Centigrade to plus 18 degrees Centigrade. The temperature will depend on whether you are looking for a cold room chiller, frozen or ambient room. That will in turn depend on what you are storing in the room.

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