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Losing someone that you love is one of the most painful experiences in life. Dealing with the loss of anyone in your life is difficult, but when it is a person that you are particularly close to, the loss can be even harder to handle. In the early days after the loss, it is likely that you will be still trying to come to terms with the situation, and make sense of your feelings. It is important not to push yourself to feel a certain way. Instead, it is best to allow your emotions to flow naturally. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve, so it is essential that you don’t add to your pain by putting yourself under pressure to feel a particular way.
In the days after the loss, some people find it helpful to channel their thoughts into providing their loved one with a fitting tribute. Planning a funeral and other tributes to your loved one will allow you to focus on them in a positive way.
If your loved one had discussed their funeral in the past or has already made some of the plans themselves, you will have a pretty clear idea of how the ceremony should be organised. If this isn’t the case, you will need to appoint funeral directors, and they can help you through the planning process.
Bringing truly personal elements into the service makes for a fitting tribute to your loved one and will express the true essence of their personality. To make the funeral truly personal, maybe people could wear clothing in your loved one’s favourite colour, or the flowers that you choose could be their favourite colour.
Try to think about their favourite songs, poems or readings so that you can incorporate these into the service. If you feel able to, you may decide to speak at the ceremony. This is your opportunity to share special memories and anecdotes about your loved one’s life.
If you are having an order of service printed for the funeral, then this is a perfect opportunity to find some of your favourite photos of your loved one to include. You may also choose to have photographs of them printed to display at the wake too if you are hosting one.
Lasting tributes for your loved one are an excellent way to keep their memory alive long after the funeral service. There are many options for creating lasting tributes; you simply need to choose one that you feel is most appropriate.
Benches with plaques commemorating your loved one are a popular choice and can be located in a favourite place that they liked to sit. Legacy jewellery is also increasingly popular, as it enables you always to keep your loved one close to you. Making a charity donation in their name, such as purchasing some hospital equipment, or creating a community garden, means that their name lives on and your donation provides lasting benefit to many people.