How to Come To Terms With the Death of a Loved One

Death is an inevitable aspect of life: every living thing has to draw its last breath at some point in its lifetime. Yet despite its profound nature, not everyone is prepared for it, either as a victim, a close friend of the deceased, or a relative of the deceased. It affects everyone related to the deceased in different ways, and they also tend to demonstrate their grief in different manners.

If you have lost someone recently and are having a hard time coping with the loss and grief, this article aims to provide key ways for relatives or friends to come to terms with the loss of a loved one.

Join in Rituals

Engaging in funerals and memorial services can help affected persons come to terms with the demise of a loved one. This is why almost every culture and religion has post-death rituals for friends and families to process their grief. Being in the presence of other people who equally feel the impact of demise can help the deceased’s loved ones gain total closure.

Funerals aren’t the only post-death ritual for processing grief: you can always meet up with common friends you’ve met through a deceased person and reminisce about your friendship to process your grief. There are also other beautiful spiritual ways to deal with a loved one’s death. You can practice this by learning about different cultures.

Emotional Expression

When struck with grief, many people tend to go numb and cannot express their emotions properly. While this is normal, staying in this shocking state for an extended period is bad, regardless of gender. Expression of loss through crying should be encouraged to release pent-up emotions as it’s the most primal and effective way of expressing grief.

Talking about the loss can as well help in this regard. Women tend to be better at talking about their loss than men, making coping much easier for them. Men in this regard tend to bottle up their feelings, which can take a toll on their emotional health in the long run. If you have trouble expressing emotions in these two common ways, seeking therapy can help you a lot.

Processing grief through talking is especially important for children as they tend to be bad at coping with negative emotions and keeping them bottled inside. The death of a favorite grandparent or an uncle can leave a lasting impression in a child’s mind, making it important for them to process it properly.

Preserve Memories

Another beautiful way to come to terms with someone’s death is by preserving their memories by dedicating them to a positive act. Planting trees or establishing a charitable foundation can help victims come to terms with losing a loved one. Giving back to the community in the name of the deceased creates an implicit sense of closure to the individual mourning the loss of a loved one.

Preserving memories doesn’t always have to be a social act; carrying a ring or locket belonging to or being gifted by a deceased loved one is also an excellent way to preserve the memories of a deceased loved one.

Join a Support Group

Joining a support group is another effective way to deal with a loved one’s death. Being part of a support group of people who have also lost a loved one has been a human tradition since the beginning of human civilization. If you’re part of a support group, it becomes easier to console others and be consoled, considering that others are going through a similar situation.

Psychic readings could also serve as a veritable support system for grieving a deceased loved one. These readings need to be made by a genuine psychic as there are a lot of fraudsters and conmen out there trying to make a quick buck out of the grief of others. Support groups usually consist of friends and family members, but they can also include therapists and preachers.

Being Realistic About Grief

No matter what is said, the death of a loved one is always a brutal blow, no matter how old you are. The memories of your loved ones will live through you, and there’s no way they would want you to stagnate in grief after they had passed away. So difficult as it may be, coming to terms with the death of your loved one is the best thing you can do going forward.


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